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HR recruiter sending me friend request on FB??

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Emile has 1 years experience and works as a RN.

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canoehead has 30 years experience as a BSN, RN and works as a RN ER.

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I do not friend anyone but coworkers, not the boss, not her assistant. But I assume everything I FB can and will get back to the BON somehow.

If she had told you personally that policy was to check your FB account I suppose you could friend her for a week, and sterilize your profile as much as possible. With just a request and no note I'd ignore it. It's either someone who is nosey on a personal level, or not up front about their actions on a professional level. Both people I want to keep at arm's length.

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TerpGal02 has 6 years experience and works as a RN Community Mental Health.

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I'm with everyone else. Deny, deny deny. I have never had any coworker as a friend on FB nor would I ever. I dont think Facebook tells her that you denied the request, and if she asks you about it and you just simply told her that you don't like to mix work and personal she shouldn't be offended. Many people have this personal policy.

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We just had someone terminated over her FB! She got "jumped" at a bar Thursday night and posted some crazy story about it at 3:30am. When she was late the next morning one of her friends said "I hope she's ok, she FB'd me last night saying she got beat up"

Apparently that was the only person she FB'd... She forgot she was "Friends with the Facility" EVERYONE saw the post! We had older RNs walking around asking "whats jumped mean?"

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:twocents: Social networking is a detriment to society :twocents:

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Moogie works as a GRA.

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Don't just ignore the request---dismiss it and block the person STAT.

If I'm not mistaken, if someone requests you as a friend and you do nothing, he/she can still see everything you post on FB. If you reject the friend request, he/she can no longer access any of your profile. I don't know if you can stop this by limiting your posts to just friends but it's a risk I would be hesitant to take.

Holy boundaries violation, Batman!

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86toronado has 5 years experience and works as a RN-emergency.

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This is why I keep my facebook account in my maiden name, even though I've been married for years. No one who hasn't known me forever can find me, unless I tell them my old name.

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Isabelle49 works as a home health rn.

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Agree. What you do in your own time is nothing the recruiter should be involved in. Blocik her!

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Isabelle49 works as a home health rn.

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ignore the friend request....... she won't know why, if you run into to her and she asks, act surprised and say something like "I must have missed it"

Or, your could say, 'I didn't realize it was you'!

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I want to deny her request but I'm not sure if Facebook will send her a message telling her I denied her request.

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Negative! So deny him/her! While you're at it, you need to change your privacy settings on FB. She should not have been able to find or locate you in the first place (she's fishing for something). People need to be "smarter" about when using FB and taking advantage of their "Privacy Settings." I can give you my full name and email, you still won't find me on fb, although I am! ;)

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Chin up has 26 years experience and works as a Employment Law.

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Just say no. Period. No excuses, no, " I forgot or didn't see it" just no. It is no ones business why you befriend or not. Some people think all people are fools. Peace!

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Just say no. Period. No excuses, no, " I forgot or didn't see it" just no. It is no ones business why you befriend or not. Some people think all people are fools. Peace!

i agree with this...no excuses whatsoever.

you haven't done anything that warrants defending yourself.

besides, if you did play dumb, i.e., "i didn't know it was you", then you're still in the situation where you'll feel pressured to accept her invite.

don't say anything...just refuse and go on with your life.

enjoy your new job!

leslie

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Heidi the nurse works as a School nurse.

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This may be way off base, but are you sure she doesn't know you from somewhere else? I had an incident with the principal at my son's school several years ago. He had lots of problems while in the 3rd grade, so I was a "regular" in the office. I hate the idea of the principal knowing my name! One day when I was down there she asked me "Did your husband ever bring a German Shorthair dog home" and I was like "Huh???" She then said she was the teacher who was my landlord's best friend who lived across the street from me when my son was a baby. She is very tall and think so I would have thought I would have remember her. I had even been in her house several times but totally didn't remember her. This was before FB, but I could see her friending me and being mortified that my son's principal was "snooping" in my life, but in fact perhaps she was doing it from that other life???

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