I want to curl up in a ball and cry

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I posted earlier this month asking for job advice because I received 2 offers for full time RN positions on my first attempt at finding an RN position out of college. I took a SNF job at a major hospital in my area. The woman in HR told me they would run my information after i was "marked hired" and no news was good news and wait for them to call me. So i did. For 2 weeks. Finally a week before my orientation i heard nothing, so i called. HR said i was never "marked hired" and to talk to the woman who hired me. So i called her. 15 times. Then she called back and said she didn't know what was going on, and would figure it out and call me back. I called another 30 times over the next 2 days. She called back to say her secretary who "marks hired" was on vacation for the week, that HR didn't know, and she would get a hold of the secretary at home and call me back. that was last Thursday. My orientation was the 26th. Never heard back, never got an answer. So i called the job i turned down, and very humbly asked to still be considered for another position on the unit that i applied for that day. So i just keep filling out applications, and trying. I had 2 offers, now i have nothing. AND i wasted 3 weeks. I busted my little butt to pass my boards before the rest of my class did so i wouldn't be competing with 70 other new grads for jobs.. and now i am.

I want to curl up in a ball and cry.

Specializes in Geriatrics.
Obviously i need to make a couple things clear.I first had an interview with HR where I answered some questions, and went over salary, raises, insurance, benefits etc etc.

Honestly, i didn't misunderstand anything. For whatever reason, I never got marked as hired in the system, and because of that the job was given to someone else. I would like to know exactly what happened, but i know i most likely never will.

OP, something like this happened to me. Went on interview, got call from manager, I called manager back (nurse), but she never returned my call after calling me! To this day never found out what happened, she could have at leased left a voice message...

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I would send a letter and very politely thank them for interviewing you and taking the time to go over all the paperwork with you and say that you were under the impression that you had a job offer, etc, you are still very interested in working there and would love the opportunity to interview again or be considered for any other position they may have available.

You have every right to be confused and PO'd about this! Sorry that happened to you.

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I just want to add also that I don't think it's awkward to ask for a formal offer letter next time and you don't have to be apologetic or explain a reason about it. All you have to say is "thank you so much for your offer of employment...I am very excited...I know its a great fit. Could you please put that in a formal offer letter for me?

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Don't beat up on yourself. You did nothing wrong. This sort of thing happens. You know what they say about the best laid plans. Actual job offers get rescinded or other mishaps happen more often than we would like to admit. Just chalk it up to being part of the process. This time, when you start out, put on a more sturdy cover to your emotional health. You will need to be strong even after you land the job. Good luck.

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I am so sorry this happened to you! I am a new grad too applying for jobs, and I was told I would have one before I graduated because I was a patient at the hospital for 18 years and I volunteered there faithfully and that when they posted the app for the jan. intern to apply and call in to let them know. Well I got called and was told sorry, because of the budget cuts we won't be offering the internships anymore, and you have to have at least a year of experience to be hired in here. lol. Story of my life.

Im okay. It never phased me, because I know that my future job is out the somewhere.

Finding a job is kind of like finding a husband or wife. hahaha! :D

Hope that made you laugh! Don't give up hope! :)

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It must also be noted that even a formal, written offer of employment is no certain guarantee that you'll start the job as offered. Things can happen and they can rescind the offer at any time for any reason (often budget or internal politics).

You don't have the job for certain until the moment you're on the clock.

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If this is how disorganized they are trying to get someone in the door, this is not a place you want to work. Imagine trying to get an incorrect paycheck fixed, or put in for a vacation. Run like heck away from this place and I promise, you will find a better place to work! Everything happens for a reason.

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That's when i started calling. I did not leave 30 messages. I was just calling to try and catch her in her office, because I'm not sure how often she checks her messages. Also I only left 1 message a day. When i worked for the criminal background check office people would often call me a million times a day when i was busy and not returning calls like i should have been, i never thought they were crazy, just persistent, and more on top of there job then i was at the time.

If she has caller ID in her office, she may have seen that you called so often, and it may have been very off-putting. I would avoid doing that in the future. Not everyone would see it as being "on top" of things to call so many times.

Sorry this happened. I'm sure you'll bounce back.

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Specializes in geriatrics.

Agreed to ensuring you have some sort of written contract or document from the employer that states you're hired. I wouldn't trust anything else. Anyone can retract a verbal offer, or it becomes "he said/ she said", as in this situation. Lesson learned. Hopefully, OP, you will land something else very soon :)

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I think the manager knows you've been trying to reach her. Here's the problem: she may be a nurse, but not fit for management. Unfortunately this is way too common in our biz.

IMHO, something fouled up, she knows it did, but doesn't give a rat's behind how unprofessional she appears by just letting you drop as she just moves on without tying up loose ends in her business dealings with you. Sometimes it's just a very childish selfishness going on here evidenced by ignoring your attempts to contact her. All she had to do was either email you or give you a buzz and explain. Time for her to take a little responsibility, yes for herself and as a manager for her company, even if it is admitting to poor practice, and making an apology.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

I have always asked for job offers in writing and have always asked for 24 hours to "talk it over with my husband". I have never had a problem securing either one.

"Could I get the offer in the form of a letter so that I can discuss it with my husband, and then I will give you a call by 5 PM tomorrow?"

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