Their actions disgusted and annoyed you??
These are immediate family members - a wife, a mother, and a sister.
Obviously, the fate that the patient was enduring was very distressing to them. They're not medical professionals who like us understand the process of a disease. When they rubbed his feet, his legs, his face, they were conveying their love and support because that's the only assurance they can give him. When they hovered around him they didn't know what else they can do and wished they did.
They kept asking questions? Did you ever pause a few minutes and explained to them what was going on?
Yes, I stated in my post that they were asking me something every two minutes, and of course I answered them. But I'm SORRY!!! I can not teach people everything about nursing in twelve hours!
Did you tell them before they came in that the patient could really use rest and ask that they limit their visit to 10 mins.?
Why would I do that, Family can be good to have around, until they start freaking out on you and make your patient anxious. Every hear of Maslow? Physiological needs come before psychological.
"Can you please wait outside for a while, we'll be doing a few procedures for the patient, I will get you as soon as we're done." Did you say that?
I asked them nicely to leave when the time came that their presence was not in the best interest of my patient, that is called being a patient advocate.
Did you ever ask yourself, what if that was my spouse, my Dad, my young brother who's suffering from an unknown illness and an unknown treatment and an unknown prognosis? (That's how laymen see an illness compared to us medical professionals) I ask myself these questions every day at work, I never said I did not have any empathy for them, The point to my "vent" is I could not do my job with the family around, and when someone's life is depending on you being in an optimal state of mind you need to acknowledge that fact and do what needs to be done.
Oh I know. You don't have time, you've got other patients to take care of. And maybe, this was your second shift. Are you even in the nursing field?
There are scenarios where the presence of visitors do interfere with care. And I've had my battles with them, too. Your situation is not one of them. You executed a common pitfall of a nurse-client (and family) relationship -- a failure to communicate. Ummm were you there, because I didn't see you in the room?
You're burned out!. We're all burned out! But, I won't let a dispirited family have it.
Once again, I was polite and simply asked them to leave I didn't beat them with a stick! Are you sure you are a nurse?
I thought this site was a place for nurses to support each other, not eat each other alive.