No, I never would assault anybody! Especially not a co-worker! I am not that type of person.
A little about me: I am very laid-back and easy going. I get along with everybody! I jump to help people anytime I can. If I see someone struggling, I offer assistance. I do not sit at the nurse's station playing on my cell phone when there is work that needs done.
Anyway, for the past few weeks, one of my co-workers has been "picking" at me in very subtle ways here and there. But yesterday morning, she acted like a childish brat. And I let her. I didn't acknowledge her behavior because I was busy, I am nonconfrontational and I did not want to get into a shouting match at the nurse's station. She was sitting at the desk with a chart open, I don't know if she was looking through a chart, or writing something. I think she was looking through it. Anyway, the top cover of the chart was lying on top of the mouse and part of the chart was covering the keyboard. She was not on the computer. I needed to log onto the computer to look up some labwork for a patient. I thought I approached her nicely and asked her if I could gain access to the computer for a moment. SHE DID NOT MOVE. AND I KNOW SHE HEARD ME. There was nobody seated beside her, so there was no reason that she could not physically move the chart six inches out of my way. Since she didn't move, I reached under the chart and took the mouse, and gently moved the chart myself so I could gain access to the key board so I could look up my labs. After I put in my passwords and finally was able to gain access, she informs me that the computer across the way is capable of providing me the information I need. I thanked her for the information, because I did not know that.
I finished my work on the computer, which took me three minutes or less. But inside I was fuming. I have been upset this whole weekend because I allowed her to treat me this way. I have always valued and respected this person as a nurse. When I first started here, I was amazed at the report she gave. Thorough, knows her patients, very smart, knows her business. A wonderful nurse. But I no longer have respect for her as a person.
I cannot understand why she would treat me like this. The next time she behaves like this towards me, I WILL pull her aside and ask her what her problem is towards me and how we can squash it. But she will not treat me (or anyone else) like this. Honestly, I do not have time for people like this and I do not have time to feel uncomfortable in the workplace.
I must admit I am afraid if I say something, it will make waves and make things even more uncomfortable for me. I'm afraid she will refuse to witness insulin with me and refuse to witness narcotic wastes with me. If she's childish enough to refuse to move six inches so I can gain access to a computer, she's probably childish enough to do that. She has alot of seniority in the work place over me. I have only been there about 6 months. This workplace is a newer environment for me, and I know she has way more critical care experience than I do. I don't go to work to make friends, but if I make friends at work...it's all good. She probably has friends here. I do not want to talk about her behind her back; I need to tell her to her face that her attitude towards me lately is insulting. And she acted like a brat that day.
Why does she need happy fantasies? As long as she doesn't act on them what's the big deal?
This thread is one if the best active threads right now!
Didn't you know happiness is the best revenge? Why stew over enemies and waste time and energy being unhappy? I truly believe happiness is the best revenge.
Eeeeek you guys are freaking me out!!! Just reading your posts and comments about Stephen kings books is scaring me!! I've never read one of his books, and never will. Yikes it's about 01:30am in my neck of the woods and now ya'll got me thinking of scary things at night :|
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OMG, do NOT read Pet Sematary as the first novel! Too scary! I would suggest Eyes Of The Dragon (I've actually started reading that out loud to my 7-year-old) or if you like genres like Lord of The Rings, you might enjoy the Gunslinger series. For more classic Stephen King, but not too scary, try The Dead Zone.
But if you have the gumption (because it's a HUGE novel), The Stand really is his masterpiece.
Or, for shorter reads, check out Different Seasons. Both The Body (made into the film Stand By Me) and Rita Hayworth and The Shawshank Redemption (the movie adaptation with which we're all familiar) are in that book.
OMG, do NOT read Pet Sematary as the first novel! Too scary! I would suggest Eyes Of The Dragon (I've actually started reading that out loud to my 7-year-old) or if you like genres like Lord of The Rings, you might enjoy the Gunslinger series. For more classic Stephen King, but not too scary, try The Dead Zone.
But if you have the gumption (because it's a HUGE novel), The Stand really is his masterpiece.
Or, for shorter reads, check out Different Seasons. Both The Body (made into the film Stand By Me) and Rita Hayworth and The Shawshank Redemption (the movie adaptation with which we're all familiar) are in that book.
So is Apt Pupil!!! I think.
Stay away from The Gunslinger Series! And Gerald's Game.
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Oh. You guys know Joe Hill is his son? He writes, but not as well as dear old dad.
I thought Heart-Shaped Box was SOOO good and so very scary!
Six Degrees moment....my good friend and coworker - her husband is a writer. I read his first book last summer and really enjoyed it, and I asked him about the fact there was a blurb about the book on the dustcover written by Joe Hill - I asked him how he wrangled that, and he told me that he and Joe Hill (and maybe Owen King too?) were college roommates!
I thought Heart-Shaped Box was SOOO good and so very scary!
Six Degrees moment....my good friend and coworker - her husband is a writer. I read his first book last summer and really enjoyed it, and I asked him about the fact there was a blurb about the book on the dustcover written by Joe Hill - I asked him how he wrangled that, and he told me that he and Joe Hill (and maybe Owen King too?) were college roommates!
Stay away from The Gunslinger Series! And Gerald's Game.
Yes, Apt Pupil is in Different Seasons. That is one of my favorites! I saw the movie based on that story, but no one else I know saw it ! And OMG, Gerald's Game!! Horrifying.
Did you read Delores Claiborne? In that book, Stephen King has a very cool, very brief connection / storyline between Selena St. George and Jessie (sp? the wife in Gerald's Game).
Yes, Apt Pupil is in Different Seasons. That is one of my favorites! I saw the movie based on that story, but no one else I know saw it ! And OMG, Gerald's Game!! Horrifying.
Did you read Delores Claiborne? In that book, Stephen King has a very cool, very brief connection / storyline between Selena St. George and Jessie (sp? the wife in Gerald's Game).
I don't like GG, really. 97 pages to tell us how she made a straw out of a page from a book?
OMG! All this time I thought her name was CracklinKAREN! Jeez I need to get my eyes checked.
So did I, and, apparently, so do I !!
I kept noticing that I would randomly start singing that old Neil Diamond song "Cracklin' Rosie" to myself....and finally realized it was because I'd been on AN & had seen the name (or so I thought) CracklinKAREN !!
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Didn't you know happiness is the best revenge? Why stew over enemies and waste time and energy being unhappy? I truly believe happiness is the best revenge.