How do you focus when you have personal issues??

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How do the rest of you focus on school and studying if you are dealing with personal crap?? I'm dealing with some marital issues right now and am having such a hard time trying to put things aside and focus on my studying. Any advice???:uhoh3:

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I had a husband fall of the wgaon, quit taking his bipolar/anxiety meds, found out my unborn son was afflicted with a serious birth deefect, had to move out while pregnant with my other 3 children and go to school full time during all of this including 5 surgeries my son had to have after birth so beleieve me I know where you are. I used the classes as a way to focus on something positive I was doing. It was the only little ray of hope I had that as long as I kept doing something positive that all would be okay. Hang in there!

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The best thing about this board is I knew when I posted this that this would be the one place I could go and get genuine and helpful advice. That's why I love this board so much! Unfortunately, things have only gotten worse since I first posted. Myspace is killing our marriage. I've talked to him about marital counseling - he doesn't think he needs it - I'm the one with the jealousy and trust issues, as far as he's concerned.

My biggest fear is that I will stay with him and things won't get better, then I will get accepted into nursing school and end up blowing it because of our problems. I was able to keep a 4.0 GPA a year ago when my son was severely depressed and suicidal even though it just about killed me. Why can't I do the same now???:o

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wow.....

it is said there is "strength in numbers"....

great posts....

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I had a husband fall of the wgaon, quit taking his bipolar/anxiety meds, found out my unborn son was afflicted with a serious birth deefect, had to move out while pregnant with my other 3 children and go to school full time during all of this including 5 surgeries my son had to have after birth so beleieve me I know where you are. I used the classes as a way to focus on something positive I was doing. It was the only little ray of hope I had that as long as I kept doing something positive that all would be okay. Hang in there!

Girl...you are one brave and strong woman! Take my hat off to ya!:bow::bow:

Hope your life is easier now, and that your wee boy is okay! All the best to you!

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All I can say is , I am in the same place, mabey with different issues, but nonetheless marital problems. my only goal right now is to get in and make it through nursing school.Evan if I have to move in with my parents and take the kids with me, I am determined.My goal is to keep this marriage together at least until nursing school is over and I have my liscence. At least I would be able to support me and the kids then. Good luck to you, you're not alone!

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This summer I was living with my father and stepfamily. It was really tough time especially on my mental, emotional, and spiritual health. I decided that I have God, Weight, and School to focus on and the drama finally pissedm e off enough to leave and live with my mother and sister. Even though I stay with my mom and sis in a one bedroom apartment I am much happier then having my own room and my father's house and being depressed about everything! So just be encouraged, stay the course, and no matter what anyone says or do, be strong for yourself!

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My best advice is to take it one day at a time, one hurdle at a time. Do your best to correct any problems that come up so you can move on and not have to revisit them later. Try to get a good night sleep. Of course take a good mvi and eat well. If you can take a walk each day, that would be great. Maybe you can tape your classes to replay back on your walk. Best of luck :)

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The best thing about this board is I knew when I posted this that this would be the one place I could go and get genuine and helpful advice. That's why I love this board so much! Unfortunately, things have only gotten worse since I first posted. Myspace is killing our marriage. I've talked to him about marital counseling - he doesn't think he needs it - I'm the one with the jealousy and trust issues, as far as he's concerned.

My biggest fear is that I will stay with him and things won't get better, then I will get accepted into nursing school and end up blowing it because of our problems. I was able to keep a 4.0 GPA a year ago when my son was severely depressed and suicidal even though it just about killed me. Why can't I do the same now???:o

I'm so sorry to hear that things have gotten worse. I will tell you from personal experience that most men don't believe in counseling. As I said, I had issues a few years ago while in Chemistry and Biology and my grades suffered. I tried to get my husband to go to counseling and he wouldn't. Myspace is a BAD place and I thank god my husband doesn't have a myspace account. I had a friend recently get herself into trouble on there. I hope he realizes what he stands to lose. Maybe you need to make him aware of that and somehow let him know your not playing games. There is nothing I can say to make your pain go away, but I know that sometimes what men see as innocent really is not but it's nearly impossible to get them to see it any other way. Best of luck to you and I hope you are able to work things out...I am saying a prayer for you and your family.

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