My husband of 5 years is alternately supportive of me going to school (everyone in his family has a B.Sc. or higher) and unsupportive of me not being at home fulltime with our son. It's little things, like him saying that I "have to have everything organised" or "do you really think you can take all those classes and keep the house up" or "how is Sam going to do in daycare"? His favourite refrain is "well, if we could live off of your income, you could do whatever you want and I would be happy to stay at home, but we don't have that luxury"--knowing that even if I went back to work at my old job fulltime tomorrow, I'd still make less than 1/3 of his income. The worst is when he makes references to my history of depression--a disease I have managed well with medication--saying things like, "are you sure you can do this? are you taking your meds?" if I forget to make the bed or something.
I am currently applying for some (menial) 3rd shift jobs at the hospital near my home just so that I don't have to pay childcare and tuition expenses out of 'his' money. If I land one of those jobs, the hospital has a tuition reimbursement programme. I'm not in the nursing programme yet, just taking basic courses now, will fulltime start Fall of 2003, so it could get worse before it gets better, especially on the childcare front. My husband has changed a grand total of 24 diapers over 17 months.
Incidentally, shabookitty, my husband is also 37, and I think the age is a big factor. He really wants another child and soon, and I think on some level he's worried that I won't produce one if I'm in school (I'm 27).