Where's the love?

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    Last edit by adrienurse on Sep 17, '08
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  3. by   nakitamoon
    Adrie,,,, ((((( hugs ))))) from the comma girl! lol

    I totally understand where you are,,, hope you find something to help get through,,,,

    I too have problem with the ppl I work with,,, I am in geriatrics as well,,,, and I have to deal with ppl who work at 25%,,, and that is a good day,,,, I ask,,,, how can I make my staff work at 90 /100%,,, as they see the ones not,,, and still employeed,,,,

    I get so tired of hearing them say,,,, this person ~~~ this resident,,~~ Remind them this is why we have a job,,,, they need us,,,, but somedays it is a losing battle,,,,,,

    I also am working soooo much I feel I never have time for my family,,, let alone a few moments for myself,,,, & if I take the time for myself,,, feel it should be spent with family,,,, so I do,,, and resent it,,,,, my own fault /feelings,,,,,

    I have copies,,, of the serenity prayer everywhere,,, read it over and over,,, some days!!

    Smile,,,, think of something good,,,,, feel better ~kitamoon,,,,,
  4. by   Jenny P
    Adrie, Nikita, Duckie, and all nurses who work with the confused geriatric population:
    I take my hat off to you and bow down low before you in admiration and respect! Your job is hard and you toil on without the glamour and high visibility of those of us nurses who work in acute care and or highly technical settings. We will never see a show titled "Nursing Home" like the show "ER"- okay, I know that nurses aren't glorified on that TV show either, but at least when a nurse says she works in ER or ICU, the general public has some idea what that nurse does.

    Not so the LTC or geriatric nurse. People have visions of nursing homes from 30 or 40 years ago; not the specialized units for dementia patients or acute care patients. You care for the people who built this country; the ones who may have fought in WWI and WWII or possibly lost their loved ones in them; who survived the Great Depression; and people who remained optimistic back then and believed that they COULD make the world a better place! These elders should be revered and loved; Instead, our society shuffles them off to nursing homes; pays their caretakers minimum salaries and still expects them to work short handed!

    Love those patients and use your special talents to make the patients lives more comfortable. Remind the staff members who aren't working and carrying their weight that they may end up as a patient here too someday and you hope they are treated like they treated their patients too,
  5. by   renerian
    I am sorry your feeling so bad today. Try to think what would happen to your patients if you would not have been there for them today. Every little thing you day helps them try to be the best they can be for that day. You may not feel like you are making a dent but one by one if we all do the best we can do for that given moment, we are making a differnce collectively.


  6. by   NurseDennie
    Ohhhhh, Jenny P - that was beautiful! Amen and amen.


  7. by   canoehead
    I don't know what to say except you are only one person, and the residents know when they have even one staffperson they can depend on. Keep dogging the lazy butts, and remind them that they are older than you (if they are) and you plan on treating them to a dose of their own medicine in about 20 years.
  8. by   christianRN
    What Jenny P said; I can't add to it or make it any better. That's exactly what I feel from the bottom of my heart. All my respect and admiration to you, Adrie, Nakita, and others!!!
  9. by   jnette
    Well said, JennyP !!! Spoken from the heart.

    Adrien... if you can make just ONE patient smile on any given day, you have done MUCH.

    I know it's hard not to notice what others AREN'T doing, but you'll feel better about yourself and your day if you do what YOU do WELL. Just concentrate on those who really need your smile and your touch, and count each small measure of comfort you ARE able to offer as a true gift to those who so desparately need it. For this is how they will receive it! One small gift at a time, Adrien. If you can only touch one life a day, it's all worth it! YOU may not see it that way, but I'm willing to bet THEY do !!! :kiss

    And HERE'S TO ALL LTC NURSES !!!! You're the BEST !!!
  10. by   donmurray
    Warehouse or greenhouse? Which would they prefer to work in. Or more to the point, which would they prefer to live in? The staff attitude to care of our elderly makes the difference, even if the surroundings are not the best. Adrienne, you keep working on that greenhouse, nurturing and promoting growth as well as you do, and get the warehouse/holding tank workers to try a little gardening!
  11. by   LoisJean
    Try to find a few minutes; touch each one of your patients and say to each one, "I love you and I am here for you". Go from one to the next to the next. Don't stop to talk, don't hesitate to explain yourself. Do this quickly. Do it every day. Refuse to let any thing interrupt you. If you can do this each day when you are on duty for one month, you will find something wonderful will happen. Try it.

    Lois Jean
  12. by   micro
    What all have said, Adrie......
    Keep being the nurse and person you are. There will always be those in our field, that unfortunately do not belong there.....and those who for whatever reason think it is only for the $.
    But you/we care for humans.........human beings, that need us and our skills, abilities, protection, respect and 'loving touch'
    Do what you can and be yourself. What you can give is all you can give. It is appreciated and seen. Maybe it will touch another coworker's heart and they in turn will become as brave as you to love those in their care. Yours is not an easy job.
    I am a human being. Patients and residents are human beings. Thus, I see them as people in need of love, connection, and respect.
    'nough rambling from micro
  13. by   Nurse Ratched
    We love you and the geriatric patients .

    Forget about the allnurses hospital - when are we gonna open up the allnurses nursing home?
  14. by   Jenny P
    Originally posted by canoehead
    I don't know what to say except you are only one person, and the residents know when they have even one staffperson they can depend on. Keep dogging the lazy butts, and remind them that they are older than you (if they are) and you plan on treating them to a dose of their own medicine in about 20 years.
    Oooohh, Canoehead, what a lovely thought-- or two!!