Have any males experienced what I am feeling now being in nursing school?

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I am in nursing school right now and I feel like I have to vent. I started in Fall of 2008. Everything was nice when we started, I thought everything was going to be OK. Almost being halfway through the program, I never believed how much craziness can happen. Are any of you students the only male in the class with 27 students and 4 female teachers. It is crazy. I think 2 of the teachers especially are crazy and 2 of them are somewhat sane.

One I swear she is bipolar and has always picked on me for stupid things since the 1st day of school. Another one who I always think she is in a stupor. There is so much drama and negativity in the classroom. There have been many changes made to the curriculum. First semester we had a lot of direction with the teaching and we had lecture most of the time. Now here is second semester.

There has been little direction in teaching from the instructors because of the new administrator of all of the programs who implemented a new self teaching rule and a new rule for more group work than lecturing. I thought it would be good for me, but it isn't. I feel like I want to quit because I feel like my teachers put me down because I am the only male in the class, and they always tell me they want me to succeed, but I think that they just want me to fail. I don't know what to do. I have busted my butt doing all this work and I don't want to stop, but these teachers put me into such a depression and anxiety that I had to go to the ER because of there being too much stress on my heart.

There is only one teacher that she feels that when something comes out of her mouth, it makes it sounds like she rather me be out of school than to be there. There is two teachers that I feel comfortable with right now, and who have gotten me this far and I have trust in them. I just had to vent if anyone want to read.

Totally hear what your saying.... Sucks being male. I had a have a good on the trauma unit and there are a few dudes that i have boned with... So nice not talking about make up and dates...lol! I have learned allot on how to let things roll of there backs! Keep truckin man definitely gets easier

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there are a few dudes that i have boned with...

what?

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Specializes in Emergency, Med/Surg, Vascular Access.

^^^^^^^^ lol :D One of those most unfortunate typos.

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20:1 girls to guys, why are you complaining????

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Totally hear what your saying.... Sucks being male. I had a have a good on the trauma unit and there are a few dudes that i have boned with... So nice not talking about make up and dates...lol! I have learned allot on how to let things roll of there backs! Keep truckin man definitely gets easier

lmao. This has to be the best post ever. I know it was a grammatical mistake but lol.

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man, wait till you start working. it's waaayyy crazier.

the little cliques at work make the classroom seem like a fond memory.

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Totally hear what your saying.... Sucks being male. I had a have a good on the trauma unit and there are a few dudes that i have boned with... So nice not talking about make up and dates...lol! I have learned allot on how to let things roll of there backs! Keep truckin man definitely gets easier

What do you mean by 'boned with'? I'm a male as well; however, I do not understand your reference...please elaborate!

~P

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Specializes in Med Surg.
man, wait till you start working. it's waaayyy crazier.

the little cliques at work make the classroom seem like a fond memory.

Agree 110%. The classroom was NOTHING compared to the workplace. In my case it's not the cliques, it's the constant drama. It's not just the way they bring everything to work with them, they try to suck everybody else into it as well. I hate to tell you this ladies but I am really not interested in hearing all the hitronics at 3AM.

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My school was nuts, sounds very much like yours. I'm a bit older, so have experience in other fields. Some of the behavior I've seen from teachers and administrators was beyond bizarre. I think the only sexual component is that women are less likely to complain about it, so the school and teachers feel free to do whatever they want, and if you do complain, they are so surprised that you are angry.

This is not about someone trying hard or not trying hard...it's about students expecting teachers to teach them. I don't understand what planet people are on when they take a job as a teacher and then expect the students to teach themselves. It's beyond bizarre. I had the same thing happen to me...first day of our 3rd semester an instructor said that we were "no longer getting our hands held" and proceeded to do entirely no teaching the entire year. No lectures, powerpoints, videos, nothing. No classes. Craziness.

It's not you, would be my guess. However, I think a lot of programs are like that, sadly.

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Specializes in medical/surgical, acute care, psych..

yes, i felt this way in nursing school, it made it worse when i dated another classmate, and we broke up, the whole class turned against me,,,i became a womanizer and "safety" concern by one of the instructors,,,,i wish i could tell you it gets better,,,there is wide open, little talked about discrimination in nursing against males..the cases where they are paid more, yada yada are few and far between....you are HYPERVISIBLE, anything you do, will stand out, and males are disciplined statistically quicker than female coworkers (check the numbers) read my latest post...other than nursing school, never experienced this that bad, till i came to ALaska 4 months ago....(Fairbanks) email me back for support:)

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I think 2 of the teachers especially are crazy and 2 of them are somewhat sane.

I am one of 7 guys in a class of 80, and have not experienced any of the singling out you mention.

I have experienced some of the weird instruction deficiencies. Part of the problem is that many nursing school instructors are good nurses and good preceptors, but not so good professors. Same goes for the program administrators - great nurses, horrible admins.

These usually capable individuals are not accustomed to being so clueless. They were probably very good nurses and did well academically. However, when they find their clinical experience and academic training did very little to prepare them to be a college professor, they tend to panic. As we know panicky people do weird things.

Sometimes, I try to help them out. I am older and have a lot of experience dealing with superiors, including females, who need some correction and suggestions.

When I run into instruction deficiencies, I tend to focus on the unit objectives and reading material, using the textbook study guide and the small "test review" presented in lecture (if any.) I then spend a lot of time in study groups teaching a group of other students the material the instructor attempted to present. We follow this up with as many practice NCLEX questions on the material as we can find.

Then I take the test and score well. I allow my classmates to complain about bad test questions, which they have no compunction doing!

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