I love management!!.....not

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Found out yesterday that my dad has stage 3 oral cancer. Will have to have surgery in the next 2 weeks with chemo and radiation for 3 months. Will have to have a feeding tube for supplemental nutrition with any treatment and is refusing the tube completely so he wants no treatment and let it ride. He is healthy person for the most part, active and is a school teacher. So i am NOT taking this very well, i am a daddy's girl, very close :crying2:. But i am also a nurse and 100% respect his wishes. Call HR to get FMLA, notified my manager and guess what she said....... 'dont mess with my scheduling. we are already short staffed.' ummm....duh!!! why do u think i work some weekends and overtime since february!!! wasn't looking for a pity party! I came in the night my mom had a massive heart attack and i didnt complain!!! just venting....but when i get approved for FMLA here in the next few days, no one can say/do anything to me. my job is secure for now ;)

Specializes in Home Health.

Sounds almost as bad as a hospital I used to work for. A nurse had a miscarriage on her weekend to work and she was told she had to make the weekend up. I think it was about this time when I started becoming fed up with nursing and how it's own was treated. Very sad.

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Specializes in Home Health.
wow, I thought nurses were supposed to be caring. take care of your daddy and then when you're ready, go look for another job.

Nurses in management don't have to be caring, they have to be managers. Interesting that managers in business field are much more compassionate toward employees in need.

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wow, I thought nurses were supposed to be caring. take care of your daddy and then when you're ready, go look for another job.

Yeah, that's the stereotype...and I think most are. Management involves other issues- not actual direct patient care (so no need for a smiling face in front of patients and 'implied' caring), and there's no "nice" requirement in management - lol . But this is just cruel. I understand staffing- btdt...FMLA is a right- and has safeguards to help avoid fraud (which this obviously isn't).... The human side of the nurse (with all of the flaws) tends to be more overt in mgmt (and before I get flamed, I've been in mgmt :)). It's a whole different set of responsibilities - but common sense SHOULD kick in with an ill family member (not talking a little boo boo- but either life threatening, or life altering situations). :)

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Specializes in RN, BSN, CHDN.

That i.s just horrible what has happened to you and to your father I am sorry!

Management just sucks sometimes

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Sometimes in the stress of trying to manage a unit they forget we are human beings with real life problems and say the wrong thing. Your manager isn't a jerk, just another stressed out nurse trying to get through the day. Surely in her/his heart of hearts they understand.

All the best.

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Specializes in Medical Surgical.

Don't assume management either understands or cares. I worked on a floor with a nurse whose mother was being buried that day. The "leadership" gave her 3 hours off to attend the funeral, in the middle of her shift, and she had to come right back to work.

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Specializes in i pull sheaths :).

thanks guys for all the happy thoughts. finally convinced dad to at least have the surgery so he will have that in a couple a weeks but still no radiation or chemo. and it has spread so now he technically has stage 4 oral cancer. management has not really said anything to me. my interim manager hasn't been here because her sister has cancer (go figure, right?) do have a question though....i have been told by my co-workers not to tell the nurses at the hospital where my dad is going to be that i am a nurse because he won't receive good care. I think that is bogus, honestly. do u tell others that u r nurses when ur family members are patients?

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Specializes in Neuro ICU and Med Surg.
Don't assume management either understands or cares. I worked on a floor with a nurse whose mother was being buried that day. The "leadership" gave her 3 hours off to attend the funeral, in the middle of her shift, and she had to come right back to work.

That is just appalling.

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Specializes in ICU.
Your boss is a jerk. No wonder she can't keep staff.

And anyone here who thinks you are winning points by picking up shifts - you're not. It's a business. They don't care. They don't care if you neglect your family, if you miss yet another Christmas, if your husband is ready to divorce you because you're so crabby from work abuse - they don't care.

Family comes first. Take care of your dad and don't spend another second worrying about work.

couldn't have said it better myself.

I had compassion for my staff as a manager. I couldn never imagine saying to someone what was told to you in your situation.

Then the one who replaced me I have been told is a total as$. And guess what. 6 excellent nurses resigned.

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