Hey Bipley.....

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Just wondering how breakfast with your co-worker went...thinking of you both.

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Specializes in Ortho, Med surg and L&D.
Might even be better if I hadn't referred to it as a "movement" (as in a BM) vs. her "move"!!!!!

Yes, I agree. It is natural for her to deny anything. That is why I handled it as I would have had she been my patient. I just held her hand and didn't argue.

I still feel bad about the entire conversation. Wish it was never necessary. She was totally humiliated. Sincerely, I'm not sure of any other approach to prevent her feelings, but it was true and I AM willing to help.

Bipely,

You did her a service and she already has a confidant and is no longer alone in this. Her doc that told her there was no odor...probably that it was in her head probably didn't see/smell her at a heavy time. BV, if that is what she has, fluctuates throughout the monthly cylcle. If she has something stronger then, you may have well saved her from cancer or some other danger.

Thank you for having the courage to help her.

Gen

p.s. any humilitation she may have felt will no doubt be replaced by major gratitude

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Seriously Bipley, this women is suffering emotionally and you reached out beyond the pettiness and are helping. I'm sure above anything else she needs a friend that isn't petty, judgemental, or thinking she's a nasty girl.

That says a lot about you.

Actually, I think this speaks well about all of us. I didn't know how to do this one. When I came here I really expected very few responses and I sure didn't expect the help I received. I expected people to be nasty and accuse me of just being mean. I sure didn't expect the "words" to use in my discussion with her or the research to find reasons for this problem.

When I got here and realized the other thread was closed I was verrrry angry because I can't do this one by myself. I wrote a mean PM to Blue Eyes (Sorry, Blue Eyes~) ... okay, maybe not mean but I was annoyed. She explained why and how the decision came to be to close the thread. Anyway, I was really frustrated because you guys had been a wealth of information and I doubt this issue has ended. There are going to be other scenarios that come up and I don't want to blow it, I want to be caring and considerate. Although I FEEL that way, I don't always present that way. Especially on line but you guys seem to see through that and get to the heart of the issue.

Bottom line, I didn't expect all the help and suggestions. 99% of them were positive! That speaks well of us all.

I did feel bad about two issues, especially. First one was that she apparently has had complaints and she believes if she doesn't get this under control she will lose her job. I can see that happening.

The other issue is that yesterday she asked if I would like to go out for coffee again sometime before work. Before I could say yes, I'd love to - she added that she promised to shower first so she wouldn't embarrass me. :crying2:

I assured she that she couldn't possibly embarrass me. We are going to meet again sometime next week.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Bipley, I get way annoyed when threads are closed. The mods and I have had a few discussions over the years. :)

I think it's great that she actually approached you and asked you out, that's pretty brave and shows she took you're talk well.

She may be the most interesting best friend you'll ever have because you say the person inside.

I agree that this site is an awesome sounding board to get real world advice.

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Bipley,

You make me proud! This girl probaby felt so alone before you came along. If she felt she was doomed to suffer this for the rest of her life, she may have even contemplated suicide. You could have very well saved her life! Thanks for being such a good friend to her. We need more people like you in this world! :)

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I'm so happy to hear that after going south, your conversation with your friend headed north again. Gosh, Bipley, we're all so proud of you. It takes a strong person of good character to choose kindness over comfort, and that's exactly what you did.

We all got a little crazy waiting to hear what happened, but, boy, was the outcome worth the wait.

Her life has to improve with all these fairy godparents (no offense to anyone) looking out for her over your shoulder. And we'll be looking after you, too.

This is the kind of Christmas story that genuinely warms my heart. It's not often you get to "eavesdrop" on someone who's making a real difference in another person's life.

Little did she know she was going to get Grand Slammed in such a nice way.

BTW, for the sake of making communication easier, could you give her a nickname?

Once again, we're very proud of you.

P.S. I'll pm you later.

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Specializes in LTC, HOSPICE, HOME, PAIN MANAGEMENT, ETC.
I must agree wholeheartedly. I'm certain that even for HER, it is a weight off her shoulders as well. Just knowing that she now has SOMEONE she can trust, confide in, and that this person is on her side. What a comforting feeling that must be to her.

The initial anger, hurt, and denial was certainly to be expected, and Bipley, you did the right thing in being still and allowing her to work through her initial reaction before you progressed. Good for you.

Again, I compliment you for your your concern for this shunned coworker, that you took the time to CARE, and offered your friendship and assistance.

This will stay with this person forever.. she will be eternally grateful, I'm sure.

Thank you for truly being a caring and compassionate human being, unafraid to step into the fray.. reachig out to another in all honesty and concern.

You are an example to be followed and a friend I would be proud to have. :kiss

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Bipley, you got so much great feedback that I don't know that I have anything else to add except that it is such a gift to have an honest friend who will dispense that honesty with love and gentleness. I also believe you may have saved her life!

Do you know how wonderful you are!

:yelclap: :flowersfo :smiley_aa :bowingpur :yeah: :bow:

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Now, Bipley, don't get a big head over this... :p :coollook:

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Specializes in Psych, Med/Surg, Home Health, Oncology.

Great Job, Bipley!!

you did GOOD!!

Mary Ann

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Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

Bipley,

Wow - great job! That was such a difficult situation and you handled it so well. I know I ticked a few people off (I can deal with it) on the previous thread (they let me know -LOL) by asking for a little less hilarity as a couple comments really bothered me, but I didn't mean to get your thread closed. That really stinks - ha ha!

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Specializes in Psych.
Bipley,

You make me proud! This girl probaby felt so alone before you came along. If she felt she was doomed to suffer this for the rest of her life, she may have even contemplated suicide. You could have very well saved her life! Thanks for being such a good friend to her. We need more people like you in this world! :)

I agree.:)

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You guys are all absolutely wonderful. Seriously, you are. I really don't think this issue is over yet, I think it is just the beginning but hopefully I am wrong.

Anyway, please beware, I will be back with more questions!

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I've been off of here for sooo many months...what ever happened with this?

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