Help! Ready to quit nursing school

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Hello everyone. I need opinions and I have talked it through with my husband and my family, however I still don't feel like I have enough honest answers. I am ready to quit nursing school, I have another year and half left. I have good grades but that's because I have worked my but off. Unfortunately I think it's taking a toll on my own family. I am married and I have 2 children ages 7 and 4. My husband has a very dangerous job and he comes home exhausted everyday he sometimes works 7 days a week. I also work full-time. My family say that they will help me with the children so I can study and do what I need to do but I have been burned so many times frankly I just don't trust them and cannot depend on them. Nursing is my passion and I have tried so hard to make this work but it has now come to my breaking point. I have been depressed and have been crying constantly, I have been overworked at work and can't seem to catch up. I have been losing sleep due to the high stress and having my plate too full. It has come to a point that I am short tempered with everyone including my children. It pains me to continue being like that with them but I just keep on pushing myself. I want to make my dreams come true however not at the expense of my own family.

Keep at it! you're so close. I too have a husband a full time job and a child, and will start nursing school this fall. I know it will be tough but I will ABSOLUTELY do my very best to strive and succeed for the sake of my family. My family will help me get through it Husband, Mother, Brother, Father and if there comes a time they are all busy and tired when I really need to study I am planning to put money aside to hire a back up sitter/housekeeper on some days, it will be money well spent.

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If nursing is really what you want to do then don't quit. If you don't feel that it is worth all of the blood, sweat, and tears then quit. I work part-time, have 3 kids, no money, my fiance be mad at me because we don't have s*x like we use to, and did I say no money. My first semester of nursing school I cried almost every week because I didn't feel like I was understanding what the hell I was doing. I was tired and snappy. I didn't feel like I had a life, no money, and my house was a mess. I have not had acne since 2007, but now I have acne again. Do I want to quit? No because this is where my heart is at, I don't see myself doing anything else, and the reward in the end make it all worth it. I am now going into my third semester of nursing school, which is going to be even more hectic. I will also be moving in November during this semester.

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Can you work part time? I would probably regret quitting especially since your so close.

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DO NOT QUIT ON YOUR DREAMS!! I am not married but I am in a relationship and sometimes feel guilty for not being available so much but if people around truly support then hey will understand and help out anyway they can...allow them too! I am lucky to have my mother to help me out with my children and they will be staying with her for a year and then I will only a few months to go once my kids return home. God bought you tHis far for a reason so continue on your path. Just sit down with your husband and set up a better plan for you both.

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I agree with everyone here, DO NOT give up on your dreams! My soon to be husband has a very dangerous job too and I would hate for something to happen to him and I couldn't take care of him because I didn't have a good enough paying job to do so.

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Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

Agree with lele606 - you need to discuss this with your husband. These types of decisions shouldn't be uni-lateral because they have a profound effect on both of you.

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Do you have an extra bedroom? (Could your kids begin to share one?)

Exchanging a room in your home for child care and some basic housecleaning sounds like it would benefit you immensely. I currently live part-time with a friend, helping her with her two little ones and it has been an amazing benefit to both of us. It might take a while to find someone who fits your lifestyle, but in the end it will be worth it.

It sounds like you just have a ton on your plate, and you have forgotten to allow yourself "me" time. Having someone around to help will give you the extra freedom to take a few breaths and focus on everything you have on your plate. (Since cutting hours isn't an option)

Remember this is all temporary. Calculate how many days you have left and start crossing them off. You can do this :)

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You've said it yourself, it's your dream! Don't quit!!! I'm the type of person that also believes family comes first, but, in talking there is also understanding. Communicate with your husband and children and apologize if needed for these tough times. Keep telling them it is temporary.

Like Kaotik said, take some time for yourself and regroup.

Best of luck to you. It is those individuals who truly sacrifice to achieve their dreams that make amazing professionals. :up:

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Specializes in Informatics, Orthopaedics.

If nursing is your passion and you let outside factors make you quit, I guarantee you you will end up having major grudge against said outside factors. In that same vein I have found living my life and making my choices based on whatever other people may or may not say or do is bad juju.

It's only 18 months, make it work.

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