I'm getting terminated from my first nursing job

[Nurseadam]

I have violated a hospital policy, not in patient care or a hippa violation, but I've made a mistake of hooking up with a coworker in the parking lot after work. This ended up to the manager, and we had a meeting with HR, and now I'm on a leave. They claimed it was a sexual act on the company premises and there is witnesses.

I'm devastated, i feel completely retarded and that shouldn't have even happen, but people make mistakes, I'm a hard worker, and now awaiting their decision, there's 90% i'm getting fired because of this.

The thing i'm worried about is what's going to happen if i applied to other jobs, would this affect me at all? is it confidential or what is going to happen?

if anyone has an insight on this will be much appreciated

I apologize, i didn't know where to post this, i'm just stressed out and beating myself everyday for this mistake.

[BrandonLPN, LPN]

If you *have* to use this job as a reference, make sure to find a coworker who will give you a good one. Preferably someone you're on friendly terms with who will have pity.

The reference you list doesn't

necessarily have to be your supervisor. If you have a RN coworker who occasionally acted as charge nurse, you can list him as your boss and, technically, it's not a lie.

I've had several CNAs who have listed me as their supervisor, even though I wasn't. But, me being a nurse and them being a CNA, I could vaugely state they worked under me which is technically true. They left on bad terms with management and made poor choices, but were good people and didn't deserve to be "blacklisted".

Of course, if future prospective employers bypass your references and call HR directly, all this is moot.

Some might say this advice is morally questionable. You're really at the mercy of your current employer if this is the only place you've worked as a nurse. A bad reference can make or break you. You gotta do what you gotta do.

[Mulan]

We don't exist in a vacuum, and some may question whether your judgement or lack of extends to your on duty time.

[Mulan]

Resign or get fired?

What are you going to put as your reason for resigning? Having sex in the parking lot with witnesses?

You could take your chances, maybe you won't get fired and if you do maybe you can collect unemployment.

[Rnandsoccermom]

One thing I have learned over many years is never try and give people ammunition to use against you. Keep your personal life personal.

Good luck.

[BrandonLPN, LPN]

nurses are human too, so stop judging people. I am a patient advocate in the nursing setting, but when i clock off, i do whatever i want, it's no ones business, but i misjudged this and made a huge mistake.

I agree that people shouldn't judge so much. But what you did wasn't really just "your business". By doing it where you did, you made it your employer's business, too.

[BostonFNP, APRN]

Many of my friends and RN colleagues not only m their spouses in the hospital, but *gasp* had relations with them in the hospital. Is it professional? No. Is it the right thing to do? No. Does it happen a the time between nurses, interns, residents, attendings, RTs, PTs, Pharms, etc? Yes.

Provided this person wasn't your boss, your employee, or a patient, really it's not the worst thing in the world, in my opinion. Hope you don't get fired.

If you do, maybe having a little passion in life is worth the consequences.

[BrandonLPN, LPN]

I'm no prude, but having sex in a public place (like a hospital parking lot or a supply closet) is more than just some harmless act of passion. If this happens "all the time" where you work, it must be a very different hospital than the one I worked at.

[hiddencatRN, BSN, RN]

All HR can say if you are fired is that you were terminated and whether or not you're on the do not rehire list. I don't think they are allowed to give out the details of your firing.

They can give out any truthful information they want. Most places have a policy to confirm dates, salary and rehireability though, but that's a facility choice, not a law.

[Mulan]

By the way, what happened to the coworker you hooked up with?

[Nurseadam]

I'm no prude, but having sex in a public place (like a hospital parking lot or a supply closet) is more than just some harmless act of passion. If this happens "all the time" where you work, it must be a very different hospital than the one I worked at.

i never said it happens all the time where i work. it's a mistake, i got it.

[Nurseadam]

i never said it happens all the time where i work. it's a mistake, i got it.

she's in the same boat

[Boog'sCRRN246, RN]

What a leap. I hope you're not trying to group yourself with HIV patients and drug addict patients as those are legitimate conditions. Getting busted for hooking up in a parking lot doesn't spark a lot of compassion in me. Sorry. Hope you learn from your actions and it doesn't affect future employment.

so you must not have compassion for HIV and drug addicts patients then. some of you shouldn't be nurses with all this dumb judgement on people. get out of this thread with your negative energy, im already devastated.