Male Nurses. - page 11

SO as a Male looking to become a Nurse one day... Is what they say true? Can a Male Nurse really find better jobs with better pay much easier than most Women Nurses? Are the amount of Men in... Read More

  1. by   nowplayingEDRN
    Originally posted by hogan4736
    Here's my one perceived difference...

    Male nurse being direct - perceived as rude
    Female nurse being direct - perceived as caring and motherly

    Case in point:

    I work in a walk in clinic...
    We triage/intake every patient coming in...
    A mom brings her 2 1/2 year old daughter for a fever x 2 days...
    I ask, "what are you giving her for the fever?"
    Mom says: "I try Tylenol, but she won't drink it"
    I say, "She refuses?"
    she says, "Yes"
    I say (eye to eye, calmly), "You have to take charge, hold her down if needed. You know what's good for her, she doesn't"
    I tell her about Tylenol suppositories.
    she says (while tears are coming down), "I know what I'm supposed to do, but she won't take the meds. I've heard of suppositories, but..."
    Mom starts to really cry...

    I then calmly explain why a fever over 105 can be dangerous, and my son didn't ever want his medicine but...And what will you do if the doc prescribes an antibiotic...Will you let her refuse then?

    Anyway, doc gives her Tylenol suppositories to give to her kiddo, RXs her Amoxil (otitis), and sends her home.

    I'm made out to be the "rude nurse" (her words to the MALE doc)...

    I'm just being direct, setting limits, and trying to genuinely teach the right and SAFE things to do!

    There's your difference...

    The female nurse likely gets a hug and a thanks from the patient's mom...Can I help it if she has issues w/ men? (She told me BOTH dads of her 2 kids aren't around and "never were")

    Where is the rudeness here??? I see nothing but a caring nurse trying to educate a mother on the dangers of allowing a child to continue to refuse medication and offer possible alternatives to prevent further serious illness.

    You are not the only one that tries to set limits, educate, be direct and show compassion and in the end be classified as rude. It happens to me and I know where you come from. I have found that sometimes talking directly to the child in a friendly and non-threatening manner....explaining very simply what needs to be done and why gets me a whole lot further than when talking to the parent. Another idea would be to ask if they use a syringe to administer the meds or not. Sometimes an uncooperative child takes the meds better from a syringe followed with a drink. Some children just don't do well with a little cup to drink from but slurping that medicine down into the throat kinda bypasses the tongue and minimizes the unpleasant taste....just a little idea from a nurse that has had great success getting kids to take meds when they wouldn't take it from the parent.

  2. by   CapeCodMermaid
    Won't it be a great day for all of us when we are just nurses and doctors instead of Male nurses and Female doctors
  3. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Originally posted by CapeCodMermaid
    Won't it be a great day for all of us when we are just nurses and doctors instead of Male nurses and Female doctors
    Yes, that will happen when the public understands what it is nurses do each day beyond what they see on TV and hear annecdotally. Fat chance.
  4. by   hogan4736

    Thanks, I agree there is no rudeness. Though I am firm and direct and come across as rude. I guess what I'm saying is that a female nurse saying the SAME thing I'm saying illicits a completely different response from the patient. Then I get flamed by admin for being "too harsh"
  5. by   RN2007
    Well, as you know, a lot of times it is not just what was said, so much as how something was said, the tone of voice used , your facial expression and other body language that the patient and/or patients family picks up on that can be misconstrued to be rudeness. This can happen to any nurse regardless of gender, and I think that all nurses can work harder to make sure that they come across in a calm and therapeutic manner to their patients and when they do this, I believe that the patients will benefit much more from having done so.