Things I've Learned This Year

  1. A look at the lessons I've learned or re-learned this year. Hopefully, I learn new things every year -- every day even. But some are more memorable than others. Here, then, is a list of the more memorable things I've learned this year.

    Things I've Learned This Year

    There are three kinds of people: there are those who get it, and there are those who don't. The third kind are those who don't get it but think they do. The latter kind are the worst ones to deal with. Just like you cannot teach anyone who already thinks they know everything, you cannot hope that those who don't get it but think that they do will ever get it. They won't. Instead, they'll keep trying to argue that you are wrong, and that they get it and you don't. That can be frustrating and infuriating. Typical example: vent threads. There are those who get that you're venting and either express sympathy or happily pile on with their own (usually humorous) vents. And then there are those who "step on" the vent thread by telling everyone who vented that they are lacking in courtesy or compassion, that they must be horrible nurses/preceptors/people and they should consider a career change. You cannot convince those folks that they are wrong or missing the point. If I were a better person, perhaps I wouldn't bother.

    A sense of humor makes everything better. It's not that I didn't know that before; I did. I've always used my well-developed sense of the absurd as a coping mechanism. It's just been driven home to me yet again that it is better to laugh than to cry. Explosive diarrhea forming a river off the bed and across the room? You're going to have to clean it up anyway, so you might as well laugh about it while you're doing it. The patient's wife who nit-picks everything you do, don't do or have considered doing. You could get angry and frustrated and tell her off -- i'm not saying I haven't done that now and again. Or you could just laugh about it and let it go. That's a far more successful coping mechanism in the long run. The patient that calls the police to report an assault by the np who drew blood cultures on her? That's pretty funny, too, when you think about it.

    With respect to Samuel Shem and "the house of god", there is no body cavity that cannot be violated with a good, strong arm and a 14 gauge needle. The left ventricle, the pleural space, the last remaining unviolated vein on the chronic patient's arm . . .

    And there are some body cavities that ought not to be violated with a good, strong arm and a 14 gauge needle. The left ventricle perhaps.

    The size of the health care practitioner's knowledge base in inversely proportional to how much they think they know. The new grad who thinks she knows everything doesn't, and the one who thinks she doesn't know anything knows a lot more than she thinks she does. The second new grad is a pleasure to precept and a valued colleague down the road. The first will probably get into anesthesia school after a year or two and we won't have to deal with them any more.

    And while i'm on the subject, the ability to get into anesthesia school seems to be completely unrelated to knowledge base, common sense, critical thinking skills or general intelligence. I'm hoping that the ability to actually graduate from anesthesia school involves all of those attributes.

    Becoming a nurse practitioner does not automatically endow one with common sense, a good work ethic or the ability to behave in an appropriate and professional manner. Hair flipping, gum chewing, non-listening nps who shop on the internet during multidisciplinary rounds lack all three. (and see above for a comment on how much that particular np actually knows.)

    There are "tube drainers" and there are "non-tube drainers." some of us absolutely lack the ability to pass by a chest tube, foley catheter or rectal tube without draining the tubing. Others will chart "0" for chest tube output and urine output for hours on end.

    When you work in a teaching hospital, part of your job is to educate doctors. The relationships they form with you and your colleagues will influence the relationships they have with nurses for the rest of their careers. You can either teach them that nurses are valued members of the health care team who can save their butts, back them up and teach them how to pull a balloon pump (even though we're not allowed to actually pull a balloon pump) or you can teach them that nurses are a pain in the posterior they have to put up with every time they enter a nursing unit. And thirty years later, when they become medical director in the ICU where you're currently employed, you'll be very grateful if you actually taught them to value nursing input. (and your current colleagues will be, too, even if they don't know who to thank!)
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  3. by   nursel56
    Great subject! "What I Learned This Year" !! I try to do that, too-- and I've found that it takes a conscious effort to do it, and the more years you have under your belt, the harder it is to do, because there's an awful lot of "autopilot" that's very easy to fall back on.

    Your comment about the well developed sense of the absurd?? Thank you! I just can't say how many times people look askance at me for laughing at one of those moments! It's like they think you have a screw loose or don't care. I now work in home health and oh Lordy- if this were a reality show it would trump all others hands down! The other day the RT was over to check a ventilator that was malfunctioning by alarming at short intervals- and after making several calls was unable to get the alarming to stop, so she loaded the thing on a dolly and going clunk-clunk-clunk down the front steps with it alarming away just as an ice-cream truck rolled by playing it's cornball musical jingle The duet of the two .sounds was all the more hilarious to me because of their polar opposite meanings- but I'm pretty sure nobody else would even have noticed it- let alone laughed- so it's good to know I'm not alone!
  4. by   rachelita
    Absolutely right on!
  5. by   KeyMaster
    Best thing I've read all year!
  6. by   heathIam
    Ooooo, you're not a very compassionate nurse, you probably eat your young and lateral hostility blah, blah, blah.

    I loved it. I am really looking forward to a conversation I have to have with a nurse who I am pretty sure is one of those who thinks she gets it but really doesn't.

    The other thing I've learned this year is that when you implement an improvement and you evaluate where you need to change it, if you don't change the process you have just wasted everyone's time.
  7. by   realnursealso/LPN
    Good job Ruby, loved it as always!
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  9. by   Lucky0220
    Oh must be great to be you.bowingpur
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    oh ruby . . . i'm dealing with this person right now. (rolling my eyes - can't find the smilies)

    "the third kind are those who don’t get it but think they do. just like you cannot teach anyone who already thinks they know everything, you cannot hope that those who don’t get it but think that they do will ever get it. they won’t. instead, they’ll keep trying to argue that you are wrong, and that they get it and you don’t. that can be frustrating and infuriating."

  11. by   PAROPPY
    Sooo true!!! I love working with the gum chewing, hair flipping, and lets not forget the cell phone wielding RNs who believe the breakroom is their own personal therapy couch who continously bragg about the "fact" that they are going to be an NP so they don't have to deal with "these types" of patients anymore. I want to tell them, "You're not dealing with any patients, you are on your phone in the breakroom!!".

    And the "non-tube drainers" thing is also so true:

    Me to the LPN/CNA/other RN: Why did you mark down 0 for their urine output?
    LPN/CNA/other RN: Because they said they didn't get up to pee.
    Me: They have a Foley.
    LPN/CNA/ other RN: Oh.

  12. by   mandyc
    Crazy but true!..LOL....a pleasure to read! If we cannot laugh we will surely be miserable.

    "Nothing puts a greater obstacle in the way of the progress of knowledge than thinking that one knows what one does not yet know." Georg Christoph Lichtenberg
  13. by   kdmztr28 thing I've read all year.. and I've read a lot... what got me was the Foley Catheter part... When I read it I instantaneously remembered my Clinical Instructor Mouthing Off and Scaring me to death when I had to explain to her why my patient's urine output for the day was 0.. Big NO NO, even if they don't have a FC. LOL.
  14. by   tlcplease
    After being fired unfairly with no writeups and 7 yrs of faithful dedicated service I learned you should never trust anyonethat says they are behind you all the way and will have you back and pretends to be your friend. I should sue for wrongful termination but do not have the energy right now. I have 3 more months to decide.