I was told last month I would be frst cancel on Christmas Day by my boss. well here is Christmas Day and I wasn't cancelled.
instead someone else was cancelled, who is the "pet' & she has NO kids, and has not worked ANY holiday time as of yet, and is not scheduled for anymore. (sorry for the run-on sentences)
I was scheduled for Christmas Day and New Year's Day.
I am more upset about the bold face lie.
Day's like today make me feel like changing my career all together!
I have always done PRN, up until this year. I took a full time position, and I am now regretting it!
Maybe approach this as a misunderstanding. Presenting a case where you feel you have been lied to will make the situation unlivable. I'v found that people tend to use the word "lied" loosly and apply it to anytime they dont get what they thought they were told. Not nessicarily a lie, maybe circumstances changed.
Maybe be a change agent and suggest a every other holiday schedule. We also are given first opportunity for shift cancellation if we have benefit time to be used. Use benefit time for shift cancellation and that throws us to the top of the list without regard to who may have asked for it first. They will do about anything to get that off the books before the end of the year. It works pretty well and very few upsets when people are clear about the rules. Ya run out of benefit time and you go on the list and take your chances if it is your turn to work.
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Originally posted by psychrn03
was not the case this time. I hope at least you had a good night.
caroladybelle said:
And what does having kids have to do with whether one gets Christmas off or not?
I have no kids of my own (that I know of), but logic tells me that spending Christmas with your children, watching their heart and eyes filled with joy as they open their new barbie or red fire truck (dammit I always wanted a nice new red fire truck) might be a little more special than spending it under many other circumstances. But of course, I could be way off base.
Don't get me wrong, I do see what you are saying, but I can see why the other person is upset as well.
Sure-kids are special...But becoming a parent is an entirely voluntary thing and while it does entitle you to a tax break it should not effect your oligations at your work...And being childless does not mean you should work every Christmas......I have taught my son that the holiday is about being with your loved ones-it is not a certain day and minute in time...-we have had Christmas on the 24th,the 25 and the 26th...
wow! have i been in your shoes, and, yes, it does make you see red to be lied to. i do believe supervisors lie, and do it without caring about the feelings of those they are lieing to. there was a time when the nm cared about being look to as honest, fair, had good management skills, and was supportative of her staff. i do not find that holds true anymore. bonus comes to my mind. i would speak to her about your feeling of being treated unfairly, do not use the word lie, it will put her on the defensive, and nothing will be accomplished. a suggestion to rotate holidays, no matter the seniority, could be addressed too. i have been in your shoes, so don't be surprised if the "pet" retaliates against you in the future. i hope the new year brings about a change for you to the better in the work environment.
Wow! you are sure mad. And maybe I would be too. You need to clear the air. And you need to do it without showing all this poision.
It has been said there maybe a legitament reason that you are not aware of. Yes, we heard you. You believe there is none.
That does not mean it does not exits.
The supervisor may not be able to tell you the reason without violating privacy.
Now you need to bring it to the supervisor's attention that you feel slighted and are wondering what happened. Tell her it feels like she favors this other person. Let her know you are disappointed. Let her know that you feel you were lied to. If you can do this with an open mind and a willingness to really listen you might learn the truth.
At the least this manager will either apologize and or be aware that she needs to fix this and make it up to you.
If you handle this badly you may cut your own throat in the end.
Sounds to me as though there are really several threads going on here. And I do have to mention that I agree having kids should mean nothing one way or the other when it comes to cancelling or any other facet of the job. When I was single people expected me to take up the mandatory overtime or stay because I had no kids..Well, I did continue to have a life...Some supervisors and managers do lie, or promise things they know they either can't or won't deliver...Having taken a management course that didn't overtly say but did convertly encourage that, I know it to be true..They will also tend toward doing such things to the people they figure or know won't question or confront them..I hope this experience teaches you to fight for the next time it occurs, and you are able to perfect your confrontational and assertive skills..I think this won't happen again...And, I think expressions of opinion may be negative to the question at hand but there are two parts of any discussion, the negative and positive....One shouldn't pose a question and not expect some people to disagree....I feel badly for this poster, but I surely understand how and why it may have happened....And, as a mom of four who has been through the "but I have kids thing" when single, I do feel that holidays need to be meted out fairly, period..
You have every right to be upset. You're not complaining about the fact you had to work the holiday.
You are complaining about the fact that you were lied to. You were told you would be first cancel and someone was canceled and it wasn't you.
I would be angry too. Ask your boss next time you see her/him why that happened and let her know you are angry. Might make it easier for you to "get over it".
Sure-kids are special...But becoming a parent is an entirely voluntary thing and while it does entitle you to a tax break it should not effect your oligations at your work...And being childless does not mean you should work every Christmas......I have taught my son that the holiday is about being with your loved ones-it is not a certain day and minute in time...-we have had Christmas on the 24th,the 25 and the 26th...
Great post, and to my surprise, it was written by a parent!
You have a great sense of fairness ktwlpn.
BTW, I am a childfree nurse who has worked ten out of the last 12 Christimases, among many other holidays. Ten years without Christmas off is a loooooong time.
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Maybe approach this as a misunderstanding. Presenting a case where you feel you have been lied to will make the situation unlivable. I'v found that people tend to use the word "lied" loosly and apply it to anytime they dont get what they thought they were told. Not nessicarily a lie, maybe circumstances changed.
Maybe be a change agent and suggest a every other holiday schedule. We also are given first opportunity for shift cancellation if we have benefit time to be used. Use benefit time for shift cancellation and that throws us to the top of the list without regard to who may have asked for it first. They will do about anything to get that off the books before the end of the year. It works pretty well and very few upsets when people are clear about the rules. Ya run out of benefit time and you go on the list and take your chances if it is your turn to work.