annoying students!!!! - page 2
I know there have been many of these threads before but I have to vent! I am usually quiet in class, keep to myself, get my work done and do well in the class. Somehow some of the students in my... Read More
Feb 18, '04Occupation: Nurse Intern Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 25good luck on what ever happens. Just because your quiet doesn't mean you not nice. Sometimes people may think your too nice, and walk all over you. That is when you need to fess up and speak your mind. This has nothing to do with your nursing, but with personal self.
Feb 18, '04Joined: Sep '03; Posts: 93; Likes: 4Quote from hyperstudentWow, hyperstudent, you must have lots of personal experience with this sort of student, judging by your above post. Are you one of "them," fighting valiantly to protect your own interests?? Free ride be damned, if a student can't do his/her work in school do you want him/her to hold your life in their hands?? I don't think so!!If you were friendlier maybe you would have a clique too and then you wouldn't be so jealous!
How do you think nursing will be different that what you are dealing with now? You will have rude people needing help and not appreciating your effort. Learn to deal with it, it comes with the territory. It is a UNIversity not a SOLOversity. There is something inheriently wrong with believing your fellow students owe you a debt of gratitude for your self proclaimed brilliance. Help for the sake of helping. Its called alturism, give it a try. What is wrong with sharing your skill with someone who may need a little clarity on dosage calculations, , diagnoses, etc.? This benefits EVERYONE. If you don't want to help, then your commonsense (which is obviously missing) should tell you not to. Trust me, your classmates will get the help they need without you, and they will be much better off because they will be getting help from someone who has more compassion and better people skills than you.
My question to you is, if you are so smart why could you not handle this problem on your own.
And a bit of irony....You are in a forum with people you never see, hardly ever speak with, barely know, but here you are asking for answers.......hmmmmm?????????? Sound familiar???? Arent you glad we do not have your attitude?
Feb 18, '04Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 107; Likes: 2To tell you the truth, I am one of those students who ask my classmates on what I need help on in class. Some students are okay with it if I ask them and some are not. Those students who do not help me or seem irritated when I ask are not very nice people. I think classmates should help one another. But there is a limit on what to ask for help on. Anyway, if you help a person, it makes a person appear better. This is just my opinion.
Feb 18, '04Joined: Aug '03; Posts: 1,284; Likes: 358bigmona,
An easy way to get them to leave you alone is to give them bogus answers when they ask what you got. I bet after a couple of times with the wrong answer, they'll go to some-one else or figure out the question themselves.
I like the idea of the poster who said "I didn't study so copy at your own risk," that gets the idea across with out being rude.Last edit by S.N. Visit on Feb 18, '04
Feb 18, '04Joined: Jan '04; Posts: 145; Likes: 36i agree with hyperstudent, right on. and i also agree with hopefully.
just because you arent in their cliques, you cant assume that they are using you. they asked the question, and you probably answered it, then they left you alone because they dont want to bother you anymore. that's my little theory.
but its good to communicate with classmates you dont know, so that you can get to know them. if you dont like it and you get angry about it, i feel sad really sad, and i want to reach out to you.
how else are you gonna get to know them and make friends unless you open up...
ps: this aint a support board, where you can post and people can agree with what you say, so that you can feel better afterwards. sometimes the truth is the answer.Last edit by Wheaties on Feb 18, '04
Feb 18, '04Occupation: Operating Room Nurse Specialty: 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '03; Posts: 17,036; Likes: 1,007My, my....
Anyway, Mona, it's your choice whether you want to help people or not. Not an obligation.
Feb 18, '04Occupation: Operating Room Nurse Specialty: 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '03; Posts: 17,036; Likes: 1,007TERMS OF SERVICE
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please debate the issue not the person!
Feb 18, '04Occupation: icu nurse Joined: Jul '02; Posts: 10,260; Likes: 233I have reopened the thread please remember to debate issues not people.
Feb 19, '04Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 107; Likes: 2This is the way I look at it. If you help someone out, it just makes you a better person. For example, if a house was burning, and someone in the house saw you and asked for your help, would you help the person? Well, some people will in anyway they can like making a phone call. I think the same situation applies to the classroom also when someone asks for help. Yes, there are some people who just cannot handle the course work at school but how about the others who have the potential to understand but just need a little help? Not all people who ask questions are stupid.
Feb 19, '04Occupation: Operating Room Nurse Specialty: 5 yrs OR, ASU Pre-Op 2 yr. ER ; From: US ; Joined: Jun '03; Posts: 17,036; Likes: 1,007"They only talk to me when they want something- what the homework assignment was, what the answer to a homework question was, what the class notes were, they want to borrow my lab book or textbook or a pen or whatever else. These people aren't friendly to me, they NEVER EVER speak to me unless they want something! "
This is why i cannot say 'sure help them out, it's the nice thing to do'. Sounds like they would just be using her. I don't know a whole lot of people that are ok with that.
Feb 19, '04Occupation: icu nurse Joined: Jul '02; Posts: 10,260; Likes: 233I have "split" the thread and am returning this portion to the board - apologies if there are now "gaps" within the flow of the thread but it was easier to fix things this way than to edit.