I'm quitting today! Finally had enough!

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Well… I need to vent…

I started my job as a delegating RN two years ago. My patients are physically/mentally disabled adults and children. When I started my position, it was a pretty straight forward job- triage, assessments, and supervising/training medication techs. I really enjoyed it! Since I started, the non-profit I work for has expanded A LOT. We ended up increasing nursing caseloads considerably, mine the most. I took on a lot of administrative and management duties that weren't in my original job description, simply because they needed to be done. I like to stay busy, and since I got stuff done, management kept putting more stuff on my plate.

6 months into my current job, I was told I was getting promoted due to all the additional duties they were asking me to do. I was so excited! I finally thought I had found the job for me. It never happened, no matter how many times I inquired about my promotion I was continually told it was in progress.” I was told I would get a review and raise annually, but I never got a single review in over 2 years. I was working for very low pay, and they continued to dump patients and duties on me.

I finally had enough. I told my boss I couldn't take anymore. I was working overtime every week (unpaid, I'm salaried), and something needed to change. Every time I complained, I was told I need to prioritize better” and delegate more work to other nurses who are also overwhelmed and struggling. We joked about striking but there's only 6 nurses in my company- We're not exactly traditional bedside nurses.

This spring I got into nurse practitioner school! I start this fall, and I can't wait. I told my boss in June I needed to discuss how my schedule would change, I was continually blown off. Finally push comes to shove and now I was told they could not make my job more flexible, and that I would have to suck it up and work full time 4 days a week while attending school full time. I asked about hiring another part time nurse to take on some of the stuff I do. I was told there wasn't enough money in the budget for this.

I told my boss no, and gave my one month notice. AN ENTIRE MONTH. My boss told me that this was unfair, that I was going to cause distress to my coworkers, to my already vulnerable patients, because there was no way they would find a nurse and train them to do what I do for such little pay in that amount of time. Apparently, this is my fault. I should have complained more. My boss then asked me to reconsider while she Thinks about what she can do for me”. The same boss that told me my promotion was in the works for 1 year and 6 months.

Why do administrators (In general) think it's acceptable to overwork nurses? Is it our fault because we take this abuse? What has anyone else done when faced with similar problems? How did it work out for you?

Specializes in Oncology, critical care.

Congrats on your acceptance to the NP program! That's exciting!

As for your boss, yikes! Why guilt you for all her problems? Probably because most nurses are nice and will suffer silently so she can bully everyone into doing what she wants. Horrible. I've worked for people like this (one manager I had used to call people at home who were legit sick and bully them into coming in, even though it was a union hospital and she was WAY out of line!). And how is her hiring/training issues your problem? You're not responsible for that, you're leaving! It's her job, not yours. And to refuse to accept your resignation letter? Ugh. Glad HR is on your side.

Onto bigger and better things! Yay!

Specializes in nurseline,med surg, PD.

They abused you because they could. Live and learn from experience.

You're nobody's slave and nobody's work horse. You did a job and did it to the best of your ability for years. You've paid your dues, gave ample notice, and that's all you are required to do, along with leave things in as much order as possible before you walk out the door. They should applaud the fact that you stayed as long as you did. One month notice was a gift, and they should be grateful. You did the right thing. At the end of the day YOU matter. You have to do what's best for you and your peace of mind. Good luck!

Congrats on NP school acceptance!!! :yes: That is your priority now!!

Giving one months notice is very gracious of you especially when it's so undeserved by your management!

I agree with all of the above comments too!

Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

This just gets better. She had to think about your resignation? Like it's another form of vacation and she had to see first if she could schedule it? :roflmao: I've worked for some doozies but this one takes the prize. :no:

Specializes in Registered Nurse.

It didn't take me long to answer that question in my own head...Yes, we probably do take too much and endure it and that's why things don't get better. Plus, there is always a new nurse somewhere that needs a start that will take your job...at least in a lot of cases, that is true. But I don't blame you for leaving....and a lot of "higher ups" will put the blame on YOU, the nurse leaving. I once gave a month's notice minus one day and the person misread my resignation letter as giving the full month (an additional day) and put it on the schedule that way. I thought it was just an oversight, putting me on that day-seeing it on the schedule...and I didn't mention it. Sure enough, they expected me to be there that day and blamed me. haha Can't please everyone! I have often wondered if they tell other employers on job checks that I did not fulfill my expected resignation period. LOL

Specializes in Cardiology, Cardiothoracic Surgical.

This lady's a real piece of work! Burn that bridge if you can and never look back!

If it's any small consolation, I had a jagoff of a manager list me as a 'do not rehire' with the facility when I left my first nursing job several years ago even though I resigned according to policy and had no marks on my record (actually got promoted on the clinical ladder earlier for my performance).

Fortunately my current manager at same facility had some sense and saw through the discrepancy and I've been there almost a year again.

You find another job that works for you and your schedule, you resign and don't look back or think about them for another second. Making you feel guilty for putting in your notice? After working you like a dog without appropriate compensation or help which you have asked them for several times? If that were me I'd have quit that day, but I do have a short fuse these days. You have a good heart and they've done nothing but take advantage of it. A very sincere congratulations to you on getting into your NP program! Now you stay focused on that and don't let ANYONE or anything get in your way.

Specializes in Med Surg/ Pedi, OR.

Trust in yourself and God

Specializes in QA, ID/DD, Correctional, Education.

I have spent a good chunk of my career in this field and unfortunately this attitude is too prevalent. It is especially pronounced when the supervisor/director is not a nurse. I have been told several times but these folks are like our family and it is a privilege to work with them. It is no more a privilege than any other field of nursing. Plus I have learned to establish boundaries through the years and I do not view these folks as my family. They are my patients period. In my opinion that philosophy leads to a culture of no boundaries and unrealistic work loads and expectations for all employees but especially nurses since we have an obligation to speak up when we know we cannot realistically handle a case load and do a good job.

OP you did the right thing. Go pursue your NP and remember in the future that anyone who tries to take advantage of you is not worth you losing any sleep or worry over. Trust me they are not spending any of their precious time worrying about overloading you.

I went into nursing after having worked for 10 years at other types of work. I was horrified at the working conditions. Those around me have thought I was a prima-dona. I never told them I had chronic illness and my days off were often spent, throwing up and in pain with horrible fatigue. and trying to pull myself together to be able to go to work. it is my belief that nursing is stuck in this antiquated framework, where the nurse is basically abused. No where else I have seen that it is crime to want to eat lunch or take a day off. Yes the work gets piled on and yes they give you a salary to not have to pay you and if you complain it is you. Everything that your administrators tried to make you responsible for, was their failure in business skills. Inadequate staffing, promising something for two years. This is not acceptable in the corporate world. I realize it is different because we are in healthcare, but most of us have been overburdened. I also think that the reason the institutions and the administrators get away with this, is because we are mostly women. You should feel no guilt, go be an APN and be happy in your new life.

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