Date my Doctor/Employer?

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Hi guys. I have a rather complicated story, but i'll make it short and sweet. I recently graduated with my BSN (just applied for the masters program :specs:) and just started seeing a neurologist for migraine/tension type headaches. However, when I first saw my doctor, I was blown away by him, but I would remain professional due to HIPAA and medical ethics codes. In a span of a month, I had seen him for routine appointments 5 times (I thought that was a little much). At my last appointment, he had asked if I would want a CRNP job working for him. But the way he asked made me get to thinking. First he called me from the exam room to his office, very professional. But once I got there, he pulled out "the doctors" chair for me to sit in, and he sat on the corner of his desk facing me to ask. So in my opinion, he was trying to "hit" on me, because he also knows that I just graduated and don't have my CRNP yet, not even close. I decline the offer, stating that I am happy where I am, but am very flattered. To end the story, my medication was doing fine, and he wanted to see me again in 3 weeks, and only wrote a month script for it. Got me thinking again. Last week, I was working out and saw him at my gym, and we exchanged looks, but kept it professional. He called to check in on me to make sure I wasn't having any worsening headaches, and I mentioned seeing him, and he wanted to work out next time we saw each other at the gym. So, from other nurse's insight, is he keeping just a professional relationship or wants more than that? I don't want to switch MD's if I don't have to. Any ideas on how to see if he wants to go out? :heartbeat

I've worked with, been a patient of, and dated many docs (that I worked with!). This is a little different, because I barely knew him in the work I did - infrequently seeing him (I did not work in same institution). Now I've been seeing him as a patient, and I feel an attraction blooming on my side (not sure about his - I kind of think so..) - but I'm well aware of the recent enforcement of ama rules concerning doctor/patient dating, and I don't know how that would apply in this situation. If he were interested in me, if these rules would keep him from pursuing a relationship outside of the doctor/patient one. I don't know if those rules would not apply since I knew him as a worker/nurse prior to the doctor/patient relationship starting. Agreed - friendship would also be very nice!

lcc1080 ......

Hey, you know what they say... Rules are made to be broken. If you both can be discreet about it, right? :p :rolleyes:

Your personal lives are both yours, what you both do in them -- are no one's business.

I know in the military, officers can not date enlisted personnel and vice versa. Of course, it happens. People who investigate these cases, thinking there IS a 'relationship,' usually end up empty-handed. They call these investigations 'standard procedure,' more like WASTE of time and money! lol.

empty-handed (LOL!). Imagine, maybe you finally meet the person of your dreams, and the AMA stands in the way! It's just that there seems to have been so much in the news recently about them coming down hard on MD's for this. I even read about them penalizing an MD that was in a relationship with an RN or NP, because it was found that he'd treated her for some minor condition a few mos before becoming an employee at the clinic. Like, don't these bureaucrats have anything better to do?!

Specializes in Peds/outpatient FP,derm,allergy/private duty.

Now you all have me wondering what happened to the OP and the neurologist, sighh. . .I hope they lived happily ever after. :redpinkhe :)

He confessed he was interested, referred her to another MD, and asked for her #. Ahhh- nice to hear of happy endings.

Is he cute?

To me he's very cute!

Specializes in OB-Gyn/Primary Care/Ambulatory Leadership.
Now you all have me wondering what happened to the OP and the neurologist, sighh. . .I hope they lived happily ever after. :redpinkhe :)

I know, me too!

Specializes in Gerontology, nursing education.
I say go for it! He's a doctor for god sakes. He's educated and is going to make a lot of money.

I'm sorry; I realize that some people say it's as easy to fall in love with a wealthy man as it is to fall in love with a poor one, but why should anyone date anybody else solely based on how much money one of the partners makes? Sounds rather callous and calculated to me.

I wonder if this was a troll post as we have heard nothing from the OP in almost a year here.

empty-handed (LOL!). Imagine, maybe you finally meet the person of your dreams, and the AMA stands in the way! It's just that there seems to have been so much in the news recently about them coming down hard on MD's for this. I even read about them penalizing an MD that was in a relationship with an RN or NP

I know, I really don't get that? I mean it's 2010, it's no one's business who we can or cannot date. As long as it doesn't interfere with anyone's responsibility/job. Oh, being discreet helps a lot :D Question though, how can anyone be able to prove that someone is violating a dating rule?

Will AMA be able to prove that though? I mean seriously, how can anyone say an MD is dating an RN/NP or even a patient? Rumors can point to the direction of what needs to be investigated but often, they can't prove anything. Rumors are just that, rumors. Unless, of course.... parties involved get 'caught in the act'.

By the way - what I meant by "eyeball flirting" was continuous eye contact w/my eyes for 15+ minutes, whether talking, listening, laughing or silent.

Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.

Is he married? If not, go ahead. But he should not be taking care of your medical issues. He should refer you to another physician.

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