Got really put down by my supervisor today

rawrn · Oct 2, 2009

Since you say you've been there 6 yrs...is this typical behavior for these supervisors?

jdub3 · Oct 2, 2009

Since you say you've been there 6 yrs...is this typical behavior for these supervisors?

No I have been an Exercise Physiologist and a Physical Therapy Aid. 3 different supervisors over the years... I am a brand new RN... I don't know these supervisors...

rawrn · Oct 2, 2009

i realize that some ppl will disagree with me, but i c no need for this type of negative criticism and to be quite honest, I'm not sure i'd want to work for or with ppl like this. For me, nursing is about team work. Mayb they had bad days, still no excuse, mayb there's a personality issue, again, no excuse...mayb they c real potential in you and are cing how you handle pressure and criticism.

rubystar · Oct 2, 2009

I've delt with this kind of rubbish myself in the last few weeks. As a result, I get to do redo my last clinical placement. I think it's more a reflection of the corporate rubbish side of things than your actual ability to do the job. I think you pretty much have to suck up to these people rather than defend your actions, even if you're right. It's horrible that so many dysfunctional people exist in nursing, who would rather pick over you over a few tiny things rather than support you. Good luck.

rawrn · Oct 2, 2009

I've delt with this kind of rubbish myself in the last few weeks. As a result, I get to do redo my last clinical placement. I think it's more a reflection of the corporate rubbish side of things than your actual ability to do the job. I think you pretty much have to suck up to these people rather than defend your actions, even if you're right. It's horrible that so many dysfunctional people exist in nursing, who would rather pick over you over a few tiny things rather than support you. Good luck.

sad but true. believe me though..u will find many kind and caring nurses who "don't eat their young" and those ppl will far outweigh these idiots

mn_nurse · Oct 2, 2009

Wow.. I can't believe that management actually treats employees like this. I wonder which management training course they learned these skills in.

My first reaction would be to just quit and not put up with their behavior. But that would be really difficult to explain to your next employer. My advice is to show that you are trying to do what they ask and document everything. If they try to railroad you later, it would help your cause to have some proof that you were doing everything that was asked of you.

Good luck

caliotter3 · Oct 2, 2009

Whether or not you feel you can salvage this by sucking up enough, you might want to take a good look at the handwriting on the wall and start a job search. That is what I would do in your situation.

roser13, ASN, RN · Oct 2, 2009

Well, I'll likely receive brickbats for this, but here goes:D:

I don't understand what is so criminally wrong about what your nurse manager did.

She didn't address these issues in front of anyone else, she arranged a private appointment with you to address her concerns about your progress. You are on orientation, you know. Orientation is supposed to be used as a time for being guided in the proper way to operate within the unit.

She didn't belittle you, as I read your post. What she said may be considered "rubbish" or "negative criticism" by other posters, but it could also be considered constructive criticism, something that everyone, not just orientees, needs to be able to handle. It is your manager's job to guide you.

In your post, you even admit to some of the issues that she raises....losing schedules, checklists, etc. As to your being perceived as 'cocky,' well I would be grateful to be informed early on that I was being perceived in a somewhat negative way. That way I could work on understanding how I come across in my communication with my peers and instructors.

Yes, you may have 6 years in the hospital, but not as an RN and not on this unit. I believe that your future may rest with your response to this intervention and how well you address the issues that were raised.

morte, LPN, LVN · Oct 2, 2009

Well, I'll likely receive brickbats for this, but here goes:D:
I don't understand what is so criminally wrong about what your nurse manager did.
She didn't address these issues in front of anyone else, she arranged a private appointment with you to address her concerns about your progress. You are on orientation, you know. Orientation is supposed to be used as a time for being guided in the proper way to operate within the unit.
She didn't belittle you, as I read your post. What she said may be considered "rubbish" or "negative criticism" by other posters, but it could also be considered constructive criticism, something that everyone, not just orientees, needs to be able to handle. It is your manager's job to guide you.
In your post, you even admit to some of the issues that she raises....losing schedules, checklists, etc. As to your being perceived as 'cocky,' well I would be grateful to be informed early on that I was being perceived in a somewhat negative way. That way I could work on understanding how I come across in my communication with my peers and instructors.
Yes, you may have 6 years in the hospital, but not as an RN and not on this unit. I believe that your future may rest with your response to this intervention and how well you address the issues that were raised.

lol, i just came back to this post to say very similar things.....i am not an organized person myself....but as a manager (no way!) i would not be favorably impressed with someone who lost important paper work.....the comment on cocky attitude is so subjective, i would probably ask for more feedback on that....confidence and cocky are/can be close.....good luck

CapeCodMermaid, RN · Oct 2, 2009

i realize that some ppl will disagree with me, but i c no need for this type of negative criticism and to be quite honest, I'm not sure i'd want to work for or with ppl like this. For me, nursing is about team work. Mayb they had bad days, still no excuse, mayb there's a personality issue, again, no excuse...mayb they c real potential in you and are cing how you handle pressure and criticism.

Criticism no matter how kindly delivered will always be seen by some as negative. As supervisors/managers it is part of our jobs to instruct and let people know where they need to improve.

That said, rawrn, c is not a word. Mayb is not a word. cing is not a word.

I'm sure you'll think that was negative criticism, but we speak and write English in this country and shouldn't make up words or funky spellings.

kids · Oct 2, 2009

lol, i just came back to this post to say very similar things.....i am not an organized person myself....but as a manager (no way!) i would not be favorably impressed with someone who lost important paper work.....the comment on cocky attitude is so subjective, i would probably ask for more feedback on that....confidence and cocky are/can be close.....good luck

I see no point at this early hour to rehash the previous couple of posters so I'll just quite morte and nod.

Criticism no matter how kindly delivered will always be seen by some as negative. As supervisors/managers it is part of our jobs to instruct and let people know where they need to improve.
That said, rawrn, c is not a word. Mayb is not a word. cing is not a word.
I'm sure you'll think that was negative criticism, but we speak and write English in this country and shouldn't make up words or funky spellings.

Thank you.

Personally, if people who won't take the time to construct a literate sentence with the words spelled out I won't take the time to decipher it. I accept that internet shorthand is widely used used on message boards, I still find it sloppy and inconsiderate of the people who are reading.