I think Ive met that ONE person....

CRNI-ICU20 · Jun 21, 2007

Either they are completely deaf in both ears, or they have not been taught the simple courtesy and proper etiquette of responding to a greeting.

Consider that this person was not brought up in a home that practiced good manners. YOU obviously understand all to well, the importance of good social interaction and developing good working relationships with your co-workers. You are not responsible for someone else's reaction toward you. Therefore, do not take upon yourself feelings of "badness" because THEY lack good manners. This isn't yours to own....move beyond and above the toxicity, and engage those who are truly and genuinely reciprocal in their friendliness. People who cannot even treat another with basic respect aren't worth your time, let alone your grief about it.....blow it away like the seeds of a dandelion .....give it to the wind....

crni

kris rn · Jun 21, 2007

I understand how you feel, I don't understand how people can just ignore someone that is being nice to them. You need to learn to blow it off and just don't go out of your way next time to say hello to that person.

**RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN** · Jun 21, 2007

I agree with CRNI's post!

preciousbaby621 · Jun 21, 2007

Don't let it get to you. I had a co-worker who was the same way, and I hated her for being so rude. Then, I was assigned to work next to her. Like, literally, right next to her. Soon, we became friends! Weird, huh?

Dolce, RN · Jun 21, 2007

Try to blow it off if you can. Some people have very poor social skills and don't even realize how rude their behavior is. Other people are so consumed with themselves that they don't pay attention to the feelings of others around them. Other people are going through something at home that is extremely traumatic (divorce, loss of a loved one, illness, financial problems) and they tune out everything possible.

Its funny though...often people that I get really negative first impressions from become my closest friends. On the opposite side, people who are initially really nice and positive don't always turn out to be so friendly after you get to know them. I usually try to give someone the benefit of the doubt for a little while before I jump to conclusions about them.

**canoehead, BSN, RN** · Jun 21, 2007

At least they are jerky upfront, and not sneaky about it. There's always one and it stinks if you become friends with them before they show their true colors.

TRUENURSE84, ASN, RN · Jun 21, 2007

maybe her mind is preoccupaid with other thoughts , some people are just absent-minded

miss arron · Jun 21, 2007

maybe she/he's just slow to warm up to people... i know i am

i would at least say hi though...

Tangerine Lipgloss · Jun 21, 2007

"Its funny though...often people that I get really negative first impressions from become my closest friends. On the opposite side, people who are initially really nice and positive don't always turn out to be so friendly after you get to know them. I usually try to give someone the benefit of the doubt for a little while before I jump to conclusions about them."

That's happened to me too.

Super Nurf · Jun 21, 2007

It takes all kinds of people to make a world. What I've done in my career is if I find that I just can't get along with someone, I am super duper nice to them, and it's amazing how most of them respond to it and do a 180 and are then nice to me. Some people just have no or very few social skills. How they end up in such a people related field of work, I'll always wonder about.

I too used to take it personally, I don't anymore, though it's taken me a number of years to figure it out. It's not my problem. As long as I am pleasant and do what I need to do, the rest is all their issue, not mine.

grace90, LPN, LVN · Jun 21, 2007

"Its funny though...often people that I get really negative first impressions from become my closest friends. On the opposite side, people who are initially really nice and positive don't always turn out to be so friendly after you get to know them. I usually try to give someone the benefit of the doubt for a little while before I jump to conclusions about them."
That's happened to me too.

Ditto to me, too.

Sometimes when I'm walking, I may not hear somebody say "Hi" because I'm pre-occupied or replaying in my head the conversation I just had with a doc or whoever or chewing myself out for something I could have done better.