I may lose my hubby - page 3

My husband, who is in the Navy Reserve, came in from drill today with 'new uniforms'.........desert gear.......as in Kuwait......as in being gone for a couple of years!!!!!! OHG, I can't keep the... Read More

  1. by   renerian
    Wow LoisJean very well put.

  2. by   RRMLPN
    big hugs to you and you and your hubby will be in our prayers.
  3. by   nurs4kids
    My heart goes out to you. I have a nephew in the Marines and shudder each time I hear the word "deployment". Feel free to pm or email me for any needed support.

    I'm confused. I thought they sent the active enlisted FIRST, then tapped into the reserves?? (obviously, I'm not real familiar with military procedure..dad was in Army, but out by the time I came along)

  4. by   jemb
    (((((((Nannanurse & Hubby))))))))))))
  5. by   BMS4
    Nurs4kids, they send reservists first, then active duty units. Not sure why, but I think the reasoning is that AD personnel are already filling positions and it would be cost effective to leave them in place and fill the deployment positions with reservists.
  6. by   MidwifeWannaB
    I will be praying for you, NannaNurse. I know how it feels to love someone and be so fearful of losing them. My ex was in a bad car wreck that totaled his truck 2 months after we started dating. He wasn't hurt badly, praise God, but it was scary. I just thank the Lord every day that my current guy has chronic asthma and so will never have to go to war. I decided a long time ago that if war breaks out, I'm scooping him up and we're moving to Canada!

    Seriously though, if you're a praying woman, do a bunch of it right now.
    I'll be thinking of you! Keep us up to date on any developments!

  7. by   ZORYA
    Losing your hubby is always a hard thing to deal with You will be confused and lost without him, because you won't know what to do w'yourself while he's gone...(and I speak from experience....My husband was sent to Diego Garcia, a tiny little island in the middle of the Indian Ocean for 18 mos. It was awful, but it made me stronger....My advice is to throw yourself into work and other pursuits...Make a plan on how and when you guys will communicate, and above all else, be supportive of him...It's hard for both of you, but in a lot of ways, it's harder for the person left behind to keep the ball rolling...Anyway, best of luck to you, and I will keep thinking of you, k??
  8. by   mother/babyRN
    I am so sorry that you have to go through this, but you will be ok...My husband used to have to be away at sea for a long while, but as lonely as it could and did get, I kept myself busy...Now a days I know it must be even more difficult with impending war, but at least now they have email that can keep you in touch. We didn't have that option.....Hugs for you and your hubby.....
  9. by   deespoohbear
    I am not a military wife either, so I can't even begin to understand what you must feeling. Hang in there!! Come and talk with us anytime. I know we can't take away your loneliness, but maybe we can take a little edge off.....:kiss
  10. by   whipping girl in 07
    My husband just got out of the reserves a few years ago, and I remember how hard it was for us to be apart when he was in basic training and AIT for six months when we'd only been married for a year. Looking back, I don't know how we made it. For the past few years, he's worked a job where he's been out of town and on the road a lot and I always feared for his safety. Our son has kept me from being lonely, though. I understand how you are feeling right now, and I hope everything works out for the best. One of my friends from high school is going active duty this month and I do hope he doesn't get deployed. I will keep you in my prayers.
  11. by   mattsmom81
    That's what I love about this board...all the support when someone is scared and hurting.

    I'm not military and don't know what you're going through.
    As I read your post, I cried thinking how you must be feeling today, so I wanted to offer a (((HUG)))

    God bless you and your family and I will pray for safety and comfort for you all in this difficult time...and that you find some needed support while your husband is away.
  12. by   Just Angi
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Big giant hugs to you, Nanna. I totally relate. My husband has been active-duty Air Force for 17 years now....have seen him off many,many times, including this war on terror, as well as the Gulf War. It is never easy. It is time when you must seek support from wherever you can find it; in spouses that are with you in this, family, friends, and yes, boards like this one. My heart goes out to you in this stressful time and I wish you well. Hang in there and PM me anytime you feel you need a friend who can understand exactly how it feels. It never gets easy, but you can cope; you really can!

    Oh and Don't bother w/brave fronts for kids or anyone else. They SEE THRU THEM ANYHOW; you have to give them credit. You are HUMAN and are ALLOWED TO EXPRESS your sadness when he's gone...but you are not HOPELESS, either! There are things you can do to fill the lonliness. Make cards for him with the kids...make tape recordings (or mp3's ) of your voices and expressions of love and support for him.....anticipate his return and plan on decorating the house with banners and balloons upon his return. Plan on a big,festive event for his return.......Most importantly, Take good care of your health, heart, and home...and take time and have some fun....if you can....and YOU CAN do it! Be strong, but also you are human.
    Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Dec 9, '02