I got a verbal warning for not greeting the new Director of Care?

[Convoy2022_TrumpSupporter]

Basically we have a new manager and the CEO of the home was introducing her around the building. I have a good relationship with the CEO.  They both came up on the floor and greeted all the staff at the nursing station. I was sort of flustered with my work I had 2 falls, agitated patients, family complaint of their patient not getting their meal, etc... they even served cake at the nursing station (gotta eat it at the lunch room though) to celebrate the start of this new manager. So when I was absent for all of these, the manager then got upset and told the CEO how she felt.

The next day on my shift, I went to the CEO's office and other Nursing managers/educators told me "Hey you're a good worker. I don't want to give you a letter that will be on your record, but for now I will give you a verbal warning. You did not participate in greeting the new manager. It is a sign of disrespect and will not be tolerated here".

At first I was very shocked. Like seriously? I said "May I speak freely"? The managers said "Yes".  I said "Okay. I am sorry that I was unable to join your cake celebration. But you have to understand. I had 2 falls, patients getting antibiotics, agitates patients, patients O2 going low because they remove their nasal prongs etc... so as you can see, due to the dire situation, going to your cake party/celebration could not be on top of my priority".

They thought I was mocking them. They just said "do not let it happen again".

[ThursdayNight, CNA]

Appreciation of our bosses is something priceless we celebrate with them. It takes devotion to get where they're. 

But, your new boss is bored.

[CapeCodMermaid, RN]

My first job as a nurse manager of a subacute unit--second day on the job. I had 4 admissions, 3 discharges, 3 people go out rescue-yes I was doing compressions (they all lived by the way) and at the end of the day, instead of a GOOD JOB I got a "Mrs. Jones was 10 minutes late to the hair dresser". I looked at the DNS and said, "Oh, sure. Now that I know your priority is hair and not living, I'll plan my time more efficiently."

I was the DNS at a large SNF.  A bunch of the managers and corporate people went bowling. I didn't go. I didn't go to another event because it was a blizzard where I lived...I DID go into work to finish the POC for the survey. The regional nurse came by. I got called into the administrator's office so she could talk to me. She told me I needed to be more of a team player and go bowling. I put my hand up and said, "Let me get this straight. I was the ONLY DNS in the region (14 other facilities near by) that didn't have to close my building because we had NO flu this Winter. AND, I was the only DNS who didn't get cited for side rails, and you're sitting here lecturing me because I didn't want to go bowling???" Two days later I turned in my resignation. She was SO shocked which proved even more to me how clueless she really was.

[ThursdayNight, CNA]

That person is interrupting your patient care which can potentially endanger your patient if you're distracted for grabbuttock that can wait.

[JKL33]

45 minutes ago, CapeCodMermaid said:

Two days later I turned in my resignation. She was SO shocked which proved even more to me how clueless she really was.

I think the shock is because they are fully used to their bullying being very effective.

More of us need to realize our worth as human beings (stop with this everything-is-my-responsibility attitude) and live as much as possible with a "peacefully-proactive" attitude. I realize it isn't easy and it isn't always possible and many people are between a rock and hard place. But I do think it is more possible than we tend to believe it is as individuals.

[Workitinurfava, BSN, RN]

There is nothing wrong with celebrating a new boss. There is a time and a place and any good boss can tell when it is the proper time, and will not penalize someone for not recognizinearly. When it is not the proper time. Most bosses that are recognized and respected will support their staff, have 1 on 1 discussions and address issues at the right time. They will make sure you have someone to  cover your patients so they can meet you and discuss things, not just walk around the unit like a God that you drop to your knees for to show them recognition after they snap their fingers. It's the nurses supporting this behavior and I still stand by what I said earlier. You can't win sometimes, you gotta juggle everything because you get penalized for not getting everything done, then you have to worship your boss at the same time. Both situations can cause you to lose your job. It's a mess.

 

 

[SmilingBluEyes]

On 3/20/2021 at 5:37 AM, ThursdayNight said:

Appreciation of our bosses is something priceless we celebrate with them. It takes devotion to get where they're. 

But, your new boss is bored.

No, this is not time for celebration. A clued-in boss would get it already. She is not bored, she is clueless. And self-centered.

[SmilingBluEyes]

On 3/16/2021 at 10:05 AM, brandy1017 said:

If you have a mgr that is helpful, caring and humble; you are truly blessed.  They are a rare gem in corporate healthcare!  Thank your lucky stars if you have such a wonderful mgr. 

The best boss I ever had was like this, had your back, helped everyone, listened and cared, and therefore was loved by staff who would then help out by picking up.  Morale was at its highest when she was there, but sadly she was among the first to be let go by Wrongway!  But not the last, over a couple years they sent all our mgmt and educators packing and replaced them with Wrongway suits who did the corp bidding.  Morale was at the bottom and consequently there was a mass exodus of nurses and PCA's, so had to hire travelers to keep the doors open.  We were fully staffed until Wrongway blew in with their bad wind.

This is the exception, not the rule. And when we try to be such, we are swallowed up by sucky administration. I tried the management gig. It was thankless and too low-paid for the accountability. . And I was helpful and caring, but that did not matter.  Not to the higher-ups.

[hppygr8ful, ASN, RN, EMT-I]

On 3/8/2021 at 6:34 PM, DK123 said:

I tend to speak freely. I'm not sugarcoating anything. I'm going to tell you exactly how it is.

Pardon me but this is exact;y your problem. Many of your posts indicate you have difficulty with interpersonal interactions. Many of the things you say come across as rude. In the workplace as in real life no one person is an island and members of a team have to be just that. When presented with this scenario after the fact you could have said something like, "I'm sorry I missed out on meeting the new administrator, I was dealing with critical patient needs that required my full attention, Let's just move forward from here."

The problem with being blunt or speaking freely, especially in this scenario is that you never get a second chance to make a first impression." and starting a starement with the phrase "May I speak freely" is like starting a statement off with "With all due respect!"

Nursing is a customer service business and you don't want to be singled out espessially if you are new and the facility decides to let people go. In an "At will work environment your employer can let you go for no reason at all. Last hired is usually first fired in at will reduction of force situations.

[canoehead, BSN, RN]

Every time I see this thread go by I mutter "piss on them" to myself. What a stupid self important boss.