A disgruntled ex calling the bon on me.

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I have one question. A former ex of mine got angry at me one day and said that he was calling the board of nursing on me and make up lies about me. He says he is telling them about my "hobbies"(sexual activities).

My question is can my license be suspended for that? I hope this isn't asking a stupid question but I really don't know how to handle it and it wouldn't have crossed my mind to even ask such a thing until he said that.

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well, fight fire with fire. if there is someone you can report him to, do the same to him for report false or malicious charges against you. don't do it until you get contacted by the bon though. he may have been just trying to anger you because i seriously doubt being promiscuous (not saying you are) could cause you to lose your license. i mean unless it was with patients under your care or something.

by the way, your ex is a complete idiot. don't stress over it too much, people like him get theirs in the end.

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I'd say if he gives them "info" that is not accurate you can sue him for slander!!! And what "sexual activites" does this lovely ex of yours think the BON is going to be concerned about? I mean unless the behavior is at work wth patients or something! lol

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Specializes in ER, Trauma.

1. Get a lawyer (sorry to have to say that) 2. Keep any emails or proof you have of his threats. 3. In some states ANY information the state board has on you is available to the public. Even medical information normally confidential becomes public when you fill out license renewal forms (sucks, huh).

Honestly, I suspect any information the cretin tries to give the board will be seen for what it is and discarded, but the steps above will go a long ways to CYA.

I'm sure there will be more helpful posts as I doubt there's a living human being wihtout something in the past best kept secret. We're all just human.

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I would not reccommend you 'getting even' as suggested. THAT could cause you problems. False accusations can land you with legal charges. He could sue you for slander. Don't stoop to his level. If you want the BON to think you are a professional then you have to act like one.

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Specializes in ICU./CCU/SICU.

Sometimes, I disagree with the BON's anonymous complaint policy....for this very reason, some crazy ex, white-trash neighbor, or anyone with an ax to grind can try to ruin your career.. Shouldn't you have the right to face your accuser?

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You should file a police report, harassment and threats are illegal and you should document with the proper authorities that way if you are contacted by the BON you can send them a copy of your police report.

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But can the bon suspend my license or contact my job due to the morality of it?(As in us nurses are supposed to be upright citizens with superior morals and ethics and behavior,etc. I hope you guys understand what I'm saying.

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I am not sure we are all clear what it is you are worried about this ex telling the BON. I mean is he saying he is going to tell them lies--make stuff up about you? Or do you just not want them to know what it is that he is saying he is going to share with them? I mean what are you working as a prostitute as a second job or what? lol Again if the info he shares is accurate then there is nothing you can do legally likely. Its only illegal and slanderous if the info is NOT accurate.

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Was the behaviour the ex planning to report a threat to public safety, illegal, or a violation the nurses code of ethics? If not, the BON will likely consider the complaint vexatious, but I agree with dythfter's suggestion to talk to a lawyer. A lawyer will make you aware of your rights and how you should respond if you receive do notice of the complaint.

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I dont think the BON is interested in your numerous sexual activities. Unless you are sleeping with all yo patients.....

I would file a police report. And if he does report you, then get a lawyer .

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.
well, fight fire with fire. if there is someone you can report him to, do the same to him for report false or malicious charges against you. don't do it until you get contacted by the bon though. he may have been just trying to anger you because i seriously doubt being promiscuous (not saying you are) could cause you to lose your license. i mean unless it was with patients under your care or something.

by the way, your ex is a complete idiot. don't stress over it too much, people like him get theirs in the end.

uhhhh, no. please don't fight fire with fire. fight fire with might.

first, don't believe the threats unless/until they happen. calmer heads always prevail.

second, if threats happen, find an attorney as previously suggested and look for remedies against the boyfriend.

third, don't ever lower yourself to his standard of behavior.

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