Heartbroken

[Snowchild]

Hi, I have been an active member for several years and have posted on here a few times.
I am here again because I need to talk.
Last week, to this day, I was laid off from my job of 15 years. (Part of a mass lay-off, not anything I did). I was completely blindsided by this and although I am taking steps forward, I am still in shock and processing it. I was a RN care manager for the managed Medicaid long term care insurance division for 5 years, and the ten years prior to that, with the same company, but with the CHHA.
Three days later, my father passed away. Although this was expected, it does not take away from my grief.
I am trying to stay strong but I am so overwhelmed ?.
Any words of advice?

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

Prayers for you. So sorry. Losses are losses, regardless. Take your time processing your grief.

[JKL33]

You have my condolences, very sorry to hear of your losses. Allow yourself to grieve and be easy on yourself as you acclimate to these difficult changes. ?

[HandsOffMySteth]

These things are never fun to say the least. Just try to keep some perspective in that most of the time these things tend to pass.

One thing a person finds out about life as they age is that things are always changing. We get into a comfortable routine and then get side blinded by unforeseen events beyond our control.

Take this as an opportunity to grieve and regroup. You deserve a little rest.?

[Daisy4RN]

I am so sorry for your losses. These are both major life changes so give yourself time to grieve and take one day at a time. File for unemployment if that is possible and depending on your finances start the job search asap because with the mass layoff there will be many people looking. I have been through many losses in my life, including multiple losses at the same time. Although this is a difficult period in your life just know that you will get through this and there will be good days and bad days. If it becomes overwhelming please speak to a trusted family, friend, chaplain or counselor.

Again, sorry for the loss and and wishing you well!

[Nurseentrepreneur]

Take it one step at a time. It’s a lot to take in for a short period of time, but you will get thru this. You are built for hard time like this. It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to not feel strong at time. But always remember you got this....

[Emergent, RN]

I'm in a similar position. The hospital I worked for actually closed in January, throwing hundreds out of work. My sociopathic, abusive father died the same month.

First of all, stay calm. It's not as bad as being displaced by war. The first thing to figure out is unemployment. It's a great cushion. The people at Worksource have been incredibly helpful.

Next, figure out insurance. I chose a high deductible policy. I qualified for government tax credits because my income went down.

Give yourself time to process and grieve. A lot of us from work are getting together for meals and beers. We had a great team.

You'll make it, give yourself time. This is a season of change for you.?

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

No words of advice. I'm so sorry you're going through this. That's a lot to process and deal with in one week. All the best.

[beachbabe86]

My sincere condolences to you. We had expected my Mother's death for 5 years, but it was still difficult to bear.

Adjusting to a "new normal" will not be easy especially without the routine of your long time job. I went to a grief recovery group that helped immensely.

Blessings to you.

[QuestionableTimes]

Time to take some time for yourself. Take unemployment if you can. Use that cushion if you have. If you MUST work then do part time if you can manage it.

Take care of you right now. Allow yourself to grieve the passing of you father. I am terribly sorry all this happened at the same time.

[Wlaurie, RN]

Hmmmm....life is good but sometimes it stinks at times. I'm sorry for the loss of your parent and job. Don't know why but I've had bad things clump together like this in my life also. I'm a compartentilizer. If things are going bad at work I can unwind at home. If they're bad at home I can focus at work. When you get it both ways there's nowhere to feel comfortable.

Best advice I can give is make a prioritizing list of what you need to do, cross them off as you go. Don't jump at the first job that comes your way out of desperation. Keep busy and involved in the world. Don't let depression make you a hermit. It'll get better. Maybe not tomorrow but it will in small increments. Hugs and prayers to you.

[Michelle Gomez RN MSN MBA NEBC]

Stay strong. Take this time to reignite your passion in nursing. I was laid of in April 2019 & October 2019 from two separate companies. It has nothing to do with you. As a leader I had to prepare lists of employees to lay off. Hardest times in my career. I was literally told "reduce your depts by 19 FTEs". They didn't care how valuable each individual was. It didn't matter that all of my units were profitable & meeting both budget and productivity measures. It was about the bottom line.