Has Nursing Made You a Homebody? - page 3

I currently have a sick animal at home...Him being sick has stressed me out a lot the past 24 hrs or so and that has led me to write this post. My husband has recently made remarks of how much more... Read More

  1. by   ktwlpn
    My mother in law is convinced that someone in the family has "offended" me..In reality my husband and I have been married for 23 years and I have spent plenty of holidays with them and now when I work all day on T-giving or Xmas the LAST thing I want to do is get dressed and go out.When I am off a holiday the last thing I want to do is get dressed and go out.There is a trend there-it's the LAST thing I want to do-the families of the folks that I care for are sucking the life out of me for 8 hours a day,I don't have much left.And they are not as much fun as they used to be----but then again one could say the same thing about my husband and me....
  2. by   chgorn
    I totally agree with you. I'm a little older then you, but after working 24 hrs. in 2 days all I want to do is chill. In fact, after coming home after a 12 hr. day, I don't want to talk to anyone. I have a friend who lives in Providence and also owns a condo in Chicago. She comes here monthly and is up and running. She expects me to do the same, however, I'm exhausted. I appreciate this post as I thought it was just me. Thanks for all the comments.
  3. by   poppycat
    I've been shy & introverted since the day I was conceived (as far as I remember!). I have always loved being alone because I was scared of people the first half of my life. I was OK at work because I was confident in what I was doing & communicating with patients was easy for me. When it came to my personal life, not so much. Now that I'm older (56), I really just enjoy kicking back in my recliner & watching the boob tube. My name is KarenfRN & I'm a TV addict! I just like having time to think & rediscover who I really am after so many years of trying to be what everyone else thought I should be. It's also nice to be able to do things for myself after so many years of caring for my dad. I don't regret a minute of the time I spent taking care of him, but it was very exhausting on top of working 36 hours on nights every week.
  4. by   Dazlious
    I can completely relate to this. I've been a nurse for 4 years now. 2 1/2 of which have been spent on night shift. I was never an outgoing person anyway, but since becoming a nurse I have descended farther into hermitville.
  5. by   rntravlon
    I work in a busy level 1 county type ed,the last thing I want to do on my first day off is be around people. Add that to working nights and sometimes I think I could be very happy living in a cabin in the woods with just me and my cats.
  6. by   TheCommuter
    I had the tendency to shut-in prior to becoming a nurse, but having been in the nursing profession for the past seven years has made me want to be around people even less.

    While at work I am being pulled in multiple directions by different people (doctors, patients, families, visitors, vendors, coworkers, nurse managers, schedulers, etc.). So when I go home, I need to recharge my internal battery by being alone and taking care of my own needs. As the years pass, my needs for socializing and being around people seem to lessen.
  7. by   LadyFree28
    No....the RECESSION has made more of a home body! LOL...

    If I am a homebody, I still find myself to host people over at least once a month...my social circle includes nurses, but people of many fields...I love my DVR, as well as going out when people are "at work" or "sleeping," but I think that came with age...one doesn't need to go out and party to the edge of dawn anymore...it gets old. But I find ways to go out and socialize, dance, etc, but my circle is smaller when it comes to socializing with people and dealing with personalities in my personal life.
  8. by   LeaRNed
    Wow, your story sounds just like mine. I also work night shift and all I want to do on my days off is sleep. I turn my ringer off just so I won't be bothered and I feel like I've become a hermit that lives a completely different life than everyone else I know. My theory is that our body's circadian rhythm is messed up and wreaking havoc on our lives. My friends and family get upset with me because I rarely answer when they call. I explain how working nights and getting phone calls at 2pm is the equivalent of me calling them at 2am. They would probably get annoyed and turn their ringers off too. Basically, I feel like all of my energy goes into my job and I have none left for anyone or anything else. It is a tough situation to be in and I know exactly where you're coming from. So you are not alone. Hopefully we will find a way to remedy this situation....without having to change shifts. Take Care!!
  9. by   nicurn84
    Wow! You guys are wonderful! I didn't think there were so many of you that I could relate to. Thanks for all the advice/stories. I enjoy reading all of them. Feels great to know I'm not the only nurse that feels this way some of your posts are so similar to mine, too. This helps me a lot and makes me feel that it's ok to be a "homebody" regardless of what friends/family think of me.
  10. by   texasmum
    From a different point of view - maybe it's not nursing but just life? I was an admin asst for 20 years while I raised my daughters (and my husband) and just went back to nursing school a few years ago. While I was raising my kids all I had the time and energy for was just that, raising kids. Between that, work, and the parental units, I lost touch with a lot of folks. Now that my kids are in their 20's and I am a full time, night shift nurse - I am actually finding time for myself again. I work 6 straight and I am off 8. Yes, I am totally wiped out for the first couple of days off but then I find time to spend with my friends and by myself. I am loving it! : )
  11. by   Morainey
    My social life went down in flames in nursing school, and I honestly have to say (in retrospect) that I'm glad. I was drinking a lot, spending a lot of money, and putting myself in situations that now I see were not healthy at all. When I became an RN I did nights for a year and a half and I can tell you it made me a legit hermit. I didn't like leaving the house during the day to go to the grocery store or what have you (too much noise, too many people, too crowded) and if I went out I couldn't wait to get back home to lie down.

    Now that I'm off of nights, I'm better - I feel healthier and less socially anxious and withdrawn. That being said, I'm so tired after work all I want to do is go home and put my feet up.
  12. by   Havin' A Party!
    High-stress positions will do this to us.

    Love my time off!

    But have always enjoyed being home.
  13. by   chrisrn24
    Somewhat yes. But I make time every couple of weeks to go out and do something fun.

    When you are 90, You're not going to remember the nights you stayed in to watch Law and Order: SVU. You'll remember the times you went and did things and tried new things.

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