i failed out of nursing school...now what - page 4

i have a plan to go to a university.. i did that just in case i failed again. i failed N51 TWICE.. my professor told me it was because she didn't think i had confidence for my pt, that i kept asking... Read More

  1. by   pagandeva2000
    Yes, I have encountered the manipulative patients...they will praise you and slaughter the others. And, they are THE FIRST to report you when you say that you can't do it 'right now' and heaven forbid, if you can't do it at all. Suddenly, YOUR name goes to administration, to the patient advocate, is reported to Press Gainey, etc... And, they talk about YOU to the other staff. Some will even report gossip that people have said about you in order to gain favoritism. Meanwhile, your entire life can be falling apart and does anyone care?

    This does not mean that the nurse that balances her energies is a cold, calculating person. No reason to be judgemental. If you want to remain there, good...but don't try to slaugher someone else that doesn't.
  2. by   I RN A
    This post is completely off the original topic. What does being a CNA and overtime has to do with failing out of nursing school? Have you, guys, read the first post?
  3. by   PopeJane3rd
    No worries. You're still young. You have several options. Since you don't want to be out of school doing nothing with yourself why don't you just keep your major undeclared for a minute and take courses now that any major will accept like Math courses, English, Chemistry, History etc, etc. While you are taking these courses and doing well in them you can be contemplating what you want to study instead of declaring a major, changing your mind and dropping courses. That would be a dead end to do that. Another thing you could do is take a day off, go to the library with a notebook, look into some of their books on career descriptions, write down what you would like to do and how much money you would like to make. Then you can start taking courses for it because then you would have already had most of your general pre-reqs out of the way anyway.
    The other option you have is to study something a little less hectic than nursing like surgical tech. YOu sound to me like someone who would do well with surgical tech.
  4. by   Pixie.RN
    To the OP -- you might not want to know what you want to do "when you grow up," and that's okay. I didn't become a nurse until I was 36. (And I'm still 36. ) There's a big world out there with lots of opportunities, and you don't have to tether yourself to a profession at this point in your life. Find something that you are passionate about, and go for it. The suggestion to see a career counselor was a good one.

    As for the rest of it -- yes, it's entirely possible to be good at a role without being passionate about it. Let's get real ... not all nurses are passionate about nursing, but that doesn't mean they're not good nurses. But for those of us who have found a way to mix profession and passion, we're probably a little happier in our jobs. I was an excellent, meticulous, fast and accurate desktop publisher -- still am -- but the passion for that career faded for me over time, as I came to realize that I belonged in healthcare. Doesn't mean I'm not still a fabulous desktop publisher, though.
  5. by   truern
    Since when does passion=compassion?? It's totally possible to be "compassionate" towards your patients without being "passionate" about nursing.

    I think it's telling that the loudest protesters are newbies.
  6. by   pagandeva2000
    Quote from truern
    Since when does passion=compassion?? It's totally possible to be "compassionate" towards your patients without being "passionate" about nursing.

    I think it's telling that the loudest protesters are newbies.

    I suspect the same...someone with time and experience under their belts in most cases would think more reasonably.
  7. by   ♪♫ in my ♥
    Quote from I love my cat!
    A person who clocks out and continues to work off the clock (read: working for free/martyr), it wrong, IMO.
    At least here in Cali, it's not just wrong... it's a violation of the labor code. If you are a nonexempt employee, as bedside nurses are, you MUST be paid for the time that you're on-site. It's not a choice, it's the law. I think that's actually national labor code stuff but I could be wrong; it might be a state-level thing.

    I'd also point out that if you're hanging out with patients after your shift you are quite likely not covered by your employer's liability insurance nor their worker's comp insurance.

    If you want to act like a salaried employee then you should get a salaried job. Personally, I grew weary of being an exempt employee and consciously chose a new career in which I would be non-exempt.
  8. by   ♪♫ in my ♥
    Quote from I RN A
    This post is completely off the original topic. What does being a CNA and overtime has to do with failing out of nursing school? Have you, guys, read the first post?
    It's been an evolutionary migration. It all started with an early response to the OP which included the statement that one must have a passion for nursing in order to be a good nurse. I challenged that assertion and it's devolved from there.

    Insofar as the debate of the necessity of passion pertains to the OP's deliberation about where s/he should go from here, it is connected to the original topic.

    The OT thing, though, is a new sprout. My apologies for engaging.
  9. by   mashamontago
    what made you change your mind at age 25 to go back into nursing and not pursue another field?
  10. by   mashamontago
    Quote from KittyKat19
    I think you might consider seeing a counselor. These are some big questions and you seem depressed -- understandably. Even if it's not that serious (and I would argue seeing "able to bear it" as a major qualification for a career path really is), a counselor might help you with aptitude testing, study skills, and/or galvanizing your passion for nursing or something else.
    FWIW, I flunked out of nursing school when I was about your age. Now I'm 28 and starting a nursing program in the fall. If it's really what you want to do, you'll find a way back. But in the meantime, regardless, I think professional help is order.

    after seven years you decided to come back to nursing school. why?
  11. by   KittyKat19
    I don't think I ever really changed my mind. I think, in a way, it was what I always wanted to do. There were just so many things in the way. I was definitely depressed at the time I flunked out. I joined the military during most of the time in between, so I couldn't go back even if I wanted to. I also feel that for me, being a nurse practitioner is a better fit (no disrespect to RNs, I think what they do is fantastic and commendable). After I got my B.A., I could go into to such a program that allowed me to become an FNP on graduation. And yeah, I had the help of a counselor who helped me cut through all the crap that was keeping me from going back. Which included, but was certainly not limited to, the feeling that nursing wasn't "good enough" for someone who was intellectually curious. This was reinforced by my family. Why try so hard at something that you don't think is worth it, right? It's tough and I hear where you're coming from. Your path may not be the same as mine, but I really do think that counseling can help you clarify things in your life. Specifically, if nursing wasn't for you, why did you try so hard? And if it is, why didn't you succeed? These are not small questions. There the kind of things you need help with at 21...or 28...or 48.
    PM if you'd like to chat.
  12. by   KittyKat19
    I might further add that when I was really depressed, I could have easily said what you said about being able to tolerate nursing as a career (and probably did say something to that effect). That set off a red flag for me.
  13. by   mashamontago
    Quote from rnmomtobe2010
    Been there...done that...I just stopped by to say hang in there and that it will get better. Don't get discouraged and I am glad that I failed. Weird...I know...There were a turn of awful events that took place in my life and it worked out for the best. Only God knows. We can see right now, but he can see until the end of time. Good luck!!
    why are you glad that you failed?