Female vs male patients

[qaz99]

Does anyone else 'prefer' male patients to female patients?

When I get assigned a room of elderly female patients, I know I'm in for a heavy shift. Compared to the males, they moan/are pedantic over little things, take twice as long to do everything, seem to be more susceptible to delirium/suffer the symptoms of dementia more than males (obviously not their fault). But can also be cranky and refuse care.

Whereas with elderly males, in my experience, they're easy going, allow you to do observations without a fuss etc, still have some sense of humour despite their alzheimers/dementia diagnosis, talk to me in a respectful way. And I can relate to them easier as at 90yrs old, they can still hold an interesting conversation, and even throw in funny one liners. But the 65yr old female will either be extremely difficult to interact with or nitpick.

Hope I don't sound bitter or anything. I'm not saying I dislike or hate caring for these patients, obviously they're in pain or really ill which affects how they interact. Just find it interesting how easy going elderly male patients can be compared to the females.

[Conqueror+, BSN, RN]

Little old ladies are the worst and no one wants to take care of them, but you're sick of hearing that one gender is better?

Uh huh.

Hence my statement that one is not better or superior, just different. If I want something meticulous done I prefer a woman to do the job. Not because women are better than men, just different. While their differences can play out as more or less desireable in a given situation, I don't see it as a liability or a fault, just a difference.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

Hence my statement that one is not better or superior, just different. If I want something meticulous done I prefer a woman to do the job. Not because women are better than men, just different. While their differences can play out as more or less desireable in a given situation, I don't see it as a liability or a fault, just a difference.

In your quote below, you state that "In LTC, LOL's are the worst," and then go on to say that "In corrections we would often trade to have 2-3 male units to avoid having just one female unit."

To me, that says you find caring for females "the worst" and that you would often trade assignments to get out of taking care of them. And now you say that the genders are "just different", and that you hate seeing people complain about how one gender is better or worse. Maybe your writing skills or your English is not up to conveying the idea of "different" as opposed to "better or worse", but you flat out said that you find caring for older women "the worst" and now you say you didn't say that.

In long term care LOL's are the worst. Every hairpin and jar of cold cream has to be "just so". In corrections we would often trade to have 2-3 male units to avoid having one female unit. I have found that women are just more complex and emotional by nature and this translates to caring for them.

[Conqueror+, BSN, RN]

In your quote below, you state that "In LTC, LOL's are the worst," and then go on to say that "In corrections we would often trade to have 2-3 male units to avoid having just one female unit."

To me, that says you find caring for females "the worst" and that you would often trade assignments to get out of taking care of them. And now you say that the genders are "just different", and that you hate seeing people complain about how one gender is better or worse. Maybe your writing skills or your English is not up to conveying the idea of "different" as opposed to "better or worse", but you flat out said that you find caring for older women "the worst" and now you say you didn't say that.

I am not sure how insulting my English or writing skills plays into an internet post but okay. I agree I did say those things about corrections and little old ladies. It doesn't make them bad people and it doesn't make them inferior to men just different I'm sorry if that doesn't make sense to you. I also certainly don't go around work commenting on female patients this is an internet board.

[DTWriter]

Ugh. This thread reminds me of that useless transgender bathroom bill ;P

Female. Male. IMO, it does not matter. When I was a student nurse, I had "bad" female patients and "bad" male patients for a number of reasons :/

[KelRN215, BSN, RN]

If we're talking about adults, I prefer neither. I'll take the kids any day- they whine way less than any adult I've ever met.

[Nurse Leigh]

If we're talking about adults, I prefer neither. I'll take the kids any day- they whine way less than any adult I've ever met.

But most of the kiddos come with adults as their parents or caregivers. I'm guessing those grown-ups aren't always a joy to deal with. I can see how many of your young patients are probably better at dealing with their situations and why you'd prefer it.