Ahh, drama. Please help me out!

[raindrop]

Ok Ladies and Gents,

I feel so goofy posting this, but here I go.

A week ago I put in my resignation at work. Oh man, my manager was a total snot face about it. I expected her to be that way because that is how she is about most things. I put my resignation in because I landed a Federal Job 4 hours away.

Well, after I put in my resignation, the Federal job called and said they had some bad news. My start date won't be until 2 months from now because of XYZ.

I called my manager and asked if I could still work on her unit. I didn't tell her I will be quitting again in 2 months, I just asked to take my 2 weeks notice back. She did.

Well, a couple days later, I got another call from the Fed Job and as it turns out, I can start in a month. They were able to get things expedited, blah blah blah. I told them how unfiar this is to my soon-to-be old employer, but I didn't want to rock the cradle too much because I am really looking forward to a nice salary with every weekend and holiday off and the excellent benefits.

So now, I have to put in another resignation. I am only giving 2 weeks again because I have to be out of my apartment by the end of the month and I need time to move the distance, get settled in my new community, etc.

I am going to send my manager an email, and I think I will also call after I know that she's read it. She is going to blow fire at my name. What should I say in my email? Should I call her also? If yes, what should I say when I call her and she is being nasty to me? She can't give me a bad reference over this can she?

[Whispera, MSN, RN]

Depending on your relationship with your current boss, I'd agree with the prior post. Most managers understand such situations and aren't monsters!

[elkpark]

Frankly I don't think you've done anything wrong. I would go to your manager in person, as others have suggested. All you have to do is be honest with them. It's your manager's responsibility to act like an adult in this situation, that burden lies not on you. Retaliation (in any form) is illegal, remember that.

It's not the OP's responsibility to act like an adult??? How do you figure that?

As for retaliation being illegal, there are lots of ways that previous employers can screw you over without doing or saying anything they could ever get in trouble for. I watched one previous boss screw over a (previous) co-worker on many job references (over the telephone) without saying anything wrong -- but it was the way she didn't say anything wrong; she clearly gave the impression to the potential employers calling her that this guy was bad news. He hadn't even done anything wrong -- she had just decided she didn't like him (she was kinda crazy in a number of way) ...

[raindrop]

Wait a minute here, how am I not acting like an adult? I am doing everything the right way. It is not my fault that I have been put in the situation. I have a FEDERAL job lined up. The FEDERAL job is my future, my manager is NOT. If you would have read my 2nd post you would see that I clearly stated if it were up to me, I would have liked to give a one month notice to my manager, but then I would owe 1600 to my landlord since he will only go every 2 months with me. I am not going to screw myself. I gave my 2 weeks notice, that is all I am obligated to give, especially given that I am an AT WILL employee.

[elkpark]

Wait a minute here, how am I not acting like an adult? I am doing everything the right way. It is not my fault that I have been put in the situation. I have a FEDERAL job lined up. The FEDERAL job is my future, my manager is NOT. If you would have read my 2nd post you would see that I clearly stated if it were up to me, I would have liked to give a one month notice to my manager, but then I would owe 1600 to my landlord since he will only go every 2 months with me. I am not going to screw myself. I gave my 2 weeks notice, that is all I am obligated to give, especially given that I am an AT WILL employee.

Was your post directed at me? I apologize if I gave the impression that I was saying you weren't acting like an adult (not my point) -- I was only responding to the previous poster who said it was the nurse manager's responsibility to act like any adult, not yours. I was puzzled by that statement.

[raindrop]

Was your post directed at me? I apologize if I gave the impression that I was saying you weren't acting like an adult (not my point) -- I was only responding to the previous poster who said it was the nurse manager's responsibility to act like any adult, not yours. I was puzzled by that statement.

Yea, I thought that was a jab to me.

I just found this out last night about my manager - anytime someone puts a transfer in, she hits the ceiling. She goes on a power trip and will hold that person on the unit for as long as possible. One nurse put in for a transfer and announced that HR told her that it normally takes 2-3 weeks before the transfer can take place. My manager, with a smirk, said "It is not HR's decision. I am the one who will release you when I am ready". I can just see her saying that all malicious. So then, our manager tried putting a hold on the transfer for 6 months. HR then intervened and said no, 2-3 weeks. That the other unit needs her to start in 2-3 weeks and it is up to our manager to either begin hiring people or making the unit more appealing to ppl who may want to transfer here. So our manager had no choice but to let her go in 3 weeks, but here is the kicker: Her 3rd and final week on our unit, our manager told her to not come in. She is not needed anymore. She had to take PTO time for 2 of her 12 hours shifts that week. How is that for a nice manager?

I don't feel bad abot this anymore. I have done things by the books. Not the ideal way, but by the books nonetheless.

[tpanative]

It's not the OP's responsibility to act like an adult??? How do you figure that?

I never told OP that they were being childish, in fact I find them highly responsible for reaching out to us for advice on how to handle the situation properly.

As far as retaliation goes. If OP has consistently received good reviews, has consistently gotten along with his/her co-workers, and has consistently been a team player...and all the sudden starts seeing the bottom of the gavel...well a decent labor attorney will see right through the managers games.

[Daytonite, BSN, RN]

Take a leave of absence at the time your new job begins. That keeps your employment with the old job on the hook for a while along with your benefits. The hospital will pay you out your vacation and sick time. Eventually, they will need to know if you are coming back. After a couple of months send them a letter of resignation. You'll have figured out an excuse for quitting by then. Also, by then, your manager will have filled your position anyway.

[showbizrn]

hand-in your written resignation

with 2-weeks notice

and

do your thing!

you have every right

to change your life

for the better.

and since you're not

breaking any hr guidelines.

live-it up!!!

you've got

nothing

to feel guilty about.:loveya: