I can't think of anyone who intimidates me. I grew up with an intimidating father, so I learned pretty quickly how to deal with intimidator's. Now, if someone is TRYING to intimidate me, it just pisses me off.
I'm gonna take a shot at your "problem", mario. I'm currently precepting a student that reminds me alot of you. He's smart, assertive, outspoken..and not your "typical male" (no, not gay either).
I've had to step back and think about how to deal with him at times. An overly-assertive student or new grad scares the hell out of me and until I
am confident in his knowledge and abilities, I usually would prefer he not be quiet so confident himself, because I fear he'll unintentionally harm a patient. Also, as already pointed out, unfortunately, many nurses loose alot of theory based knowledge once we're out of school. Soooo, some questions are beyond our knowledge base and some people have a problem telling someone they're teaching "i don't know, but let's go research and see..".
I'm willing to bet it has nothing to do with your sex, rather with your assertiveness and quickness to adapt to new enviroments. My student, for example, is quick to "butt-in" and answer questions when one nurse is asking an opinion of another nurse. This irritates the heck out of my coworker's. I didn't understand why, but they went on to tell me they feel he is cocky and many times he really doesn't know what they're talking about. Basically, they feel that you need to learn to crawl before you try to win a marathon.
My advice to you would be (you are asking advice, aren't you??
sit back and be humble and allow the staff to warm to you before you burst in with your outgoing personality...
sit back and see which nurse the rest of the staff goes to with questions/for advice (and there WILL be one) and approach THAT nurse with your question's...maybe even patronize her a bit by mentioning how impressed you are with her knowledge,etc.
drop the attitude that every problem you encounter in nursing is sex-based..if you expect to be treated different because you're male, then you will be treated different
don't bombard the nurses with tons of questions. jot your questions down and ask your instructor in post-conference. remember, the nurse is already over-stressed with responsibilities and she is not being paid to teach you..your instructor is. (sad attitude, but an overwhelming number of nurses feel this way)
most of all, lighten up! you can't learn everything at once and if you sit back and observe, you'll be amazed how much you learn. Let the nurses know you are very interested in learning new skills/etc..ask them to please get you if there is anything interesting they can show you. then leave it up to them.
now, with all that said, let me add..
your knowledge is ten times that of the average nurse. i read things you post here and i have no clue what you're talking about. many times i don't even think it's something i've ever heard, not just something i forgot. for many nurses, i'm sure your knowledge is intimidating..and irritating if you're verbalizing all your deep knowledge to them.
it's not you, mario..it's them. BUT, unfortunately, you have to adapt to them..not them to you. Welcome to nursing!! <wispers> It's called, "eating the young". It reminds me of kids..
they seem to come into the world knowing so much more about life than adults...but we'd never want to admit it!