How does it make you feel?

[prettymica]

How does it make you feel when you find out your patient is a nurse? I feel deceived... Trust me this is one of my favorite patients and I'm just curious as to why she didn't tell me. She still doesn't know that I know and she has been a nurse since before I was born. It just saddens me that she is not concerned about her wellbeing. I know she has other issues and maybe she felt if she told me I wouldnt treat her like my other patients??? All my other patients let me know up front that they are a nurse or have nurses in the family. Am I wrong for feeling deceived??

[nurseprnRN, BSN, RN]

it is not about you. it's up to her what to divulge and to whom.

it is not about you.

[I love my cat!]

I never, ever tell people I am a Nurse. Hospital, MD office, clinic ect., because I feel that I actually get sub-par treatment.

Instead of explaining things, most people will just say, "Well, I don't have to go into detail. You're a Nurse. You know all of this already!".

Maybe I do-maybe I don't.

Being a Nurse does not make me an expert in every single field of Nursing or Medicine. That would be the same, IMO, as telling a Second grade teacher that teaching and explaining questions they might have regarding advanced Calculus is silly because, heck, they are a teacher so they know everything already!

When I am sick-I want things explained to me. I don't want to guess. I want to be treated like the patient that I am.

[Altra, BSN, RN]

This is a home setting patient, yes I maybe have crossed the professional line by listening to her divulge personal info to me. but if it makes her feel comfortable before, during and after her care.. am I wrong? When I stated that not being concerned with her well-being its only small things i see when i am there.. And know that we know this is case.. wouldn't her asking me personal info would be wrong on her part..if we are both nursing and know the line of professionalism?

It's not your listening to her that's the problem. You stepped over the line -- waaayy over the line -- when you decided you had any right to any personal information about her beyond what was pertinent medically.

I'm not saying that you did it intentionally ... but this thread gives me the heebie jeebies. Who is a nurse to feel "deceived" because a patient does not share personal details with him/her?

[prettymica, ASN, BSN, MSN, LPN, RN, APRN, NP]

I never said I had the right to any personal info.. As I said occupations can be personals but she has shared some truly personal things that I wouldn't share as a nurse. Also maybe I'm leaving things out like the asking me of my personal number, to come over for Xmas, to date her someone I her family.. That I all declined prodessinally.. So I do know my boundaries

[Altra, BSN, RN]

That you have had a strong emotional reaction to the sharing or withholding of personal information indicates to me that boundaries have been crossed.

[prettymica, ASN, BSN, MSN, LPN, RN, APRN, NP]

I agreed to that in an earlier post but I do have the right to be entitled to my feelings as I said i was asking how it made would everyone else feel. Not about boundaries or my patient nurse treatment of her. As also stated earlier most let me know this info upfront I just find if different that this one patient did not..

[Old.Timer]

yikes, i can't believe no one has mentioned the fact that whenever medical personnel become the patient instead of the provider everything goes wrong.

i can almost guarantee whenever i start an iv and the patient tells me they are a dr. nurse, emt, etc., i will blow that iv. i would never tell anyone i was a nurse, at least until after the iv is in.

there should be an all nurses thread about when health care providers became patients and all the things that go wrong.

insert: or attorneys

[MomRN0913]

Would you feel deceived if your patient didn't tell you they were an cashier at walmart?

It's her business if she doesn't want to tell people what she does. Do all of your patients tell you what their occupation is.

I usually don't say anything unless i can reap some benefits:)

[MomRN0913]

insert: or attorneys

i told a nurse when i was in the er i was a nurse. this nurse blew my vein bad. long time nurse too. she was all flustered. i told her don't worry about it, no biggie.

[prettymica, ASN, BSN, MSN, LPN, RN, APRN, NP]

Yes they normally do and I don't ask. I come in to do my job and walk out sometimes in tears from the info patients share. So just stating I had patients share abuse stories, rape stories, addiction stories but this would not seem as personal as your occupation? Not saying the examples I mentioned are one of hers but as I stated she did share lots of personal info with me, that I didn't ask for so.. Is her occupation more personal that what she shared about her background?? Maybe..

[diva rn, BSN, RN]

I agreed to that in an earlier post but I do have the right to be entitled to my feelings as I said i was asking how it made would everyone else feel. Not about boundaries or my patient nurse treatment of her. As also stated earlier most let me know this info upfront I just find if different that this one patient did not..

But there is absolutely NO reason for her or anyone else to do so......none at all. It really isn't your business what her former profession was. You speak as if this lady held some deep dark secret and did not divulge it, then some how you found out about it and are now angry. This is no secret, this is this lady's life. If she didn't want to tell anyone she was a nurse...then so be it...I NEVER tell anyone I am a nurse..unless I am directly asked point blank.

I would not do so in this situation either...it's really no one's business.

[prettymica, ASN, BSN, MSN, LPN, RN, APRN, NP]

Wow.. Angry about it?? Not at all....