Any takers? Supressed sexual frustrations of husbands of Nurses... - page 2
After reading the thread about the jokes by Jay Leno and the comments. We do need to gain some thicker skin I agree but it reminded me of this dissertation "manuscript" this PHD is/was trying to sell... Read More
May 5, '01Occupation: Community Nurse Joined: May '00; Posts: 2,493; Likes: 93I just read the above, and I'm having hysterics! OMIGOD!! This is one sick puppy!
Actually, my hubby said it does upset him a bit to think that I often see male patients naked, but these days it's generally to look after perineal abcesses and pilionidal cysts...and NOOBODY'S even remotely thinking about sex when you're packing one of those!!
Haven't these two cuckoo birds got something better to do with their time?!!
May 5, '01Occupation: nursing home staff nurse Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 11This is way beyond funny....Then again its really really sick. Umm I cant see how disimpacting someone or putting in a cath. can be sexual for the pt. or the nurse doing it. Maybe she should preform some of those nursing duties on her husband, maybe he will change his mind. Then again if he is as sick as he sounds he may like it. OMG I dont even want to think about that. Sick Sick Sick
May 5, '01Occupation: DOULA / NURSE LPN HIV/AIDS Educator Joined: Apr '01; Posts: 340; Likes: 9Greetings All Nurses,
I recieved this as a response to my e mail here is the reply.
Thanks for responding to our manuscript. Of course, I expect that you and your nursing colleagues find this manuscript offensive. Did you think I was so naive as to expect you to agree with it? Nurses have a different view of the situation compared to the non-clinician husbands, who are "left in the parking lot", so to speak. They don't really know what goes on the hospital. But they do know that male patients can sometimes enjoy the attentions of a pretty young nurse, even if the nurse herself is desentized and feels nothing about the sexual overtones of her tasks. And, by the way, even if the husband believes that his wife is desensitized, he knows she had to get that way.....by having repeated exposure to sexually intense situation with other men. Think about that, and try to take yourself out of your nursing role for a minute and look at the situation from the point of view of a young non-clinician husband who has just married a beautiful young nurse, and drives her to work every morning...wondering how many men are going her attentions that day in the hospital....
Peace be with you also.....
----- Original Message -----
From: Jami Ullman, LPN
Sent: Saturday, May 05, 2001 12:01 PM
Subject: Husbands of Nurses
May 5, '01Occupation: Legal Nurse Consultant/Defense Med Mal Specialty: 30 year(s) of experience in OB, M/S, ICU, Neurosciences ; Joined: Dec '00; Posts: 398; Likes: 19Despite my concealment, I expected Damon to be loving and faithful to me in our marriage. He held me at night as my husband wanting to be my true sexual partner but feeling that I was not holding up my end of the arrangement. I'm sure it was very painful for him and continues to be. I did love Damon but maintained a shallowness in our relationship in not sharing all of my life with him. I put my nursing career first and my marriage second. He did remain faithful and only saw my body while I saw hundreds of men's bodies in the clinical setting. I wanted the job and I also wanted Damon's complete love without sharing my nursing experiences with him. I was caught up in the power of being a nurse and society's dictate that what nurses do is okay and that everyone, including my husband, just had to accept it.
May 5, '01Occupation: LTC Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 3,254; Likes: 54Well I've got to tell you. I inserted a foley cath(18F/5cc balloon) this morning while the Dr pushed IV Lasix and the pt surely wasn't jumpin' all over me. Maybe I should have used a 28F, yeah, that might have done it!!! LMAO....
May 5, '01Occupation: RN, Inpatient Hospice Specialty: 17 year(s) of experience in Hospice, Critical Care ; From: US ; Joined: Oct '00; Posts: 1,664; Likes: 177[QUOTE]...look at the situation from the point of view of a young non-clinician husband who has just married a beautiful young nurse, and drives her to work every morning...wondering how many men are going her attentions that day in the hospital.... Damon]
OK...so I asked my non-clinician husband..do you worry about how many men are going to receive my attention in the hospital? That I may be fantasizing about them while I am caring for their naked, male bodies? That I may be concealing sexual matters or sexual thoughts about my male patients?
My husband looked at me like I am a crazy person. "No," he said "why would I?" (You really should have seen the look on his face.) I explained the theory behind the book. He looked increduluous and stated he never thought of it that way and no, he has never worried about his wife and naked male patients.
So there, author Damon. Fellow female nurses, I invite you to ask your husbands/significant others the same. Be interested to see their reactions.
May 5, '01Occupation: Licenced Practical Nurse, Long Term Care. Certified wacko. Captain Star Command. Sous Chef, Sculpter,maid, Cert. Butt wiper,secret agent,thief,Level Seven Mage.Lover, hater,musician at large.Starving artist, ME ME ME ME ME Joined: Feb '01; Posts: 1,631; Likes: 44Sexual Frustration... hmm...
Perhaps from my point of view, yes, sexual frustration(and many other frustrations) are related to work.
For anyone who is insecure, well.. figure, would you be feeling anything sexual about parts you would be shoving assorted tubes into? Sorry.. not me... not my boat...
Well... figure that maybe my S.O. (if I had one at the moment... boohoo) might have some frustration... Why??? well... lets try rotating shifts at work, school (full time), a cranky partner coming home who doesnt want to be touched thanks to being in a grimy hospital dealing with crackpots, and PIA's ALL DAY LONG??!!!???
AND HE HAS THE NERVE TO SAY HE'S FRUSTRATED?!
hmm... thats just my humble opinion...
I could be wrong...
May 5, '01Occupation: Patient Education Specialty: 7 year(s) of experience in LDRP; Education ; Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 7,470; Likes: 56Or...as Jack Nicholson said...
Go sell crazy somewhere else - we are all sold out here.
May 5, '01Occupation: Nurse Clinician/Case Manager Specialty: 20 year(s) of experience in Pediatric Rehabilitation ; From: US ; Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 2,830; Likes: 67Me and my coworkers polled our spouses (male and female). Consensus being, this guy and his wife have major problems. My husband reacted much like zee said of her husband. Then he added for humor, "hell, if you gotta do those things, i figure better to work off your hostility on another man than on me". He was joking, of course.
May 5, '01Occupation: LPN Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 22; Likes: 3sick, sick, sick, it reads like cheap porn. This couple clearly knows nothing about nursing. Sounds like their plan to make a few bucks off the book. I'm just trying to figure out who they plan on marketing it to? Certainly not nurses. I read it and to me it says blah blah blah, blah blah blah blah. It's ridiculous.
May 5, '01Occupation: LPN Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 22; Likes: 3to last post: I read excerpts! I wouldn't waste my time1 but what do you think about suing the ANA for discrimination against LPNS?more interesting topic/
May 5, '01Occupation: RN - Neurosciences Joined: Mar '01; Posts: 7The only "space program" Damon is working on is the space between his ears. His "pretty, young" wife should have her license revoked...there both freakin nuts!
May 5, '01Occupation: RN Joined: Oct '00; Posts: 337; Likes: 5LOL,LOL,LOL! ROTFLMAO!!! This is the funniest thing I have read in quite a while. But I guess there will always be some huckster shoveling $hit and some idiot willing to pay him for it!
This guy has obviously found himself a new porno theme and just may get rich selling it to "young white (and every other kind of!) males" who will use it to get off and fantasize about being married to "young, white (and every other kind of!) nurses". I actually must admit it is a novel approach, but otherwise reads like any excerpt from any "bodice ripper" novel I have ever read! (Does anyone actually READ those things?). The quote about the nuns was really hysterical!! Book two may just be about how nuns who were sexually repressed became nurses instead of teachers!
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