Quote from TazziRN
My dad's in a tele unit tonight, with CHF. I had so many requests of the staff that I finally told the nurse "I really am not trying to be a pest but...." My dad is 75 years old and part of the problem is that he doesn't remember things when a staff member is in the room. The other part is that he doesn't know what he's "allowed" to ask for. I've caught myselff stopping and mentally asking "Do I need to do this now or can it wait until someone comes to check on him?"
That's a tough, tough, situation. The last time it happened to me was a couple of weeks ago when my Dad, (77 years old), had a knee replacement in the hospital I worked in. I kept a low, nice, profile.....but wish I didn't. Bottom line, they sent him home and he wasn't even capable of putting his own underwear on.....much less take care of himself :trout: I thought it would be OK to remain low-profile because a knee replacement is a relatively low risk thing to be in the hospital for.
On the other hand, I have had numerous episodes of my Mom being in the ICU.....peritonitis w colostomy, sepsis twice, ARDS once. For serious situations, I spend as much time as I can at the hospital advocating for my parent. If that means having to get ******, then so be it.
So, I guess my advice for you is be aggressive if it is called for. Sometimes IT IS CALLED for to get your parent what they need. If the nurse doesn't have time to advocate for the patient, then you will have to do it.
Keeping you and yours in my thoughts.