FIRED!!! OMG what do I do now?

[mtnmom]

I have today resigned by mutual agreement from my new dialysis position of 6 wks. The nurse firing me says that she knew with my background that I probably would not make it and thinks they just hired me b/c they needed a body with an RN license (in so many words)

IT is in some ways a relief b/c it was a very toxic and unprofessional environment in my opinion...I still tried very hard and loved my pts and wanted it to work!!! I am bitter somewhat that I let myself be lured away from a stable job and good money just for the promise of a better schedule (which by the way was not what I was initially promised)

Now I have to look for a job, as primary breadwinner (my husband has a very low-paying job) I cannot just sit on my hind end and cry about it. There is no time for that.

I have never had anything like this happen and I have been in the work force since I was a teenager 30+ years....if you can spare a prayer or a good thought for me please do.

And I just realized it is Friday the 13th. That has never been a problem day before, but this morning I came SOOO close to hitting a deer, almost wiped out for good. Should have known the rest of the day would not be better.

Lord, give me strength (and a job!)

[kersti]

I wish you all the best!

Like everybody else has said already: you are such a positive person and maybe this will be the oppurtunity for something really wonderful to happen.

Keep us updated, please.

[RNZenpeaceful]

Hello there,

My heart goes out to you, as I most certainly know what it is like to be the breadwinner (I am a single parent of 3 who actaully has had my license suspended for 3 years, due to narcotic addiction/devastating health problem)

You should have absolutely NO problem in finding another position; my guess is that you will find a better-paying, non-toxic position. I am praying for you! And I hope that you will not only like your new job much better; you may even end up loving it! Call your nearby hospital or use a website such as this one to find a new job. Good luck!

[carolinapooh, BSN, RN]

I think your husband is just scared - "what will we do now?" My dad used to react to stuff the same way; it wasn't that he wasn't concerned, he was worried. I know you really need his support right now, but just let him see that you will all be OK and you'll get through this, and I think he'll come around.

My husband would be sympathetic at first, then he'd get distant while he went "away" to think stuff out. Maybe it's just his way, too.

Good luck - keep us posted. We're all behind you!

[Antikigirl, ASN, RN]

Hugs and prayers from me!

I too was told at a job by a screaming Nurse manager I had never met, when she questioned me about missing days I didn't..."if you quit...you will NEVER work in nursing again!". I simply said with all honesty...if this is what I will have to go through for my career I worked so hard to get...then so be it, best to end it now than keep going on miserable and mistreated!". I pretty much think I shocked her big time..and I left that day never to return!

It took time, but I did manage to get another job! Days seemed like weeks in fact, but it will come. Just have to hit the pavement hard, or like this last time for me (I left a job where I could not advance and they dropped my days to 8-9 a week) I started working agency and love it! I get to pick my days, pick my hours, pick my facility...I love this freedom, and I can be a mom for my children again (and a wife to my hubby too...he is loving that! LOL!).

Good luck to you, and remember there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, and always an adventure going through, and looking back :).

[CseMgr1, ASN, RN]

thanks to all who have replied. The worst part of all of this is having to deal with my husband. Rather than be sympathetic or show support he is angry with me. We are not in the best financial shape so I'm sure the stress of that is making his reaction worse (plus he always flies off the handle initially and then calms down)

I have one interview next week, waiting to hear about another one, and am scheduled for 2 agency shifts each of the next 2 weeks.

I might have to drop out of school but hopefully not. Right now I just want to find time to have a good cry.

It does help to know you all are out there behind me. Thanks and love to you all. keep your prayers coming. they will have to help.

Remind your husband that YOU were the one who got fired and NOT him, OK?

I can sympathize with the loss of your job. I had another job lined up on December 27th after my temporary job ended on December 15th. They gave me the boot after I had only worked 6.15 hours, telling the recruiter that I didn't know what I was doing. I felt as if I had been kicked in the stomach, for I knew I was qualified to do that job. I've found another job, but in not enough time to save my home. What the hell (excuse my French)..it's just a house, and I'm counting my losses and moving ON to better things. You will, too!

[Nat_gagui]

My prayer goes with you, i have a saying that for every door(opportunity) that close there is another one Opening.

Just my 2 cents

Nat

[Antikigirl, ASN, RN]

Ohhhhhh I know that hubby thing! We too are in serious financial trouble, and if I don't get at least 4 days per week...well I feel stressed about something I can't do much about...and he feels scared! No matter how many times we discuss the issues as being not our faults...the stress is there and in full! (it is hard for my area to get more than 3 days a week on a good week).

I just make sure he knows that I am looking for employement, and right away if I am scheduled for work. My work schedule is in plain view on the fridge so we know what is going on...and I have called our bills and figured out some payment plans to help us out a bit...which was something he was a bit to proud to do...

Then, I reminded him that we were a team, and needed team time to settle down a bit, and just enjoy eachothers company..then after that...we could sit down as partners in all of this and get a game plan going! So we spent a day (Sunday) to watch movies with the kids, and some private time for ourselves...then Monday (he has Mondays off and I wasn't scheduled) and went over a game plan holding hands and assuring ourselves that we can do this!

Hope that too helps...it is rough...I know...but together is the way to work it out and reminding eachother in a loving way that you are a partnership in this..well that seems to help emotionally :)...

[hbncns35]

I would look at it as a learning experience.....

Look at it as what you learned and what you could have done differently and what you might do in the future if something like this happens again.

Sometimes after a situation is over I will think of all the things I could have said. Then you just have to take the situation for what it was.

Some people say you should be honest about the situation when talking to the next employer. It's good to give right info but better to just say "It wasn't the right fit" and leave it at that......There are websites about this just google Nursing Interview Questions.

I wish you the best of luck and it sounds like all the other posters did a good job in building you up. We know you'll make it!!!!

Heather

[KatieBell]

Oooph. It's never a good feeling to lose a job. But something good can come of it, can the agency schedule you for a few more shifts?

Best Wishes, something will work out.

[steelcityrn, RN]

Don't worry about anything, sounds like that job was dangerous and too much stress. Better days ahead, and a better door will open, you'll see:)

[shellygirl]

I know today seems horrible. But maybe there is something better waiting for you, and if you had stayed at that job you might not find what you were destined to have. Good Luck!

[Angels']

mtnmom

I am sorry that you have all these problems. I am praying for you that all is going well with and for you and your family.

:) I wish you all student nurses, and their families, the best in your nursing careers. :)

A Pre-Nursing Student :)

Angels’

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