29 year old husband has brain tumor - page 2

my husband was just diagnosed with a brain tumor and will have a crani on the 21st.. after the incision heals he will begin chemo and radiation.. we have two children ages 5 and 3, who witnessed him... Read More

  1. by   Just Angi
    My prayers are with you. My niece just had one removed. She is 10 years old. She came through the surgery well and is doing therapy to regain strength on her left side. We have not found out yet whether it is over or not. I hope and pray for your family and our that both of theirs are benign. My thoughts are with you. If you want to you can PM me anytime.
  2. by   MissdonditaBsn

    I feel for you. My father died 2 1/2 years ago from a glioblastoma. If you ever, EVER need to talk please feel free to pm me. I am here for you if you need it.

    I will be praying for you and for your children!!!!!!!!!!!

  3. by   Freshman RN
    Don't forget to ask for help. People always say if there is anything I can do please let me know....... Time is always a big problem but if they could cook a dinner... I knew a lady once that her best friend just assigned us chores, dinners, errrands and we did them, we felt useful and were providing a great service to our friend.
  4. by   traumaRUs
    Prayers and gentle hugs...judi
  5. by   Anagray
    What a difficult situation. wish your family all the best and lots of strength for you.
    I know only one person who had 2 tumors and has been living a normal life for the last 2 years. She had to have chemo and radiation, but she really made it like trooper.
    Your husband is young, I think he will do well.
    as far as your kids..
    Maybe it sounds stupid, but I have actually benefited from being traumatized from early childhood with various things including sickness and death. I don't know if my best qualities would be present if I did not learn about what human suffering is early on.
    Of course, it is best not to go through what I went through, but kids are resilient and very smart. Just talk to your kids, and remember that u can not alway be strong and falling apart some days is just human.
    You teach them how to laugh and how to be happy, I think kids also need to know how to deal with fear and sadness, because sometimes the hard times do not wait for us to grow up.
    good luck!!
  6. by   CCL"Babe"
    Dear Friend...I wish I HAD words of wisdom for you. I don't. I DO send lots of love and wishes for comfort during this time of trauma for you and yours... it will not be easy. Know that we care and are here for you. I'm sure others here will be able to give you the wise council you seek. Warm , positive thoughts and prayers being sent your way. ((( )))
    I can't say it any better.
  7. by   psychonurse
    I have no words except to let you know that I will be praying for you and your family. Cancer is such a nasty word I have lost both my parents to it and my brother had Non-Hodkins lymphoma so I know how you are feeling. I will pray for good news and a complete recovery for your husband.
  8. by   moonchild20002000
    Oh I am so sorry this is happening to your family. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers. I don't have any words of wisdom except come here any time you need to talk. We care.
  9. by   cactus wren
    Have a friend who had been c/o of ha, not severe, just annoying. One day a MRI tech noticed a droopy eye. Talked him
    into getting one, next week was having surgery. Now several years, is doing well, back to work, Did have a spell of double vision afterwards and this has resolved.

    Kepping good thoughts and prayers going your way...
  10. by   Hidi74
    Wow....what a hard thing to have to go thru. I send you all my thoughts and prayers tonight and thereafter. I don't have any advice except to love him and your kiddos w/ all your heart and to take care of yourself also!!! You will need the strength.....Always feel free to come hear with any thing!!! We are here for you and if you just need a prayer....I am your gal!!!
  11. by   jaystrupp
    i thank you for all the kind words.. i know that it is going to be a long haul, but it is so worth it for our children.. nurses are the best.. my work has been nothing but understanding and i have so much support from friends and family, but it is still hard.. somedays i feel like there are no tears left and then i find myself crying uncontrollably... other days i am still in a fog..i know understand how patients feel..
  12. by   kids
    Originally posted by ozzie sue
    ...Find out as much as you can re the type of tumour and it parculiar characteristics - that may help. be strong, chin up and good luck
    My thoughts also. As a nurse you will likely pick up the "worst case senerio" in everything you read but at the same time the knowlege is comforting...I would suggest researching the types of tumors, tx modalities, commonly used drugs etc. A good starting point is www.cancer.org

    My Mom passed due to non-small cell lung ca on 2/28, I know learning everything I could about it helped me a great deal...deffinately made me feel less powerless about it all.
    Last edit by kids on Mar 9, '03
  13. by   NursieRN
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We
    are all here for you if you want to talk or vent any time.