I hate nursing

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I may get yelled at or get the usual "find another profession" comments. But I have to say it.. are there any LPN's who love their job? I have been a LPN for 12 yrs and i have hated every moment of it. I noticed that Im subjected to nursing homes, abuse clinics peds and home health. I moved from up north only to relocated to florida and get paid far less for a job that is worse. Never wanted to be a nurse it was a family trait. All the women in my family are nurses. I have no life no husband no kids and i spend almost every day at a place i hate. I have been working on my RN and at this point I dont feel like its worth it. I have tried hospitals and I have tried other avenues. I left the profession only to return and realize you can leave the job but you will NEVER stop being a nurse. So Im not sure what to do is my RN worth it or will I be just as miserable? I was never a smoker I find my self smoking and unable to sleep. I cry before work every day and get a upset stomach before my shift. and this is at every nursing job i held. Im sorry if this sounds negative or sad or just complaining. i know the senior nurses are gonna read me my rights. But I need to know if anyone feels the same way?

Additional info: I was recently attacked by a patients husband during a home healthcare assignment. I have anxiety PTSD and really just dont like or trust people any more nursing has been nothing but sad experiences for me. My friends and family im sure are tired of my complaints and most people say " just leave" they will never understand....you dont just leave nursing its in you.

Wow sour lemon! U really are sour! Who did this too you jeezus! It's not tough love a man attack me with intentions of rape cause physical and emotional scars a resident punched me in the face causing me to lose vision in my left eye..no you don't know people's circumstances and yes I was reaching for nice comments and I got quite a few despite your " tough love" so despite it all just like u told me...keep it to yourself. I was told " your lucky you got away" or " it could have been worse" from people just like you. My nursing Instructor was tough but after I graduated she told me why and because she believed in me and that she loved me as a student. I respect her so much but I can sense from you messages that your just as miserable hence your name sour lemon your not a sour lemon your a bitter grapefruit without an ounce of sugar to take the bitterness taste you leave in people's hearts and minds goodbye sour lemon wherever your nursing I hope your patients don't experience your "tough love" where empathy and compassion are needed most.

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Sour lemon? You actually did help me I took your words "imaginary chains" and I asked myself " what's holding me back" those chains is what everyone is trapped in BILLS and when you find yourself working a job that's suppose to be about showing empathy and compassion towards other people and your just doing it for the money you find that it's not worth your happiness and to be miserable...I ask the administration to disable my account because I felt that this was the wrong forum for this and I find through the positive comments even the harsh ones such as yours was actually helpful...to all the positive nice comments thank you..know that you are loved and respected from someone you don't even know! And sour lemon u big old meanie love u too thanks for the advice

I don't think you need to disable your account, just take what you find useful and ignore the rest. I don't see anything inappropriate about your topic.

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Wow sour lemon! U really are sour! Who did this too you jeezus! It's not tough love a man attack me with intentions of rape cause physical and emotional scars a resident punched me in the face causing me to lose vision in my left eye..no you don't know people's circumstances and yes I was reaching for nice comments and I got quite a few despite your " tough love" so despite it all just like u told me...keep it to yourself. I was told " your lucky you got away" or " it could have been worse" from people just like you. My nursing Instructor was tough but after I graduated she told me why and because she believed in me and that she loved me as a student. I respect her so much but I can sense from you messages that your just as miserable hence your name sour lemon your not a sour lemon your a bitter grapefruit without an ounce of sugar to take the bitterness taste you leave in people's hearts and minds goodbye sour lemon wherever your nursing I hope your patients don't experience your "tough love" where empathy and compassion are needed most.

I'm kind of confused as to exactly what you're reacting to, here ....seems like there might be a misunderstanding of what I meant or what I was referring to?

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I think you hate the conditions of it, and clearly you like some parts of it or you would have left it by now. I like nursing but I don't like the conditions of it. I love my patients and what I do for them but I don't like the conditions under which I have to work to do my job. I am going back to school to become a MD so I can work under different conditions to care for patients. Nothing about this medical field is easy and there will always be stress related to it but you have to find something about it that helps you get up and go to work everyday. It isn't easy to switch to something else but you may be able to because you don't have a husband or kids. Some people can't leave it if they wanted to ( so much time invested, can't start back over, don't have the time or money). Either find something about it that works or leave it so you can have some joy in your life. 12 years is a long time of being a nurse. Many people don't make it that long anymore. You need to throw yourself a party, and celebrate for lasting that long.:yes: If you do move on, don't worry about what people think of your decision. Some might be jealous you are moving on. It is your life at the end of the day and during your career you made a difference and changed lives. That is not something everyone can say. It is better to move on versus being that nurse that pretends she loves her job yet abuses, attacks other nurses, and sometimes tries to eat them.

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The Lord once said, whatever is in your heart your mouth will speak it. It's hard for me to believe that bitter nurses can bring pts healing.

That's why it is said of us..... we devour our own b/c for some we do not know how to speak to each other. We get off on breaking each other down. If nurses cannot/will not encourage one another then how are you expected to encourage a patients going through regardless of how long that pt's struggle has been.

Neezy84 I have been a RN since 97, and I think you should go for your RN.

Nursing is so vast. If you have PTSD there are positions as a RN where you do not have to do direct pt care ie supervisory, unit mgr, insurance, when a nurse has to pick up blood, (2 RN's sign off.) At least until you are able to work through your PTSD you may find nights are better, quieter with less traffic. Once you have your RN think about step-down, I loved it. See, in getting to know yourself.... do you like days, nights or evenings. As a novice nurse you may have love mornings/days, but since your trauma you may find you can only do nights. Think about what you love and hate about nursing (write it down).

Just like you care for your patients care for yourself. If you started counseling I hope you continue even after you graduate in receiving your RN.

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ve received advice something along the lines of, "You're creating your own problems and everybody is sick of hearing you complain about them. If you want to make yourself miserable, keep it to yourself."

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I don't know if you know how you come off when you text but it feels a bit rude..that's all so I lashed out forgive me I'm not a nasty person I just want you to see that you don't always have to be sour sometimes people could just use a virtual hugí ¾í´— I'm going to continue to love you and not lash out anymore because as a NURSE like I said we have the power to see when someone NEEDS something. Tough love to you maybe to others just a pat on the shoulder saying " it will be ok and u can get through it here's how" is all that was really needed

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Awesome advice and agree totally thank you

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ve received advice something along the lines of, "You're creating your own problems and everybody is sick of hearing you complain about them. If you want to make yourself miserable, keep it to yourself."

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I don't know if you know how you come off when you text but it feels a bit rude..that's all so I lashed out forgive me I'm not a nasty person I just want you to see that you don't always have to be sour sometimes people could just use a virtual hug�� I'm going to continue to love you and not lash out anymore because as a NURSE like I said we have the power to see when someone NEEDS something. Tough love to you maybe to others just a pat on the shoulder saying " it will be ok and u can get through it here's how" is all that was really needed

I said that I've received that advice ....those were not words directed at you. I didn't feel lashed out at, just confused about what was upsetting you.

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Specializes in LTC, Rehab.

I'm not happy about my job all of the time, but at least SOME of the time I am, and it's still rewarding - at least at times.

I don't see how you can say how horrible it is, how badly it's affecting you, and still say "My friends and family im sure are tired of my complaints and most people say " just leave" they will never understand....you dont just leave nursing its in you".

You need to change careers big-time.

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Specializes in Psychiatry.

OP, I' m sorry you're having a difficult time. My suggestion don't be so hard on your self. You're not the only nurse who have at times felt the same way about nursing. I hope things get better for you, and you gain some clarity on what is best for you. Good luck to you.

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I feel for you, OP. I also want to get out of nursing, although I've only been a nurse for 6mo. My advice is to first get treatment for your PTSD, being attacked by a patient or anyone else is completely unacceptable!!!! I hope that the incident was reported and the man was charged. I'm so, so sorry this happened to you, and that you have been unhappy for so long. But it's not too late to find something else you love to do. Maybe visit a career counselor and try to find out what you might like doing better. Best of luck!

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I believe your answer is extremely clear. You've been misreble for 12 years, why would you dig your whole deeper by becoming an RN? If this was recent burn out, I would agree with the other posters about finding a different niche of nursing that would better suit you, but I think you've gotten all there is to get out of your old profession. The scars are too deep. You need a fresh start in life at this point. You deserve to be happy, and your current path just isn't providing you that. My biggest piece of advice for you, though, is to see a counselor! Many people have suggested in already for your traumatic experience, but beyond that, they are WONDERFUL people for helping you take control of your life and find your true self. I've always seen myself as a very happy and stable person, but when life circumstances allowed me the opportunity to see a counselor, I realized that broken people don't need counselors, we ALL DO. I found immense value in it, and I hope you will as well!

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