I may lose my hubby

[NannaNurse]

My husband, who is in the Navy Reserve, came in from drill today with 'new uniforms'.........desert gear.......as in Kuwait......as in being gone for a couple of years!!!!!! OHG, I can't keep the tears away!! I've been a military wife for many, many years. (my ex was a Colonel), but the thought of my 'teddy bear' having to leave is just about to kill me.

I love him more than anything and spending more than a couple of days apart drives both of us nuts!! We've been married for almost 5 years and STILL on our honeymoon....no fights....yet.....

ARe there any other military wives out there who may lose their hubby's???? I'm in desperate need of a cyber hug about now....

[mario_ragucci]

This is where you really get to love your hubby. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! You've been through this before. And E-mail. My cousin is there now and they don't receive stuff like mail and care packages when actually deployed. Not like the old days when you could receive things in the mail when you were half-way across the world. Don't worry so much. Be strong and steady for your hubby. Hubby don't want to see wifey all broke up. What your hubby is doing makes us all proud.

[LoisJean]

I am a military Mom. My Son is career Army. Staff Sergeant Special Forces. He will be going soon enough, too. It is his job. He actively served in the Gulf War and saw his share of horror in Bosnia. There wasn't a day when my heart wasn't aching for him. There were many times when my mind would wrap itself around the thought of 'losing' him- I came to remember the time when his father was in Nam--and recalled how that man was 'lost' to us all when he returned from that terrible war.

Your husband is serving his country and doing his job as a professional military man. Like my son, your husband joined the service during peace time--he took an oath to defend and protect...he is bound by honor to follow the orders given by his Commander in Chief. If you can't be brave, be proud. If you can't be proud, be quiet. He needs your support more than anything. He needs to know that you can carry on with your life after he leaves because when he gets to where it is that he's going, he will not be able to afford the luxury of continually worrying about your welfare and whether or not you are flying apart at the seams.

He and you cannot know that "a couple of years" is going to be the length of his stay.....no one-not even our President can know that at this point. Your husband is being prepped....until he gets orders to go, he's not going anywhere.

Keep close to other military wives.

My best to you- and Peace,

Lois Jean

[renerian, BSN, RN]

Wow LoisJean very well put.

renerian

[RRMLPN]

big hugs to you and you and your hubby will be in our prayers.

[nurs4kids]

Nana,

My heart goes out to you. I have a nephew in the Marines and shudder each time I hear the word "deployment". Feel free to pm or email me for any needed support.

I'm confused. I thought they sent the active enlisted FIRST, then tapped into the reserves?? (obviously, I'm not real familiar with military procedure..dad was in Army, but out by the time I came along)

(((((((((nananurse))))))

[jemb]

(((((((Nannanurse & Hubby))))))))))))

[BMS4]

Nurs4kids, they send reservists first, then active duty units. Not sure why, but I think the reasoning is that AD personnel are already filling positions and it would be cost effective to leave them in place and fill the deployment positions with reservists.

[MidwifeWannaB]

I will be praying for you, NannaNurse. I know how it feels to love someone and be so fearful of losing them. My ex was in a bad car wreck that totaled his truck 2 months after we started dating. He wasn't hurt badly, praise God, but it was scary. I just thank the Lord every day that my current guy has chronic asthma and so will never have to go to war. I decided a long time ago that if war breaks out, I'm scooping him up and we're moving to Canada! :)

Seriously though, if you're a praying woman, do a bunch of it right now.

I'll be thinking of you! Keep us up to date on any developments!

aimee

[ZORYA]

Losing your hubby is always a hard thing to deal with You will be confused and lost without him, because you won't know what to do w'yourself while he's gone...(and I speak from experience....My husband was sent to Diego Garcia, a tiny little island in the middle of the Indian Ocean for 18 mos. It was awful, but it made me stronger....My advice is to throw yourself into work and other pursuits...Make a plan on how and when you guys will communicate, and above all else, be supportive of him...It's hard for both of you, but in a lot of ways, it's harder for the person left behind to keep the ball rolling...Anyway, best of luck to you, and I will keep thinking of you, k??

[mother/babyRN, RN]

I am so sorry that you have to go through this, but you will be ok...My husband used to have to be away at sea for a long while, but as lonely as it could and did get, I kept myself busy...Now a days I know it must be even more difficult with impending war, but at least now they have email that can keep you in touch. We didn't have that option.....Hugs for you and your hubby.....

[deespoohbear]

I am not a military wife either, so I can't even begin to understand what you must feeling. Hang in there!! Come and talk with us anytime. I know we can't take away your loneliness, but maybe we can take a little edge off.....:kiss

[whipping girl in 07, RN]

My husband just got out of the reserves a few years ago, and I remember how hard it was for us to be apart when he was in basic training and AIT for six months when we'd only been married for a year. Looking back, I don't know how we made it. For the past few years, he's worked a job where he's been out of town and on the road a lot and I always feared for his safety. Our son has kept me from being lonely, though. I understand how you are feeling right now, and I hope everything works out for the best. One of my friends from high school is going active duty this month and I do hope he doesn't get deployed. I will keep you in my prayers.