Friend is sending FB requests to all ICU/ER nurses

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I have a friend/coworker that really wants to work in the ICU or the ER. She was thinking about looking up ALL the nurses at a hospital who work in any ICU or the ER and sending them a friend request on Facebook. This would mean sending hundreds of Facebook friend requests. She feels this may be a good way to network. I've told her that it is probably not a good idea. Nurses talk to each other, so they may pick up on her odd behavior, which could actually hurt her chances of ever landing one of these positions. Some may consider it to be stalking and report her to Facebook. Her account could be closed if she sends too many friend requests to people who don't know her or don't want her friend request. Her obsession with these positions and the people who work them is a bit excessive, really. Anyway, I haven't been able to convince her that this is a bad idea. I'm pretty sure she's already sent out Facebook requests to these people. What would you to say to someone like this?

Like my higher power (Forrest Gump) said:

"Stupid is as Stupid Does...."

I see no upside to this at all. It seems weird honestly

Specializes in Adult Primary Care.

I would probably distance myself from her!!!

It just seems odd that she works at the facility and doesn't even bother to just go to the unit and chat up a nurse or manager or something . I wouldn't see anything wrong about her just asking, "Hey, I'm very interested in the work you do here. Do you mind me asking how it is you got into this position? I think it's something I'd like to do down the road." There's nothing wrong about just asking general job information in person. However, the way she's going about it is just completely wrong.

Perhaps you can just let her know she would be better off seeking out somebody in charge of the unit and just doing a general inquiry in person. One person only. This way, she won't alienate herself to the whole facility (if she hasn't already done so by sending out 100's of Facebook requests).

I can see why you're friends with her. The only thing weirder than her plan is your over involvement with putting a stop to it.

I can see why you're friends with her. The only thing weirder than her plan is your over involvement with putting a stop to it.

Woah... harsh.

I can see why you're friends with her. The only thing weirder than her plan is your over involvement with putting a stop to it.

I wouldn't say that I'm being overly involved, just concerned that she may be making a poor choice that could negatively impact her future. I was simply looking for feedback that may dissuade her from making this decision. I also wanted to know if I was the only one who thought this wasn't the right move to be making. Ultimately, though, I know it is up to her, so if she does send those Facebook requests, if she hasn't already, she will have to live with the consequences.

I can see why you're friends with her. The only thing weirder than her plan is your over involvement with putting a stop to it.

I don't know that I would have said this as harshly, but I agree that there seems to be something a little off about this situation as described in the OP's posts. I have wondered if the OP, rather than wanting to protect her friend from negative consequences, would actually be upset if her friend ended up succeeding in getting her dream job by using FB as a tool, in effect leaving her "behind."

I might be overplaying the armchair psychologist role, but something just strikes me as odd about the whole thing, and it's not just the friend's behavior.

I don't know that I would have said this as harshly, but I agree that there seems to be something a little off about this situation as described in the OP's posts. I have wondered if the OP, rather than wanting to protect her friend from negative consequences, would actually be upset if her friend ended up succeeding in getting her dream job by using FB as a tool.

No, I wouldn't be upset. I just think she is more likely to do more damage to her career/reputation than good. I do agree that this is an odd situation, though, so I understand you questioning it. To be fair, though, this person has demonstrated odd-thinking in other situations, so there is that.

I would probably distance myself from her!!!

Chances are, I probably will, even if she backs off on this plan. She is a nice person, but her thinking can be off sometimes. I don't want anyone to think I condone her behavior, which is possible if they see that I'm closely associated with her.

Specializes in PICU.
I have wondered if the OP, rather than wanting to protect her friend from negative consequences, would actually be upset if her friend ended up succeeding in getting her dream job by using FB as a tool, in effect leaving her "behind."

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Hpwever, I cannot see how friending people on facebook to try and get a job in an ICU would land her a job.

Hpwever, I cannot see how friending people on facebook to try and get a job in an ICU would land her a job.

You never know. I have heard of stranger things.

Specializes in Pedi.

Does OP's friend remind anyone else of a certain past poster who was obsessed (unhealthily so) with getting a CVICU position?

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