Hurt and Betrayed

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I am in my first semester on my BSN program and I can honestly say I love my classes and highly respect my instructors. Everything was going great or so I thought. A fellow student, whom I've know for a year and trusted, betrayed me and divulged my personal health information to other classmates causing gossip and rumors because my morals and values differ. I am accommodated by the ODA for personal reasons that I chose not to share with anyone because it's honestly no one else's business but my own. Not only was my privacy invaded, but it was done so with incorrect information and (my belief) with malicious intent. What's worse is the judgement I receive from other classmates because of it. I don't feel animosity and I am a forgiving person by nature but I'm very hurt and feel exposed. I have spoken with the person and addressed the issue in a professional manner but I can't help but wonder what else this person spread about my personal life. I've read and have been taught about incivility in nursing but I never expected to experience it first hand and from a friend. I am a little lost with how to handle this emotionally. [emoji17]

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MeiDei began her original post with the following information: "A fellow student, whom I've know for a year and trusted, betrayed me and divulged my personal health information to other classmates causing gossip and rumors because my morals and values differ."

She later revised her statement, saying, "I did NOT share my personal information. Everything is based on assumption."

Then, "Regardless, it is a violation of my privacy."

As an interested participant in this thread, I find these statements contradictory. One can not divulge anything that hasn't first been shared with them. Alternately, if the "offender" made up untruthful statements about MeiDei, then she did not divulge personal health information, she simply made crap up, which is not a nice thing to do, but is not an invasion of privacy.

I am serious in asking that someone please explain how the school's no tolerance policy should be applied. The OP's denial that she revealed any personal information to the offender negates any claim of invasion of privacy. Mei Dei states that the offender acknowledged in non-verbal communication that she had shared hurtful (apparently made up) information. There is no evidence that this has harmed MeiDei in any way other than embarrassment, which is unpleasant, but ironically seems to be prolonged by the OP's own actions. A faculty advisor is aware of the situation. There is no evidence that MeiDei has suffered academically or clinically at the hand of faculty or students because of this incident. MeiDei states that she doesn't want to see the other student suffer dismissal from the program. So, for the love of all that is good and holy, move on.

Unless there is a reason that you would rather not.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
MeiDei began her original post with the following information: "A fellow student, whom I've know for a year and trusted, betrayed me and divulged my personal health information to other classmates causing gossip and rumors because my morals and values differ."

She later revised her statement, saying, "I did NOT share my personal information. Everything is based on assumption."

Then, "Regardless, it is a violation of my privacy."

As an interested participant in this thread, I find these statements contradictory. One can not divulge anything that hasn't first been shared with them. Alternately, if the "offender" made up untruthful statements about MeiDei, then she did not divulge personal health information, she simply made crap up, which is not a nice thing to do, but is not an invasion of privacy.

Exactly.People can be pretty mean,it does NOT always translate to being bullied or policies or laws being broken.It just means people can be buttheads.Suck it up,buttercup.This makes me think of the type of person who would spill hot coffee on themselves and then use the restaurant for serving hit coffee....
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MeiDei began her original post with the following information: "A fellow student, whom I've know for a year and trusted, betrayed me and divulged my personal health information to other classmates causing gossip and rumors because my morals and values differ."

She later revised her statement, saying, "I did NOT share my personal information. Everything is based on assumption."

Then, "Regardless, it is a violation of my privacy."

As an interested participant in this thread, I find these statements contradictory. One can not divulge anything that hasn't first been shared with them. Alternately, if the "offender" made up untruthful statements about MeiDei, then she did not divulge personal health information, she simply made crap up, which is not a nice thing to do, but is not an invasion of privacy.

I am serious in asking that someone please explain how the school's no tolerance policy should be applied. The OP's denial that she revealed any personal information to the offender negates any claim of invasion of privacy. Mei Dei states that the offender acknowledged in non-verbal communication that she had shared hurtful (apparently made up) information. There is no evidence that this has harmed MeiDei in any way other than embarrassment, which is unpleasant, but ironically seems to be prolonged by the OP's own actions. A faculty advisor is aware of the situation. There is no evidence that MeiDei has suffered academically or clinically at the hand of faculty or students because of this incident. MeiDei states that she doesn't want to see the other student suffer dismissal from the program. So, for the love of all that is good and holy, move on.

Unless there is a reason that you would rather not.

Pretty much this. The OP was pretty confusing, then the subsequent posts have been vague and equally as puzzling.

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Specializes in Psychiatry, Community, Nurse Manager, hospice.

My heart goes out to you. I am in my first semester of an accelerated program. I am in my late 30s, have worked in many fields and with many types. I have found that the population of nursing students at my school contains some of the most revolting people I have ever met. Sometimes it gets me down. But I have also met a few gems and that gives me hope.

The good thing about gossip is that it gets old quick. No one wants to talk about something everyone has already heard. It's a fire that burns itself out.

There is only one way to speed up this process. If you overhear the gossip you say something like, "I can't believe you're still talking about that. Everyone's so sick of the topic. " If you walk in the room and everyone gets quiet because they were talking about you, you say "Oh my God, did you hear I have (insert incorrect chronic illness here)?!", sarcastically. This is easy for me as I am from Jersey where we eat gossiping girls for breakfast but even a polite southerner can do this when it's called for. Keep your head up.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.

Radio silence......I am just sitting here thinking about the hurt and betrayal I feel today..Let me start my list-1,New staff with no experience starting out making almost as much as me (lousy pay scale) -2,not being consistently recognized for my greatness.I am not a self promoter like some of my peers nor do I schmooze admin very well .I should be getting a pat on the back every day because I work so hard.-3,being called the Angel of Death...Not funny,really not appreciated so it should STOP and someone owes me a flippingbapology....

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