Please disregard any grammar errors or disorganization in this post. I really am having a hard time staying focused and concentrating right now and I am just writing whatever comes to mind..Really!....:uhoh21:
I believed that I was lucky for several reasons.
I am the first one in my family to attend college and I am at one of the best schools and nursing programs in NJ.
I was doing well in Med Surg
I am working as a nursing aids in one of the best hospitals in South Jersey.
Until last week... I failed my first Med Surg exam--- 65 %... I had to retake it and this time it was 10 open-ended question--- which I thought I did well on. I just found out today, on the day of my Med Surg final ( which I know I would have done well on), that I failed the retake... :crying2::crying2: . So know I can't take the final a will fail the course. What really sucks is that I actually know the material, but I made very silly mistakes.:smackingf:smackingf:banghead::banghead:Plus I still have a Mental Health Nursing final in two days.
So what do I do now!!!!!!!??????
I'm thinking of switching my major to Psychology and after graduation, going into the accelerated nursing program at UMDNJ.
I am sooo shocked, sad and depressed---- I can't even cry anymore. I kind of feel numb.
I've been through sooo much in this nursing program and now its all over with only one more year left until graduation. C/O 2012.
I feel like I let myself, my family, my mentor, and my whole city of Camden down...
I just don't know what to do.When I am going through a rough time, I usually turn to religion, but I deconverted from Christianity last year and am now an atheist. I am actulay still going through the grieving process of deconversion and so I am even more depressed because I feel like I have no support system.
I really want to be a nurse and I know I will be a nurse:redbeathe:redbeathe:nurse::redbeathe:redbeathe.. I'll do what ever it takes.I guess it's just gonna take longer right ???
Oh and I have a Mental Health Nursing Final in less than two days and now I am having a hard time focusing on studying for that.
-Can someone cheer me up
-Give me some advice
-Tell me how to stay focused for this last final
-How to cope without religiously or family support
Also try and ignore any remarks about religion and being an atheist. You're saying you are going through a lot of stress over failing med surg and that you're an atheist, yet people ignore it and give you the "god loves you!" and "just pray!" anyway. It feels like nobody listened to what you just said, right? You can do this on your own, if you pick up and rebuild as best you can with the help of your school advisor. No religion needed!
Remember, God... I mean... your school advisor loves you! They always have and will continue to love you no matter what!
You seem to have two issues going on; you have lost your faith and you are not passing a class.
On the first point you didn't lose your religion, it lost you. For whatever reason you realized that it is a belief system that is inadequate. If you lament the choice, then go back. You should only feel bad if you believe you are "turning your back" on a god. Do you miss Santa? No. because you realize that the belief structure is faulty. You are not hurting anyone by being an atheist, especially not a god. Now you have to find a point to place value and that is difficult. With no intelligent designer there really is no purposeful meaning to life. That's okay. It is now your personal journey to assign your life value. Lucky.
Second point. You failed a class and now you have to figure out what the protocol is for retaking the class. Simple. Time is lost but you should be able to build on what you have learned and pass next time.
DON'T switch to psychology. That degree doesn't lead to job without at least graduate school. Leaving now and returning for an accelerated degree would be the biggest waste of time. Even if you have to repeat a whole semester it would be better to finish your BSN.
like others have said, find out the protocol for trying to re-take a class. at my school, you are allowed to re-take one class. it is a long process to do a remediation packet, and then wait to see if there are any open spots, but it would be worth it.
don't give up. i saw this quote the other day that said "the road to success is always under construction." cheesy, but so true!
i agree on not switching to psychology unless you have an exact plan on what you will be able to/want to do with the degree. my sister, and several people in my nursing program have psychology degrees and are back in school for nursing.
also, don't switch because your heart is truly set on being a nurse. admitting to failure is hard for anyone to do, but i think it will be worth it to you in the end :redpinkhe
and the mental health nursing, i just took my final yesterday and it sucked. do you have access to the Evolve website? there are a lot of HESI practice questions on there. i highly suggest reading the rationales. or if you have an nclex book with a psych section, i would read the rationales.
You're saying you are going through a lot of stress over failing med surg and that you're an atheist, yet people ignore it and give you the "god loves you!" and "just pray!" anyway. It feels like nobody listened to what you just said, right? You can do this on your own, if you pick up and rebuild as best you can with the help of your school advisor. No religion needed!
No offence, but I could be the most atheist of you all. I come from an atheist family, country, and people. I do not think I remember anyone with specific religion in my family nor friends. However, at difficult times all these atheist family, friends, and I find ways to come to something powerful that does not have name nor specific descriptions. In such times, if your soul wants to prey, chant, or tell your grief, it is good. People might not ignoring what she wrote, but reading her message well. If spirituality was not really important like for me, she would not bring it up.
I Thanks for the advice everyone!:heartbeat:heartbeat Can't retake the class, because I had to retake one already. The nursing department told me if I fail again I am completely DONE and no more chances.I've been through that reapplying process already I can't reapply or write a letter to the committee asking them to let me retake the class. That is why I was thinking about switching to Psychology and then applying for an accelerated Nursing program for people who already have their Bachelors. Plus I want to pick a major that I can be complete quickly because I have been at my school for a while I originally was suppose to be the C/O of 2011 and then I became the C/O 2012 and I can't afford to be here another two years.
Specializes in Med/ Surg/ Telemetry, Public Health.
Like everyone said don't give up. Been there done that I was in the PN program last year and I failed fundamentals by a .5 I had to make a 80 by the end I made a 79.5 and my school doesn/t round grades. I cried for weeks, I was devastated, but you know what one day I told my self to suck it because you can't cry over spoiled milk. I went back completed my mico and this summer I will be taking my math 110 college algebra to apply to the ADN program. Most schools give you at least two tries. so keep your head up and know and believe that when you go back you will make it tothe end. Also you need to evaluate what caused you to fail and see where or what you can improve upon. If it is your passion to be a nurse then pray and ask God for his guidance. Good luck and the sky is the limit.
Hi girl :), I remember couple of years ago I was working as a nursing student;i failed one of the components in the science unit; the feeling was not good at all. I went to work next day desperately seeking to talk to someone for some comfort; while showering my young patient who had recently lost her both legs; she noticed me looking sad and asked me; I told her the story and you know what she told me jersygirl, "she said she would anyday fail hundreds of nursinng courses but never want to loose her legs....and she also told me dont loose sight and your goal", and your goal jersygirl is to become a nurse. Rest but dont quit. Talk to your loved ones for support; they will never judge you.
Don't give up!!!!!!!! I was there at the end of Fall 2010 semester, I failed patho by .88% got a 74.12% I wanted to cry and was convinced I was just going to finish my degree in anthropology (only needed one class to graduate then). However, I got some advice from a great person who told me not to give up and to get back in there and finish. Told me that this does not mean you will be a horrible nurse and it happens. I took his advice and went that afternoon and applied for re-enrollment for Spring 2011. And I'm happy to say that I passed :D:D moving on to clinicals starting on the 9th. Go see what your school policy is for re-taking a class. As for your mental health final I know its easier said than done but focus on it and pass that way you just have to retake one class. I have faith you will reach your goal!!!!!!!!!!! :) Good luck!
Specializes in Med/ Surg/ Telemetry, Public Health.
I am sorry I didn't read the part where you said you were a atheist. It doesn't matter if you are or not if you don't study and make the grade that is on that person. Because I use to say God help me but how could I pass the test when I didn't give studying a hundred percent. When I was in the PN program I studied but not the right way and also I was stressed out had other things on my mind, but I didnt realize that until after I was out the program. All anyone can do is learn from their mistakes and do better the next time.
im suprised knowone has mentioned the online program at Excelsior? I believe if you have SOME nursing school done, you can transfer it and pursue their ADN degree...something to consider...
You are now grieving two losses. There is no need to throw out the proverbial "baby with the bathwater." For example, what part of your past religious views were comforting? Did you enjoy the silence of a past place of worship? The sense of community? The routine in times of stress? The "someone to talk to" aspect? Find the part that comforted you and rebuild it. For example, if you enjoyed your past quiet prayer time, maybe now you could quietly reflect/meditate. If it was the sense of community, find new support. For some reason I feel that your mention of your sense of loss over your former religion indicates that this area may not be fully healed for you; it seems you feel very isolated right now. It's good that you are reaching out. Talk to others as needed. Give yourself time & permission to grieve. When ready, go to your med/surg instructor for input on what might have gone wrong. Haul in any notes/study guides so the instructor can see what you focused on. And in any case, best of luck.
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:banghead:Plus I still have a Mental Health Nursing final in two days.
:D:D moving on to clinicals starting on the 9th. Go see what your school policy is for re-taking a class. As for your mental health final I know its easier said than done but focus on it and pass that way you just have to retake one class. I have faith you will reach your goal!!!!!!!!!!! 
:) Good luck!
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Remember, God... I mean... your school advisor loves you! They always have and will continue to love you no matter what!