Where is the caring and advocacy for ME when I really need it????

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Specializes in MICU/SICU.

:crying2: My sister died unexpectedly yesterday. I am flying a red eye home tonight. I am so hysterical & I HATE flying. Like hate it to the point where I have diarrhea, throw up, feel like I'm going to pass out. I sweat the whole flight. Nevermind the fact that I just mentioned MY SISTER DIED, and I am alternating between being numb, and hurting beyond belief right now

So I call my the doctor on call at my office. I tell the answering service my problem in a nutshell. I tell them my sister just died, I have to fly tonight, and I would like a few xanax. The ***** at the answering services goes, "yeah he's not going to do that for you." I say, "why don't you let ME speak with the doctor?" So...the answering service calls back, NOT the doctor and says, "So and so can help you out on Monday." Monday?! I just told you my sister died, I have to fly and I need xanax!!! I was asking for a couple - not 60!!!! And how passive-aggressive that the god damn doctor doesn't call back himself. I am SO done with that office.

So I've only lived in the city I've lived for a few months, so I call my old doctor, who doesn't even know I moved, b/c I never transferred records etc. I saw her in Spring of 2009. She is amazing and miss her so much. Unfortunately she is not on call, and I get one of her associates. I calmly try to tell him the situation and what I need. He asks how I know what xanax is. I tell him I'm a nurse, and I've taken it to fly before. He asks me what airline I'm flying, what time I'm leaving. I tell him I'm flying US Airways and flying red eye. He the proceeds to tell me that he can't do that over the phone, it's a dangerous med, and I need to find another way to calm myself down. I stop him and say, "That's fine if you won't prescribe it for me." He keeps talking to me like I am a drug seeker, and I say, "LOOK. I APPRECIATE YOUR CALL BACK I JUST SAID I UNDERSTAND. HAVE A GREAT NEW YEAR!" and hung up on him. He just wanted to hear himself talk!

I'm always there for my patients...:crying2: Where's help when I need it? Are we the only ones that care?

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I am sorry to hear about your sister and your unfortunate experience with your physician's office. Best wishes to you and your family!

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Yes, that is very annoying. Maybe you should check into your local ER, fake some sort of headache or stomach pain and score yourself dilaudid or xanas anytime you want, like most of thse other patients seem to be doing on a daily basis.

Seems anyone who is truthful and responsible gets nothing these days. :icon_roll

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Specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.

I know where you are right now - I've lost a sibling too. You have my deepest sympathy. Please take care.

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Specializes in home health, dialysis, others.

I am so sorry for your loss. Although I have no trouble flying, I understand those that do. I do get sinus headaches sometimes when I fly, so I always keep some of those meds permanently in my carry-on. Take care.

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Specializes in M/S, MICU, CVICU, SICU, ER, Trauma, NICU.

My condolences to you and may these internet hugs truly reach you....I'm so sorry that no one was there to help you...I am so sorry that you are in so much pain...

(((((hugs))))))

Jo

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I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

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Specializes in OR Hearts 10.

I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your family.

As far as getting the xanax, I would just ask one of the docs at the hosp, that I work with, can you do that??

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How terrible.

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ER/Urgent care can assist you with an evaluation for your condition. Benzodiazepines can't be withdrawn suddenly, it needs to be tapered before discontinuing the medication.

So sorry for your loss.

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Specializes in Family Practice.

I'm so sorry u were treated that way.:o Sometimes it does feel like all we do is bend over backwards to help others- I'm sorry there was no one there to help you in yout time of need, not very compassionate of them.

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((( hugs))) I lost my sister 4 years ago, and at times I am still numb.

I am so sorry for your loss and my heart is breaking for you.

I hope somehow you can get on that flight with the meds you need.

Again, I am so sorry.

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