Anyone Else Experience Mobbing?

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Hi~

I have been at my new job for over a year now and have become the victim of mobbing by my peers in the ICU where I work.

I have tried every approach with this but nothing has helped my situation. I am going to have to leave this job for it to end.

It has caused me to become depressed, anxious at times, and I have gained weight.

I have also seen mobbing occur at other units where I have worked. I am wondering how prevalent this is now among nurses.

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

Bigred,

I'm so sorry... just wipe the crap off your feet and move on!

ebear

Specializes in ICU,PCU,ER, TELE,SNIFF, STEP DOWN PCT.
This happened to me last week. For four years I have fought with management to provide quality care for patients and empower staff. :devil: Last week I was forced to resign by management because of ''a negative attitude.'' One of the last things I did was write my monitor tech a note praising her actions during a fatal rhythm. I was told I'm not a team player. They were right. I don't play games when patients' lives are on the line. When I do good. I never know how much good I do.

Hugs to you bIgRedRn. I know you will be missed:uhoh21:

Specializes in ED.

Wow - Weakankles- sorry to hear you are going through this. I hope you can get outta there fast - especially if you see that changing the atmosphere either through management channels or legally isn't going to work. BEST OF LUCK!!!

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I'd love to hear from some of the Nurses who engage in this behavior.

This is so prevalent, out of 241k people on this forum SOMEONE must have been a bully or been part of the MOB.

Why would you ever do this to a co-worker?

What did you get out of it?

How could you be stopped?

Or I'd love to hear from NM's:

Why do you tolerate this on your unit - even a single incident?

What have you gained from tolerating "mobbing?"

C'mon - fess up - you're obviously out there.

Specializes in M/S/Ortho/Bari/ED.

Get OUT Now!

mobbing and bullying is just the darker side of human nature. This happened to me last week, only now I know it is a TRUE phenomenon and not the figment of my imagination I've been tormenting myself with. Anyone that has been following my story knows that I found out in July that my husband and I were expecting. I had a devastating ectopic pregnancy and salpingectomy at the end of August, and surgery with and by the people I work with, an emotional mess in front of all of my co-workers, I was gone 6 weeks, came back to work. I very naively chose to believe that as a supervised preceptee; quietly trying to do the right job with honor and courtesy would always be enough, but if people decide you're weak or unacceptable somehow, you're out.

please leave so you don't have to explain why you were terminated. It's their problem not yours. The behavior will always be there, just take the higher road and find a place that you fit in!

I've heard that ORs tend to be brutal and dysfunctional type places, is this accurate? A friend of mine had very strange experiences when she trained to OR, she said they are all nuts, but that's hear say, although I've heard that before.

Yep - reading ebear's experience was like reliving my own. Friend went to OR at a different facility and found the same hateful attitudes.

Specializes in ER, ICU, L&D, OR.

I dont believe in mobbing

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

No, Tee, you'd just beat the crap out of them with a golf club!

Specializes in Operating Room.

Happened to me too-I didn't want to leave at first because i didn't want the jerks to win. But, I am happy where I am now and make more money(plus, they're union)so guess what, I won! Go elsewhere where you are appreciated.

Specializes in ED, ICU, PSYCH, PP, CEN.

Tom, please tell us why you don't believe in mobbing. I respect your opinion and am dying to know how you feel about this.

I have seen nurses do this to other nurses. And I have had it done to me, but I waited it out and had a good outcome. They got fired.

Specializes in Operating Room.
Yep - reading ebear's experience was like reliving my own. Friend went to OR at a different facility and found the same hateful attitudes.

We're not all hateful in the OR...I think it's more a generational thing and you have to have a strong manager who doesn't tolerate this behavior(they are out there) and yes, the OR can be a tense atmosphere.. You learn quickly not to take things personally-when a patient is going down the tubes, you don't always have time to monitor everyone's feelings. But if I realize I may have been terse or snappy with someone in the heat of the moment, I do seek that person out and apologize. PS..I'm also NOT nuts.:lol2:

Specializes in Operating Room.
It happened to me too several years ago. I was in orientation (O.R.) at a new hospital for 3 weeks. It was a rural hospital and apparently the nurses there felt extremely threatened by a "city" nurse. They made my life a living hell! I turned in my ID badge at lunchtime one day and walked out. I later found out that this happens all the time for any newcomers at that facility. I still cringe if I have to drive by the place!! HR sent me an exit interview to fill out--boy, did I FILL IT OUT! I understand that this issue can be addressed by an attorney these days. I was just too whipped to pursue it.

ebear

I went from a small community hospital to a teaching hospital and what a difference! I'm loving the challenge and it's nice to be in an OR where being enthusiastic and willing to learn and try new things is encouraged. Are there snippy people there? Sure. But so many more have been willing to teach and were very accepting. When I did my clinicals in school, I found many of the med/surg nurses to be beeyatches. But I know better than to think they're all like that. If I seem a little sensitive about this, it's just that I have worked with some really competent, compassionate and nice OR nurses in my day(I was a tech before). Just sticking up for my peeps!

Specializes in Med-Surg/Peds/O.R./Legal/cardiology.

Witchy,

I've worked with some GREAT O.R. nurses, too! There's a comradery among the staff that is not found in other departments. I guess the beeatches just stand out in a person's mind, especially when those attitudes are totally unjustified.

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