I want the love of my life BACK!

[husband_of_RN2B]

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to all readers:

i am posting here with no intention of returning to this board to read the responses! but i am going to use this as a venue to sound off! i am writing from an emotional state so please excuse any errors in advance.

my wife took her nclex today! and i am so proud of her she has worked hard for this day and i pray to the lord she passes! but this has come and a great price to my family. over the last two years of this program (and i use the term loosely, it would seem more like a cloister than a progam to me) my wife has gone from a caring loving, independent, and kind person to a brutal, self absorbed, and mal adjusted "nursing candidate". she seems more aggresive than i was coming out of basic years ago. i have tried every form of encouragement i know. i have taken on the roles of primary care for our young son, i have worked extra hours so she did not have to work, given up my graduate scholarship, and tended to our small business with no help or cooperation.

i am frequently bombarded with " i am to stressed today!" and her constant grade grubbing and borderline psychotic rages over "the nclex,nclex,nclex!!!!!"

she has frequently ignored my son and neglected her personal well being all for the sake of this d_ _ n career!

i wish she had never met that nurse recruiter at our local hospital! she is a brillant woman with 93 hours of a chemistry bs and i am sadden by her career choice. at first i was beaming with pride that my wife wanted to help ppl and provide us with stability of insurance and benefits while our family business grows! but now i just feel lost! (and a little resentful too!) i love my wife i will never leave her but when she storms out of the house cursing and yelling becuase she only finished "75 questions! " and rebukes my attempts to comfort her i can only say i wish she had never set foot in the nursing program! i will not bother to return to this site my wife constantly surfs, becuase frankly i appreciate anyone with a kind thought or a paryer and could give a rats whisker about those who will inevitably fault me for being some jerk husband!

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[husband_of_RN2B]

iliel:

You are correct I cannot make that assumption from the internet but how about 2 years of directly observing healthcare workers dealing with pts. and you are also correct there are ppl in that situation and it is unfortunate!

Again this was just an illustration of more "sci-n-tifical" research get a sense of humor. ppl spend to much time on the boards end of story!

[flowerchild]

Originally posted by husband_of_RN2B

It was predominately academic in nature although this impomptu observational "study" will not be used for formal academic purposes. It does however validate other earlier observations.

you have all been great but this was an untrue post (although I would deeply empathize with any couple experiencing this situation). Gomers' response was the desired response. The obvious distrust of ppl is amazing and the fact that this person could not empathize with the "husband" post begs to ask if Gomer had a patient in a clinical setting would this person recieve the needed empathy that would be indicated?( note we are not questioning whether or not they would recieve appropriate treatment just the empathy and the "extra mile") or would the gut reaction of "I hope your wife/husband has a good divorce lawyer!" over take a persaons ability to care! For a "caring" profession it seems many nurses quickly resort to hostile emotions in the face of a sensitive topic!

Perhaps your observations are totally off base b/c many of us who would of showed the compassion you say we lack, saw the post for what it is, a farce. Your findings are incorrect, easily based on the fact that they were nonscientific and therefore obsolete and INVALID. So why would you bother? Are you trying to prove something that is not real?

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Well, as it turns out Gomer was right! I think Gomer deserves the prize about knowing about human nature, not you or your collegues.

I feel you've abused what this board is all about. I applaud Gomer's good sense for smelling it out before the rest of us did. It's people like you that make people like Gomer suspicious in the first place.

Troll.

edited for spelling.

[husband_of_RN2B]

VERY LAST THOUGHT!!

NURSES ARE ABUSED!!!!!

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

Originally posted by husband_of_RN2B

VERY LAST THOUGHT!!

NURSES ARE ABUSED!!!!!

You're definitely not helping.

Troll.

[Bevi]

Originally posted by husband_of_RN2B

VERY LAST THOUGHT!!

Promise?

......Cause you turn my stomach.

[iliel]

Originally posted by husband_of_RN2B

iliel:

You are correct I cannot make that assumption from the internet but how about 2 years of directly observing healthcare workers dealing with pts. and you are also correct there are ppl in that situation and it is unfortunate!

Again this was just an illustration of more "sci-n-tifical" research get a sense of humor. ppl spend to much time on the boards end of story!

You tell me to get a sense of humor? How can I have a sene of humor about ppl who really have this situation to deal with on a daily basis?

I think it's sad that you have to mislead ppl. I know a research scientist, she would be insulted by the way you acted, even if it was "sci-n-tifical".

[BBFRN, BSN, PhD]

I would like to add something, too. How are you able to confirm your theory on gender bias if you are not privy to the gender of the responders? I think that would be a factor if you were going to pose this as a valid theory.

[AMV]

I am also beginning to wonder if the orginal poster is a troll! GEEZ

[Tweety, BSN, RN]

One last thought, because I don't believe in feeding trolls. And I do belive this this person is being a troll, at the moment.

Who are you. Are you one of us in disguise? Want to fess up to who you are so we can really discuss it seriously, or are you going to remain in disguise. I'm wordering if who you are, do we know you, are we friends in your other life? You might not be a troll, but if you want to discuss whatever issues you and your collegues have fess up and don't be a troll.

edited for spelling. I need more coffee!

[Monica RN,BSN]

Ok now its time for my two cents worth... I have no opinion one way or hte other as far as "husband's" (or who ever this deceiving fool is/was)

But, I do know that foolishness of threads started by those up to do good are those who have no creditbility, lack of moral values, usually are not trustworthly, and have no value on the board.

I believe by being decieving to us, you show no ethical backbone of being a person one would want to trust. I am so glad I do not work with you. Lies and deception do not belong among us with a higher intelligence. Even if this was an experiment, it is childish and stupid to involve the thoughts of people who might actually care enough to respond. I hope you don't post anymore as you have said. I think the board members here would agree that we would rather have no post than one thatis full of lies and deception. I am apolled that you would be low enough to even do this. But ya know, the world is mad eof all kinds, and to each his own.... IF the husband is for real, (and who knows) we can't believe anything you say here... But, If he is for real he is a jerk. I would dump the bum. If he is hypothetical, and it was you who was "playing husband" then you really need a life. I guess you have WAY to much time on your hands to be playing stupid games like this, and for what!?? A free dinner at OUR expense..

In closing, I say Grow up or Go Away..................

[Monica RN,BSN]

Clarification: Up to NO GOOD, not to do good...

Sorry Guys for the typos..... I hope I got the point across though!

:)