Mind Boggling - Not going to graduation? - page 7

Can someone please help me to understand why a nursing student would not want to attend his/her pinning ceremony. :uhoh3: I just don't understand. My friend and I are about to complete our... Read More

  1. by   That Guy
    Quote from ChayaN
    No recognition=no job.
    I hate that the world works this way, but the fact is that unacknowledged achievements, even if they're appreciated between you and G-d, won't help you advance your career.
    I hate that the world thinks your horn needs to be tooted everytime you do something good/accomplish something. What is so wrong with flying under the radar? What I do at work is my job and I do a damn good job at it. Do I want praise for doing what is expected and going above a lot of the time, no. Will I listen to it to make others happy, sure but I really dont care.
  2. by   JeanettePNP
    Quote from That Guy
    I hate that the world thinks your horn needs to be tooted everytime you do something good/accomplish something. What is so wrong with flying under the radar? What I do at work is my job and I do a damn good job at it. Do I want praise for doing what is expected and going above a lot of the time, no. Will I listen to it to make others happy, sure but I really dont care.
    How did you get your job? By handing in a blank resume?
  3. by   Tweety
    In my ADN class we had 100% participation in our pinning. I would have had to have been totally incapacitated to miss that after all the hard work.

    Only about a third of us did the cap and gown ceremony, as people were satisfied with the pinning. To me graduation means a cap and gown and that was important to me.

    When I got my BSN, I skipped the ceremonies which were in another town as I did online courses. I had just divorced my ex and I didn't feel like going out of town and attending graduation by myself. No regrets.
  4. by   Tweety
    Quote from That Guy
    I hate that the world thinks your horn needs to be tooted everytime you do something good/accomplish something. What is so wrong with flying under the radar? What I do at work is my job and I do a damn good job at it. Do I want praise for doing what is expected and going above a lot of the time, no. Will I listen to it to make others happy, sure but I really dont care.

    I understand what you're saying. You're who you are and shouldn't have to defend that.

    I don't think my horn needs to be tooted everytime I do something good/accomplish something. I get a lot of satisfaction at the end of the day when I work my butt off and make a difference. That's really all I need. (I've read boomers like me are like this and the younger generations need more feedback).

    Still, I have to admit it feels good to get a complement or an award, or make the dean's list or graduate summa cum laude. I'm always generous with praising others and thankful for their hard work. It lifts their spiritis, even if they want to fly under the radar.

    And you can bet my resume states I've gotten two Nurse Excellence Awards and Nurse of the Year at this facility over 18 years. I did attend those three ceremonies.

    In the end the drive to work hard and succeed is something that comes from within me, rather than from external rewards and I'd do it anyway without the recognition, which trust me doesn't come all that often.
    Last edit by Tweety on Jun 4, '10
  5. by   KaroSnowQueen
    Back in the days when dinosaurs roamed the earth, we had a capping ceremony - I didn't attend because I wasn't sure if I was getting funding to continue going to school, this was about halfway through. I did sit home and cry because I wanted to go, but thought it would be so painful to go and then not be able to finish school. In the end, I did FINALLY get funding in time to finish with my class.
    I walked at graduation. They just handed us our pins, still in the plastic manufacturer's case, after we got our diplomas. No pinning ceremony, I didn't know schools had pinning ceremonies til I got on allnurses!!
  6. by   That Guy
    Quote from Tweety

    In the end the drive to work hard and succeed is something that comes from within me, rather than from external rewards and I'd do it anyway without the recognition, which trust me doesn't come all that often.
    ^^^^ THIS!!!! This right here is exactly what I was trying to say.

    And no I didnt hand in a blank resume, I know that I have to play the game of look at what I have done.
  7. by   tokyoROSE
    I just attended a high school graduation last night, and I thought it was ridiculously boring. University graduations are not much different -- except you have hundreds more students. I was proud of the graduate, but I think a private celebration would be a lot more meaningful and enjoyable. I did not attend my own high school graduation for this matter. I graduated early, did not know my class, and did not think high school was a big deal. I breezed through it with honors. I am not the type to enjoy ceremonies. We had a scholarship ceremony and that made me extremely uncomfortable, even for a brief minute I was up there. At the end of the day when I hold my diploma in my hand, that is more than enough satisfaction for me. I will be proud of myself as being the first college graduate in my family, but I still feel like attending graduation is a waste of time. Our pinning is also a separate ceremony. Sigh.
  8. by   outrunningzombies
    I've already ****** off my family by telling them I won't attend my graduation. Graduation is in the spring, I finish in the fall, and I see no appeal in hanging in a hot, black outfit in the Texas summer for several hours 6 months after finishing classes. I didn't want to go to my high school graduation either, but my parents forced me since I was still living with them. I still think going was a waste of time.

    I might go to pinning. I probably won't, because I'm not one of those "nursing is a calling" people. I am going to school to obtain career training. I'm in my late 20s so school isn't my first exciting experience away from home, it is nothing more than a means to an end.

    Skipping graduation or getting pinned doesn't equal handing in a blank resume. I'm still getting a BSN, so who cares if I spent $$$ to get pinned/wear a cap and gown/etc?
  9. by   HyperSaurus, RN
    I'm not a 'nursing is a calling' person either, but I will go to my pinning. If nothing else, it won't be as interminably long as a graduation. That aside, I do enjoy getting to know my class and going to the pinning would mean something special to me. But for those who don't care, I don't see why they should have to go.
  10. by   tankgrrl13
    Mines in 2 wks and I've decided not to go for several reasons 1) Since leaving the army yrs ago, I've struggled with PTSD and serious anxiety issues-and everytime I let myself think about dealing with the ceremony/crowds etc-it's just been way too overwhelming 2) for the most part, I don't feel particularly close to anyone in my class-and I want to celebrate this milestone with those that have helped me get through this-which doesn't include anyone in my class 3) I'm in my mid 30's, and I've had my share of award ceremonies, and quite frankly they just don't matter as much as they did when I was younger.
  11. by   plumiegirl
    I only went to my ADN ceremony. The only folks that were RNs were the instructors and myself since I graduated in December and then passed my boards in the spring. I went to the June graduation with june grads. No one in my December class was there. They had a private pinning ceremony in December but I chose the Hawaii vacation that had been planned months earlier before this ceremony came about.

    All that said, who actually wears their pins to work? How important is all this vs getting your actual license so you can work? I did not go to my BSN graduation because I hate the crowds, the parking issues, the usual summer heat in my part of the US. I did not really care to go. I also did not attend my M.Ed. I still have all my degrees on paper hanging on the wall of my home. The only thing of importance may be your transcripts which are the main proof of your degree. I am still happy with my career path and working, this is what is important to me.

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