In fear of losing my license.

GM2RN · Oct 19, 2016

But he does though. Because even people who imagine themselves as totally intolerant of abuse will look at her and be like "What were you thinking? You made a bad choice. That was a stupid thing to do." Especially the people (people of a different time) that never sent a sext in their life and have no understanding of that type of dynamic.

That's a pretty broad generalization. The old foggies can't possibly understand the younger generation with their newfangled machines! A person doesn't have to have actually participated in an activity to understand its dynamic. I've never sexted before but it's precisely because I DO understand the dynamic and the possible resultant consequences that I can say that sexting can be a poor choice, certainly in this context.

Edited to add: I'm betting that, in hindsight, the OP is wishing that she hadn't sexted with this person, and if she is honest with herself would agree that it was a poor choice under these circumstances.

~Shrek~ · Oct 19, 2016

I think you should talk to your local police department and get some kind of restraining order.

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Oct 19, 2016

Unfortunately, increasing numbers of employers ARE looking at all manners of social media to judge their employees and potential hires. Is it fair or right? Well that is for the reader to decide, but it's a fact. I don't think you will lose your license over this, as it was not a relationship that endangered patients or involved them, nor violated HIPAA. But you may lose your job, if it's discovered. Depends on employer and what specifically, they consider "unsavory".
He sounds sick and like he is stalking you. I would involve law enforcement and tackle it from that end. It sounds like harassment.

This. I was let go from a job (years ago) due to my personal conversation with someone. Yes it was sexual in nature & when my boss found out, wasn't happy. I did it on my own time, with my own device but it doesn't matter. You definitely won't lose your license but your job, that's up to your manager & how they view your actions.

AlwaysLearning247, BSN · Oct 20, 2016

What you do outside of work with someone will not affect you. It's not like it was your coworker or patient. Don't listen to this crazy guy, it sounds like he is going to say anything to scare you because he didn't get what he wanted!

nurseinthezoo · Oct 21, 2016

I think anything posted through a device to the Internet should be something your grandmother would not be embarrassed seeing or reading.

VegGal, BSN, RN · Oct 22, 2016

I didn't even tell him I was a nurse on the actual chat.

If you didn't tell him that you're a nurse, how did he find out, and how does he know where exactly you work? (to be able to send the chat to your manager). If you didn't talk about your employer, or anyone at work, then you could easily deny that you even chatted with the person if he actually did send the chat to your employer. I don't generally suggest lying, however that would be to avoid unnecessary embarrassment to yourself, and hopefully you'll be a little more careful in the future as to who you chat with, i.e. especially if you do tell people that you're a nurse. Sexting in itself isn't a crime, but just leave your job out of it.

Medic/Nurse, BSN, RN · Oct 22, 2016

Is this person over the age of 18?

â€” Are you sure?

Did you have any of this conversation on the "clock" of your employer?

Now, if under 18 or not sure. See a lawyer. Now. This is serious badness.

If it happened on employer's dime, you may have an issue based on policy on device use/time frames. Be prepared. Resignation could be in your future. Being fired is always bad and generally reported to the BON.

Now, practical matters. Screenshot the convo, make a copy of the pics, delete from your device and change you number. Never contact this perv again. If you cross his path, act like you don't know him "you have me confused with someone else" walk to safety, call police, get away. This is a dangerous situation.Period. Safety. Hopefully, your actual address is not available to someone hell bent on hurting you based on sexting.

Good luck.

GM2RN · Oct 22, 2016

If you didn't tell him that you're a nurse, how did he find out, and how does he know where exactly you work? (to be able to send the chat to your manager). If you didn't talk about your employer, or anyone at work, then you could easily deny that you even chatted with the person if he actually did send the chat to your employer. I don't generally suggest lying, however that would be to avoid unnecessary embarrassment to yourself, and hopefully you'll be a little more careful in the future as to who you chat with, i.e. especially if you do tell people that you're a nurse. Sexting in itself isn't a crime, but just leave your job out of it.

If I remember correctly, the OP said that she didn't tell him initially but that later on she did.

Nursynursenurse, ADN, RN · Oct 23, 2016

Are we as nurses not allowed to use our real names or say our occupation when going on a date? I don't know. It would be kind of shady if I couldn't verify my date's identity or if he wouldn't tell me what he does for a living.

GM2RN · Oct 24, 2016

Are we as nurses not allowed to use our real names or say our occupation when going on a date? I don't know. It would be kind of shady if I couldn't verify my date's identity or if he wouldn't tell me what he does for a living.

That wasn't the point at all. The OP originally said that this guy was going to forward her texts to her employer but that she hadn't told him where she worked.

Nursynursenurse, ADN, RN · Oct 24, 2016

That wasn't the point at all. The OP originally said that this guy was going to forward her texts to her employer but that she hadn't told him where she worked.

And people keep telling her that she shouldn't have told him she was a nurse or used her real name which is terrible advice if you want to be a normal human being who is capable of having relationships.

GM2RN · Oct 24, 2016

And people keep telling her that she shouldn't have told him she was a nurse or used her real name which is terrible advice if you want to be a normal human being who is capable of having relationships.

I re-read every post and after 6 pages found exactly 2 where someone suggested that if she was going to sext with strangers she should consider not using her real name. Hardly what I would call "people keep telling her" not to do it, and hardly terrible advice when sexting with a virtual stranger!