Having a hard time with the people in my nursing school...

Horseshoe, BSN, RN · Dec 13, 2016

I don't recall saying I was the only "good seed", don't twist my words! I have a group of friends in the program, i just was not aware of how dramatic nursing school was...

Hi there! I guess I came on here to vent since I'm not sure where else to go for advice or a nursing vent sesh. I'm a first semester nursing student and I find myself really disliking a lot of the people I go to school with. Everyone is very dramatic, two faced, and back stabbing...you can't trust anyone!

Oh good grief, I certainly did not "twist your words." I quoted your exact words saying that "everyone" is dramatic, two faced and backstabbing. Furthermore, that you can't trust "anyone." That pretty much describes your entire class as being bad seeds, yourself excluded.

Maybe you didn't really mean "everyone," and were just being a little bit, you know, "dramatic." :rolleyes:

TruvyNurse · Dec 13, 2016

I suggest just focusing on studies and spending time with your outside friends. Most of those girls/guys won't make it in the program and you are not there to be buddy buddy. You are there to get an education in nursing. Be polite and civil, but focus on school. Their drama will only drag you down.

Scottishtape · Dec 13, 2016

Hmm. I must be lucky then, because we don't have anything like that in our class. We are a smaller class though, maybe 18-20 at this point. We all get along very well, we help each other by sharing resources and information whenever the need arises, and we are all very supportive of each other.

Sorry you're having a hard time. I don't know that excessive socializing is a good thing while in nursing school anyways. Best to focus on your studies, and socialize at the end of the semester. That should cut down a lot of the issues you're having.

Good luck.

WKShadowNP, DNP, APRN · Dec 13, 2016

It has been such a long time ago, but I eschewed the socialization mainly because for the first 75% of nursing school I was underage. I couldn't drink anyway. Toward the end when I was 21 or older I only went out once. We had wine coolers after a final at a classmate's house. We were the core group, I guess, after the class size had pared down to a 1/3 of its beginning numbers. One guy had more than others and ended up throwing a dart at the dart board but hit someone's hand. I barely had half a breezer and I was more than finished. (I can't stand most alcoholic beverages, so I don't drink.)

I was unimpressed with the gathering and not interested in continuing those outings. The other times were study sessions that were mostly serious. Sometimes volatile if we had a disagreement about a project, but for the most part, we all had the mutual goal of succeeding so it went OK.

Good luck to you.

DeeAngel · Dec 13, 2016

Stay focused, keep your eyes forward and find friends elsewhere. All you owe your fellow students is civility, nothing more. It's nice to have students as friends but if it doesn't work out, thats just fine too. Surely there are others who feel as you do, reach out to them if you can.

purplegal · Dec 13, 2016

I have to say that my experience was not really like that.

We all had our own groups of people we preferred studying with and practicing skills with, but, honestly, we were also willing to interact, in a friendly manner, with everyone since we all had the common goal of becoming a nurse.

This isn't to say that no one ever gossiped, as I do remember a time when some people were suggesting that certain people in class were cheating. However, I really don't know the extent to which it occurred since I always avoided situations in which that was happening. I remember that, if someone did feel the need to talk about someone else, I would just listen, give a neutral reply and try not to offer any opinion. Even though I did not become close friends with everyone, I did maintain a good, working relationship by being friendly, not engaging in gossip and, most importantly, focusing on my own studies to become a nurse.

Some people in my nursing class did go out for drinks, but I was not interested in that. Fortunately, I was able to find some like-minded people who wanted to focus on their nursing studies, and I did become good friends with them.

So, I would just suggest focusing on your nursing studies and finding others who want to do the same. A good study group can be very helpful. Certainly, not everyone wants to go out and gossip or drink. Maintain a neutral relationship with everyone, even those you are not friends with.

My thought is the girl who got kicked out of the restaurant will probably have other issues that will make her nursing school journey difficult, if not impossible. However, I'm inclined to believe that not everyone is like her and that, in fact, she is in a very small minority.

Conqueror+, BSN, RN · Dec 13, 2016

I did not have friends in school I had classmates. I have a total of ONE friend that I met at work in 20+ years of nursing. We hung out after I left the building to work elsewhere. It has served me well but I am sure there is an argument for dragging your personal life past the timeclock/classroom doorway. All you need is some social media posting entitled "two drunk nurses get in shoving match at a bar."

Trauma Columnist · Dec 13, 2016

Moved to general student forum

ng521 · Dec 14, 2016

People, she came on here to vent a little. Now and then we need a little vent session. Leave the girl alone! No where in this did I assume she had the feeling of being superior than her classmates. In my nursing program it's the same-drama, people who are loud and talk behind each other backs. My only advice to you hun is to focus on your studies and let the negativity be, that's what I do.

OrganizedChaos, LVN · Dec 14, 2016

People, she came on here to vent a little. Now and then we need a little vent session. Leave the girl alone! No where in this did I assume she had the feeling of being superior than her classmates. In my nursing program it's the same-drama, people who are loud and talk behind each other backs. My only advice to you hun is to focus on your studies and let the negativity be, that's what I do.

But she said "everyone" & then got nasty in a reply. How can we know she had friends in her nursing class when she said "everyone" was evil & backstabbing? People are trying to assess the situation with only the given information. If she didn't want varied replies she shouldn't have come on a public forum.

NocNurs · Dec 14, 2016

My first semester of nursing (lpn) started with 54 students. 21 graduated. A good portion of those chose to drop out. Some failed and others changed quickly as the content became harder. I think you are probably not the only one who is disgusted and soon those who lack the seriousness nursing requires will find their way out. :)

anchorRN, BSN, MSN, RN, APRN · Dec 14, 2016

LOL @ getting kicked out of a restaurant. Cant make that stuff up lolol

Buddy up with the guys. Much less drama :)