when you feel creeped out

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Another reason I would like to be a nurse is I love to help people, I know that sounds cliché but I'm actually really good at taking care of people, I'm nurturing and kind. But I can't stand the sleazy scumbag guy. I was wondering if a patient makes you uncomfortable can you refuse care?

What if it goes against "your sincerely held beliefs" like the current slippery slope laws in Mississippi and other states? Just wondering what everyone thinks about that here

I'm not there for me. I'm there for my patients. Unless I feel unsafe, I suck it up.

When I worked in the group homes I got beat up really badly. I stayed for my shift, and came back the next day.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

I guess I have a hard time understanding people who come into nursing not knowing they will deal with ALL kinds in their career. And that whole "sincerely held belief thing"???? They should stick it. Why be a nurse if you are going to have "sincerely held beliefs" that prevent you from sharing the load?

NO ONE likes to deal with creepy, manipulative people. In the hospital, we shared the wealth and if they were there multiple days, multiple nurses cared for them. They are exhausting and distracting and everyone should share the load.

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I'm not there for me. I'm there for my patients. Unless I feel unsafe, I suck it up.

When I worked in the group homes I got beat up really badly. I stayed for my shift, and came back the next day.

I agree with you 100%!

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I agree with you 100%!

I'm feeling a little creeped out... :woot:

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I'm feeling a little creeped out... :woot:

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When men get creepy I immediately redirect the conversation to their bowel movements. Removes all the sexy talk.

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When men get creepy I immediately redirect the conversation to their bowel movements. Removes all the sexy talk.

Except that one guy...

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Specializes in Reproductive & Public Health.

My first major creep out was as a newly minted CNM, and I walked in to see my male patient furiously jerking. He looks up and tells me he thought he should "work up a stiffy" so I could see the bumps better. But that patient actually just turned out to be high as a kite (which he disclosed to me out of fear it would interfere with the meds I prescribed him) and just out of touch with reality. Not a creep, just a drug addled guy really worried about that bump. Poor kiddo, LOL.

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Specializes in Reproductive & Public Health.
When men get creepy I immediately redirect the conversation to their bowel movements. Removes all the sexy talk.
Except that one guy...

Omg, like the patient I had who REQUESTED a prostate exam, "just to be sure everything is okay." Umm....no.

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Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).

I am not quite sure I understand what actual behavior you are describing. What do you mean by "serial killerish" ? By all accounts from the people who new Richard Ramirez like his neighbors in San Francisco - He had all the appearance of a nice guy; clean cut, quiet, polite, helped bring his elderly neighbors trash cans in and out on trash day etc.... I have taken care of plenty of people who kind of gave me the creeps but it was more perception that actual response to behavior. Having worked psych I can usually put most folks in their place by setting boundaries quickly and therapeutically and all with a smile on my face.

Hppy

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Occasionally a special nurse comes along who thinks they shouldn't have any difficult patients ...but it's not fair that the other staff get more than their fair share of difficult patients so that the special nurse has none.

Occasionally a patient comes along that things nurses should have to submit to sexual harassment or assault. It's not fair that they are allowed to commit assault and battery while their nurses are told being violated is just part of the job.

It depends on the situation. If a guy is giving you creepy vibes, there's not much you can do. If a guy is making explicit sexual comments or attempting to touch you, document the patient's exact words and behavior. Tell the patient that behavior is not acceptable and document if he responds with ongoing inappropriate language or behavior. Document, document, document. I don't know the details of this situation, but no one should have to put up with sexual harassment just to have a job. Many facilities have a written zero tolerance policy regarding sexual harassment; it would behoove you to get a copy of said policy.

I haven't gotten to the point where I refused a patient assignment, but I've known a time or two when a nurse did, and I stand behind their decisions. We are human beings.

Oh, and whatever coworker or manager tells you it's not a big deal, maybe that's the person who should take that patient's assignment.

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Except that one guy...

The guy who kept yelling "DEEPER" over and over as I was inserting his bisacodyl suppository. He often had "constipation" and I lucked out that no one had charted his BMs for several days and could not refuse on the usual basis of regular BMs and soft nontender abdomen with normoactive bowel sounds. I'm still not clean.

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