Nurses are Pathetic!!

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I have been reading thread after thread on this forum and I have come to one conclusion. We are all a pathetic bunch. We take abuse that most other human beings would not put up with. We are physically, mentally and emotionally abused by doctors, managers, patients, and families. We work ungodly hours, skip our much needed breaks without pay for months and years on end. And this goes on and on and on. The stories are endless. Then we are all shocked when a nurse who has had enough finally cracks and administers 32 vials of Dilantin and kills a patient. Is this so different than any other human being who finally after years and years of this abuse, just cannot take it anymore? I think not. When are we all going to stand up and demand decent pay, decent working conditions, and respect? Well, the answer is never because we are not a solid group. We have no autonomy or solidarity because we are a weak profession. We pit one against another. We ***** and backstab. We deserve all the abuse that is dealt to us. In nursing school, we are taught to make beds, empty bedpans and clean dentures. Instead we should get vast lessons in how to deal with some of the real issues that face us today. We are understaffed, overworked, pushed to the breaking point. But yet, the martyr instinct kicks in, we get up and go back and endure more of the same. When is enough, enough? When are we all going to come together and and start shouting about our working conditions and wages? We make less than a crew on road construction or a plumber. And look what we do. We are responsible for peoples lives. I went to work down the road as my current employer is union and I felt that maybe the non union hospital down the road would be a better place. Well, it is not, it is worse. 13 nurses have quit in the 6 weeks I have worked there. I won't renew my contract. It is just too unsafe. The hospital is all about profit at the expense of some great nurses. They even charge for an individual bandaid. It is ridiculous. I have decided that as soon as I can afford to, I'm getting out. I will no longer be a member of a profession that eats its young while at the same time, taking unwarrented abuse from unapreciative doctors that we bend over backwards for. Its not about making a living any more, it is about retaining some self respect, free of abuse by doctors, managers and other nurses who have nothing better to do than put a knife in your back the minute you turn around. At least at walmart I won't have to worry about making a life threatening mistake because I'm overwhelmed by what is required of me each day.

sorry for too long post.

Specializes in Emergency Room.

i agree with everyone who says if you don't like it, leave. obviously we all need to work, but i think the excuse"i can't afford to leave" is just that....an excuse. you can find another job. especially in nursing. i think sometimes misery likes misery and some people don't feel good unless they have something to complain about. if you have been on the same med surg floor for 10 years complaining "i can't get out" it's your own fault for not being assertive enough to find another job and take control of your own happiness. we all have choices. I choose happiness and contentment in every aspect of my life. i don't always get what i want, but i try too find a balance. some things are out of our control, like sudden illness and tragedy and people survive those events also. tell yourself "no more excuses, i will take charge of my career" if you don't, you will be six feet under due to a massive MI or stroke and that job that caused all the stress will have your position posted the next day.

if you don't, you will be six feet under due to a massive MI or stroke and that job that caused all the stress will have your position posted the next day.

I think the ad would go this way:

Wanted RN to replace an angel nurse who died of heart attack due to work related stress.

Qualifications: Must be able to function in a highly stressful environment with virtually no breaks. Must be able to endure and fulfill management demands.

Benefits: free counselling, will cover all funeral cost and dental services. Plus free vacation and car when you die .

Specializes in floor to ICU.

I have been nursing for 17 years. While I don't agree that we are pathetic, nurses do put up with crap. I work on busy tele/med-surg floor. I go through cycles of being determined to make a change and feeling frustrated and wanting to give up. I have been nicknamed "Speaker of the House" by my manager. I guess this is good and bad. My thoughts are that the squeaky wheel gets the grease.

It is easy to get wrapped up in the negativeness associated with floor nursing. However, when we stop trying to change things and stop being advocates we are doing our profession a disservice. I have had things change (to benefit) the nurses on our floor. However, when I hear colleagues continually complaining to me and others and not forwarding those complaints to management it makes me angry. I despise the attitude "well, that's the way we have always done it" or "that's the way it will always be".

I have gotten close to burn-out. When I get to that point I know I need to take a vacation. I had a horrible horrible shift on Sunday. I ended staying 2 hours after my 12 hr shift to chart to events that happened. Staffing ratios were a direct cause. Looking back on the shift, I am surprised that I survived and wasn't hauled off in a straight jacket. I was emotionally and physically drained.

Thank Goodness I am off for about 2 weeks but I know I will go return to work with a renewed fighting spirit. I'm not ready to give up.

Specializes in Adult Tele.

Cograts to you for calling it like it is! Your comments are supported by some of the replys that followed it. I have read that your comments are to be blamed on everything but the real problem that you covered in your statements. Nurses do take it and worse we rationalize the behavior as tolerable and acceptable. This is supported by the replys on this thread. If Nurses of all experience would remember the patients and how we can not meet their needs based on the current conditions we all find ourselves in then maybe something would change. This is not about personal issues, this is about the core essence of nursing and what we are here to do. That can NOT be accomplished with such dishevel in our profession. Thank you for pointing out some truths. You can see that for some that the truth hurts!

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

"be the change you want to see in others"

paraphrased from Ghandi.

Food for thought.

Specializes in ICU-Stepdown.

"Never give up! Never surrender!" (commander Taggert, Galaxy Quest).

The "if you don't like it, leave" mentality is just catering to what hospitals want. I love what nursing should be. But I refuse to be treated like a servant by my patients. I refuse to be treated like a servant by MDs. And I won't like it if they try. Should I just leave because hospitals tend to expect nurses to spend even more time fetching coffee when they're already overrun with legitimate medical/nursing needs?

I want to be a nurse, I don't want to be a martyr. I don't think I should leave because to be a nurse, I'm often expected to be a martyr.

So I'm the squeaky wheel instead. My squeaking has at times made changes. And at times, it's left me frustrated. But I'm not going to just leave. And be glad I didn't. Because the martyr marys would be run further into the ground if there weren't a few of us squeaky wheels complaining and getting changes for us all.

Specializes in CRNA, Finally retired.
The "if you don't like it, leave" mentality is just catering to what hospitals want. I love what nursing should be. But I refuse to be treated like a servant by my patients. I refuse to be treated like a servant by MDs. And I won't like it if they try. Should I just leave because hospitals tend to expect nurses to spend even more time fetching coffee when they're already overrun with legitimate medical/nursing needs?

I want to be a nurse, I don't want to be a martyr. I don't think I should leave because to be a nurse, I'm often expected to be a martyr.

So I'm the squeaky wheel instead. My squeaking has at times made changes. And at times, it's left me frustrated. But I'm not going to just leave. And be glad I didn't. Because the martyr marys would be run further into the ground if there weren't a few of us squeaky wheels complaining and getting changes for us all.

You are right that, if we are consistently treated badly, then we should be looking at ourselves rather than appointing blame on "Them". However, how does one achieve perspective and wisdom while young? Assertiveness training and stress reduction should be incorporated into our undergraduate curriculi. We waste so much time reacting inappropriately to the stressors and jerks of nursing. Don't confuse the dysfunction of nursing with your own problems. Yes, it is stressful, but from someone who has been doing this 30 plus years, I can assure you that most people create their own problems by making some really stupid decisions. They marry a jerk, have too many children, spend too much money, don't get enough sleep - these behaviors cause more misery than the corporations who employ us.

You are right that, if we are consistently treated badly, then we should be looking at ourselves rather than appointing blame on "Them". However, how does one achieve perspective and wisdom while young? Assertiveness training and stress reduction should be incorporated into our undergraduate curriculi. We waste so much time reacting inappropriately to the stressors and jerks of nursing. Don't confuse the dysfunction of nursing with your own problems. Yes, it is stressful, but from someone who has been doing this 30 plus years, I can assure you that most people create their own problems by making some really stupid decisions. They marry a jerk, have too many children, spend too much money, don't get enough sleep - these behaviors cause more misery than the corporations who employ us.

You make some good points - in looking back at myself, I can see that when I was young I had no training or education regarding assertiveness. I did not know how to deal effectively with confrontation. In fact one time I was in a situation at work with a superior who was male who was inappropriate with me and I froze - and didn't quit for a whole week.

This issue of not standing up for yourself is something that happens in every field. Not just nursing.

Maybe one of the things we should be looking at is teaching effective communication tools in high school. Start alot earlier than when you get your degree and start working in the real world.

It took me a long time to be able to stand up for myself.

steph

This post reminds me of what happened 3 months ago: I witnessed a dr. (who was known for bullying nurses on our floor) humiliated a new grad nurse for forgetting to enter info about the pt. on the computer. He scolded her as if he were a baseball coach. Even with three fellow nurses nearby the nurse, the dr just kept barking at her for almost five minutes. nobody said anything,and the nurse was on the verge of tears. Then the dr said something very insulting comment: "I can't believe they let you out of nursing school like that". So I had to say something to stop this carnage: "Excuse me dr., there is really no need for you to say that. Let me help to get whatever information you need on the pt. " Then he said sarcastically, "I was not talking to you. You want to defend her? what are you? her boyfriend?! Go back and do your job!"

Background info: The dr. is a very moody person. He enjoys the attention he is getting (like Simmon in the American Idol) because nurses have been trying to be friendly with him for the fear of becoming a victim of his tantrum. He has yelled at many nurses before,and can magnify little thing to have something to use for his attacks on nurses. However the nurses' complains were downplayed by the management because the dr is "very in demand", so the nurses are just sucking it up. Some people said that the dr. must have been using steroid because of his massive muscle (he is 6' 2" about 230-250 lbs. muscular built). He likes baseball and body building.

Me: just less than a year on this job. quiet type and don't usually hang around with colleagues.

back to the story, that night I waited in the hospital garage to confront the dr.When he came, he was combative then pushing my face while cursing me. I hold on to his wrists and delivered my extended knee on his solar plexus. It was a clean Muay Thai style shot, one of my favorites long time ago. I heard a familiar sound: groaning. He was stunned and in pain, but he managed to swing his big hands several times, missing my face few inches away. He obviously knew how to box but too slow shots for me. I did not hit him again.I just wanted to make a statement with my knee. Suprisingly, he laughed hard and long after he got exhausted from hitting my shadow and said "you got me man! we should go out sometimes and watch boxing match together".

I don't advice fellow nurses to deal with rude dr. the way I dealt with mine. But believe it or not, the doc and I are getting along very well since that encounter, and he didn't mention this to anybody. I guess he is trully sports fanatic that is why he felt relief after he physically expressed his stress. People deal with stress differently.

"Different folks different strokes"; haven't you heard that before?

Awesome job, man!!!!! Really superb!!!!:balloons:

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

We definately should not deal with physical abuse that way. I would take it through legal channels, period. Dr Rude would not be hitting me, nor anyone else, if I had my way, again.

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