How did you resign from a position that was toxic and you feel wasn't suited for you

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I feel that the place of where i am employed is taking a toll on my health, 2 times i have been to the dr in the past month for health reasons, the first time my IBS acted up and i had to call in sick, and now again I am having flu symptoms on which my dr has placed me on bed rest for 4 days. The environment, has alot of cliques and is quite toxic from throwing others under the bus, alot of backstabbing and talking behind other individuals backs. I have also seen nurses make faces behind other nurses back to where i work. My health is much more important to be subjected to such toxicity. please i need advice as to how I can quit my position in a responsible manner and a really good reasoning as to why I want to go somewhere else. I have just completed my orientation. and have been with the unit and still have a few months before my probationary period is up, desperately needed your advice, should i stick with it, or resign my position its a casual position and connected to the health region here which means the majority of the facilities are connected to the health region and would like to leave on good terms not bad terms

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Since this facility has connections to others in the region, I wouldn't be so hasty to make the decision to leave. As for the effects on your health, you need to consider getting help with developing better coping skills. Why do I say this? All jobs have stress. Nursing has more stress than many other lines of work. The behavior you described can be very, very typical. What will you do when you go to the next job and find that the work environment is worse than this one? Complete your probationary period or you may find yourself with "not eligible for rehire" on your personnel file. You don't want that.

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

In the workplace and other situations in life, we teach people how to treat us. We indirectly communicate to our coworkers how much or how little we'll take from them through our body language and the vibes we unknowingly give off. Some people can stand their ground, whereas others are constant targets.

What if the next workplace has coworkers who are not so nice? Are you going to keep resigning until you find your fit? This is just some food for thought.

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i understand what your saying, but honestly i would rather work for long term care, that is truthfully where my heart is...I worked in long term care as a CCA and never was subjected to the kind of Toxic environment i am subjected to lately, my cousin said she went through the same thing as a new LPN and resigned her position at the hospital for the same reason, and is now in long term care where she said she is happier and that its not at all toxic as she was subjected to in the hospital. With that being said, how can i safely resign my casual position safely, without worrying I will be black listed for reasons of wanting to be employed in long term care as opposed to the hospital

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I am in a similar work environment and multiple times wanted to quit due to the numerous management changes, but I have been there for over five years and have established a great attendance record. What I did was go from working full time to working per diem while going back to school. It helped with my stress and even though the work environment has not changed, I am able to handle it. I agree, I have learned to develop assertive communication skills in the mist of it all. Overall, I'm happy to have a job because its hard out there to gain a valuable reference for future job opportunities. Hope I helped

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In the workplace and other situations in life, we teach people how to treat us. We indirectly communicate to our coworkers how much or how little we'll take from them through our body language and the vibes we unknowingly give off. Some people can stand their ground, whereas others are constant targets.

What if the next workplace has coworkers who are not so nice? Are you going to keep resigning until you find your fit? This is just some food for thought.

good point.

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Specializes in MICU, SICU, CICU.

There is not a high demand for LPNs in my region.

You might want to make an appointment with your EAP. It is very interesting and helpful to talk to someone who is outside looking in.

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I feel for you girl. Working with nasty nurses is the worst. Get out before you pick up any of there bad habits. Get another job first, then never look back at those nasty nurses/haters. Haters are gonna hate. They hate themselves and everyone around them. They willl never change, but usually end up fired or quit. Ive been around long enough to watch there demise. The bring it on themselves. Haters are losers waiting to happen. Goodness wins. You'll see.

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We teach people how to treat us? You always say that! As if we have time to educate these people. As if we should take the time to educate these people who carelessly

do and say what ever they want. How about they learn how to act responsibly in nursing school, how to get along before they have someone's life and future in there hands? How about if the highly paid, highly educated masters in nursing degree nurses actually hired nurses that gave a darn from the beginning. With your masters degree you should be able to see a caring person not just a warm body to fill a position. Wake up you people in charge. Take some responsiblity and hire people not *******. Maybe you won't have such a big turn over in nurses then. Duh?

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So not a good point.

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Specializes in Critical Care.

It seems like you're asking for advice on how to resign, and not about your coping skills or how to deal with not so nice coworkers.

I think that if you'd rather work in long term care, you can be honest about that. Mention how much you learned and how much you appreciated the opportunity to gain such great experience, but that you don't think it's a good fit for you and the goals you have for yourself re: nursing.

Depending on what kind of manager you have, you could mention (constructively) that the environment leaves to be desired ... But that would be up to you. Some managers don't give a crap about stuff like that.

Personally, I wouldn't quit before I had another job. Too scary for me hehe. But if its a casual position, you dont necessarily have to quit straight away right? (Casual to me means you only pick up when you want & there is no quota to fill; shifts are completely at your discretion).

I don't think it's worth being miserable at work if you have other options. Life is too short and nursing is already rough enough.

Good luck.

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If this is a casual position, is there a min, amount of work that you have to do? I other words, I would keep the position as a casual one, and only work if you feel like you would like to.

Meanwhile, put you feelers out for a full time position at the local LTC facilities.

If questioned, I would simply say that you wanted to pursue a full time position.

If the pay is good, I would tell you that it stinks to have nasty coworkers. But they do not come home with you. 8 hour or 12 hours, and then you can go on your way. Sometimes people work once a month as a casual. But actively pursue full time employment in the meantime.

Some facilities have casuals working 30+ hours a week. This is a way for them to not have to pay benefits. However, you are usually not mandated to work any specific amount of shifts. Polish off your resume, and start looking for full time.

Best wishes

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