Have any males experienced what I am feeling now being in nursing school?

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I am in nursing school right now and I feel like I have to vent. I started in Fall of 2008. Everything was nice when we started, I thought everything was going to be OK. Almost being halfway through the program, I never believed how much craziness can happen. Are any of you students the only male in the class with 27 students and 4 female teachers. It is crazy. I think 2 of the teachers especially are crazy and 2 of them are somewhat sane.

One I swear she is bipolar and has always picked on me for stupid things since the 1st day of school. Another one who I always think she is in a stupor. There is so much drama and negativity in the classroom. There have been many changes made to the curriculum. First semester we had a lot of direction with the teaching and we had lecture most of the time. Now here is second semester.

There has been little direction in teaching from the instructors because of the new administrator of all of the programs who implemented a new self teaching rule and a new rule for more group work than lecturing. I thought it would be good for me, but it isn't. I feel like I want to quit because I feel like my teachers put me down because I am the only male in the class, and they always tell me they want me to succeed, but I think that they just want me to fail. I don't know what to do. I have busted my butt doing all this work and I don't want to stop, but these teachers put me into such a depression and anxiety that I had to go to the ER because of there being too much stress on my heart.

There is only one teacher that she feels that when something comes out of her mouth, it makes it sounds like she rather me be out of school than to be there. There is two teachers that I feel comfortable with right now, and who have gotten me this far and I have trust in them. I just had to vent if anyone want to read.

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Specializes in Emergency/Cath Lab.

I am the only male too and I find that the teachers pushing me their hardest is because they want to see me succeed the most. Its taxing but man it makes me feel good when I pull that good grade out at the end and can say, wow I actually did everything I could and learned a lot. While i agree self teaching and group work is utter ********, you sometimes have to adapt to the program and adjust your own style of learning. Stick it out if you can. No one ever said it was easy ( well to me at least ha ha )

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Specializes in LTC.

I love the guys in my class ! I know its off topic but I think its great !

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Specializes in Med-Tele, Internal Med PCU.

It shouldn't be about whether a teacher wants you to succeed. It is all about whether YOU want to succeed and what you are doing to make it happen.

It's not a male-female thing, it is a performance thing.

Think about your theraputic communication class and ask yourself the hard questions, don't make excuses make changes.

School can be tough and at times overwhelming, but I do not know of one person who has failed that did not deserve it. "The minimum score is 76, you got a 75.4 you didn't meet the standard." "You were absent 21 times this semester, you are only allowed to miss 20% of classes."

If you need study help say the word, don't idly complain.

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Specializes in Emergency Dept. Trauma. Pediatrics.

I can't relate because I am a female, I just wanted to offer you a littler support. Don't give up, you have come this far and you aren't in school forever so this isn't going to be the way it is forever. Try to keep yourself out of any of the negative things and not let it get in YOUR way. Show the teachers you have more will to succeed then they have to keep you down. For what it is worth, I would much rather have a class full of guys over girls ANY DAY so I can only imagine how it must be for a guy to be stuck with a room full of woman. LOL I just get along better with guys or other girls that are like me which I usually can find one.

Anyway I hope things get better for you, but even if they don't, keep your focus on YOU and YOUR STUDIES and keep site of your goal.I wish you well. :)

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we hear ya dude... let it out...

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Specializes in Emergency.

my program is insane as well. im the 1 of 3 guys, the others in their 40's out of 26.

most of the class is drama or has been this semester, but i am doing better than most so I am happy. just ignore people and their negativity. i know how that feels i get it from hospital staff, teachers, classmates, and patients. they are all haters because they dont understand that nursing is different these days and it isnt all girls and homosexual men. its a fantastic career and damnit i am glad ive done it and damn glad im gonna be an RN. so F*** them :)

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Specializes in Rehabilitation; LTC; Med-Surg.

I'm in a class of 62 with a total of eight male students. It is difficult being in a class with that many women, but at least we know there is a REAL biological reason for the craziness: estrogen. WAY too much estrogen.

So... take it as they come and let it roll off your shoulders. I have two and a half more months in my program and I am simply counting the days and ignoring the women!

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From my experience:some clinical instructors hate males in nursing and they will try to micromanage you and pick on all your mistakes (or show you "better" way to do it).

On the other hand, some clinical instructors will be in love with you, and will make you life easier.

Female students usually want to have males in their clinical groups, less cat-fighting, and some estrogen tension is released.

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I have seen both sides! I have had clinical teachers really over-evaluate me to see if I am a "good" male nurse or a "bad" one. It's almost like if you prove yourself than you can climb more quickly, odd. On the other hand I have had clinical instructors who could have cared less what medication I gave to whom, just glad I was a guy....

However, 90 percent of the time I get what I deserve and the freebees are weighed evenly by the ass kickers. So it all works out. I like the ass kickers more anyway. What *****? Bring it on!

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Specializes in Psych.

that is too bad. I graduated in Phoenix and our class seemed to be almost half and half male/female. We didn't think too much about it I guess. There was only one teacher who made it clear she did not think men should be in nursing. She was complained about by our class and the new incoming freshman class. She was later dismissed.

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