What do you think about dating your coworkers? - page 2
I was just curous what everyone thinks about dating a coworker. I'm not interested in doing it because I have a steady boyfriend. Where I work several people are married to each other. There have... Read More
Apr 16, '04Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 45; Likes: 14Quote from teeituptomNot Me, No Way, Not a chance
Besides my wife would kill me slowly and exquisitely painfully
and she would destroy my golf clubs
As she systematically uses every club to beat you with and then claims it was "an accident."
Apr 16, '04Occupation: ER RN Specialty: ER,ICU,L&D,OR,ETC ; Joined: May '01; Posts: 5,588; Likes: 566She would get me while asleep and Super glue me
so when I woke up I would be completely helpless
Beware of short petite menopausal redheads
Apr 16, '04Occupation: Med/Surg RN, soon to be MICU RN Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 124; Likes: 30When I was a nursing student working as a CNA at a NH, I was dating a coworker. It was fine, as we remained professional at work. But then I graduated and became an RN working per diem at that same NH, and became his supervisor. Now even that was fine as we got along great and still do to this day despite not being together anymore. But there was a night where it was just him, a new orient and I working the unit and the new orient turned him in for being verbally and physically abusive to a patient, which was totally untrue. The new orient was just there causing as much trouble as she could... We almost felt like she was a plant from management to stir things up. But anyways, I vouched for him, and because we were involved it wasn't really looked upon in a good light, even though you know these things have to be investigated anyways despite all.
The moral of the story is that it can make a messy situation even messier in the long run being involved with a coworker. The new orient got fired for false accusations and causing trouble, my CNA BF at the time and I eventually broke up but remain friends, and I have't dated a coworker since.
Apr 16, '04Joined: Oct '02; Posts: 60,384; Likes: 16,559Quote from LPN2Be2004Different depts or different shifts, i'm ok with it. As long as it doesn't become workplace gossip.
I agree different departments, different shifts is an excellent idea.
But we have no control over whether or not anything we do in our private lives becomes workplace gossip. People are going to gossip regardless. I had my spouse's and my picture on my locker for a couple of years before he started working there. I never told a soul that he had started working there, but within days wherever I went it was "I met your 'friend'". Gossip is sometimes out of our control. Who cares anyway.Last edit by Tweety on Apr 16, '04
Apr 16, '04Joined: Sep '02; Posts: 910; Likes: 9I would date a co-worker...Maybe not in the same unit though, or heck, even the same field. Gossip doesn't bug me. I have always been gossiped about by someone, and it is like water down my back.
Apr 16, '04Joined: Jun '02; Posts: 14,165; Likes: 59,205I worked with my husband for 10 years in the same unit, traveled with him (also in the same unit) and am about to start a job in a new city also with my husband in the same unit. The only problem I've ever had was that his former lovers sometimes didn't handle it well -- and that won't be a problem here!
Apr 16, '04Occupation: RN - oncology and palliative care Joined: Jun '00; Posts: 134; Likes: 4Since we spend so much time at work it is hard to say never date anyone from work. There may be time when it is acceptable. However my general rule is: Don't sh** where you eat.
Apr 16, '04Occupation: RN pacu CPAN Specialty: 40 year(s) of experience in Critical Care,Recovery, ED ; From: US ; Joined: Nov '00; Posts: 1,136; Likes: 721If someone fool around at work, eventually one becomes the fool
Apr 16, '04Occupation: RN Joined: Aug '01; Posts: 15So far we've been together 9 years, married 5.
As long as you are professional about it, I don't see that there should be a problem.Last edit by melly on Apr 16, '04
Apr 16, '04Occupation: Critical Care Joined: Aug '00; Posts: 2,629; Likes: 20I think it is a BAD IDEA, problems come from that, pt. care suffers, etc.... I have worked with nurses that did date at the workplace, they took longer lunch and breaks to spend time with the SO, abused the smoking breaks too. Pissed off the regular staff and it turned ugly when they broke up.
Apr 16, '04Joined: Feb '04; Posts: 38I had a relationship with a fellow student in nursing school. It wasn't a big deal for us, but many of our classmates had issues with it. I can only imagine how coworkers would talk if that had happened on the job! When we ended our relationship, we remained friends but it was weird for awhile. I do think dating other nurses is good, as you have someone who understands your career and can empathize, but I agree with the other posters that it should be someone in a different unit.
Apr 16, '04Occupation: staff development Joined: Mar '04; Posts: 538; Likes: 50I don't think I would reccommend it!! Lots of conflicting and awkward situations could happen -- HOWEVER (ever the optimist) it could be a great support and encouragement --
I am tickled to death with my big ol' hubby who thinks that my "nurse stuff" is "gross" and wouldn't trade him for anything!!!! (Unless of course the guy at work was incredibly gorgeous, incredibly wealthy, incredibly sensative and incredibly perfect!-----JUST KIDDING!!!!!!)
Apr 16, '04Occupation: Corrections Nurse Joined: Apr '04; Posts: 173; Likes: 9~~~Women need a reason to have sex.......men just need a place.~~~
I guess you don't know very meny good men do you?